Personally I like a man who takes initiative in all aspects of the relationship. Now this might make people here say "you don't want a submissive man, then!" and to which I say, wait a fucking second and let me explain.
Active participation in the relationship includes asking me out on dates and planning them on occasion (I also like planning too, so I like us to trade off on this), actively listening and engaging in conversation (you'd be surprised how many people can't do this), being thoughtful and doing tasks to make my life easier, and after they get to know me, anticipatory service. Now with the last one I don't just mean sexual service, but things like thinking of foods or things I might like or how they can better serve me, bringing me water if they see I don't have enough, and so on. So, general attentiveness. All of this they do with great thought and consideration for me, so that's where the submissive angle comes in. So you can see this is how a man can be submissive and also proactive. You might think of a butler who is not passively waiting around and needs to be ordered every single time to get the idea, but someone who learns the wants and needs of who they are serving and acts accordingly.
When it comes to anything intimate I like to one-sidedly initiate until they know what I am comfortable with and enjoy. Although I feel like all men, not just submissive men, should concede on this because typically men are the ones to make women feel vulnerable and uncomfortable in sexual situations. So they should wait until they learn the women's boundaries and expectations.
For some reason, submissive men are expected to be passive which is seriously lame. When you look at the standard submissive women are held to, they are expected to be proactive as fuck when it comes to service, and treat their man like a king. Super annoying that submissive men are conflated as incompetent wimps who want mommy shit, where he just sits on his ass and the """dom""" wipes his ass and babies him. Hmmm… sounds kinda familiar to how submissive women treat their doms just in a different tone.
So yeah, I don't want that. I want the kind of relationship, where my man goes out of his way to please me instead of passively sitting there like a brainless incompetent dummy who can't think for himself. Hope that makes sense.