I know exactly how it feels to feel like you're doing all the work, and that everything you love about the relationship would fall apart if not for you. At this point you have to ask, why put in all this effort?
You said that you feel this way even when you two are happy. So obviously you two enjoy being with each other.
Evaluate what you get out of it. Now don't just be a petty femcel being lazy specifically to elicit a reaction from the man. This kind of confrontation will probably just upset him.
But at the same time, you deserve someone who values you as much as you value him. If he cannot be that for you, you have to end things. No man, even if he temporarily makes you happy, is worth a life of unbearable stress and anguish.