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Siblings Anonymous 6747

Some questions to get this rolling.

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?
>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?
>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?
>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?
>What is your relationship with your siblings?

Anonymous 6749

>>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?

I don't know. My sister created a lot of drama with her actions, she is to blame in some of my things being stolen and her drug addict period was not really beneficial for 13 year old me. I don't feel very strongly about it but it in some way hindered me probably.

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?


Probably being young during the rare times I got along with my sister. If you want something specific, there was a day where out of nowhere we just sat together and played the first Mario party on the n64 all morning and afternoon. That's my favorite memory of spending time with her.

>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?


Yes and I hope they bond a lot and aren't distant as adults. I would want for them to be very close.

>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?


No idea but I hope so. It's sad imagining unequal love from a parent.

>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?


Youngest of 4, no brothers. I probably got the best of any of us in just that I wasn't raised by a broke single mother for any amount of time. The sister who is 15 years older than me got the least.

I am the least adventurous and the most behaved.

>What is your relationship with your siblings?


It's so bad.

My oldest sisters are really just biologically related and we've never been involved with each other. No ill feelings but I've never met one of them and the other only once when I was 8.

The other who was in the stories does not get along with me. As it is now I don't think we're going to speak again for the rest of our lives.

I tried hard for us to do things together and be close many years ago but she wasn't interested. We had nothing in common anyway. It's sealed that we're finished as of this year and I resent her.

Anonymous 6751

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
Hm, one of my siblings has a health problem so my mother always had to pay extra attention to them.

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?

We get along pretty well for the most part, so we make fun of each other, joke and lend/borrow stuff sometimes.

>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?

Not sure. I plan on having one kid, but two would be fine too. Maybe they will have cousins or other young kids to be friends with.

>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?

As most things in life it probably depends on the person. I believe my mother loves us equally.

>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?

I'm the middle kid and yes it sucks.

>What is your relationship with your siblings?


Overall pretty good <3

Anonymous 6762

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
I think having a younger brother has hindered but also helped? On hand my parents are still sexist and hold me to different standards, but once my bro go through certain experiences (like getting more games, not having a curfew), I also got those things, even though I'm 5 years older than him….

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?

We used to play together a lot as children, and now we share dumb memes with each other.

>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?

I don't think I want more than one child, but I would make sure that they spend time with their extended family or a friend group of similar-aged children.

>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?

Depends on the parents.

>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?

I'm the eldest, sort of the guinea pig/first try fuck up.

>What is your relationship with your siblings?

I'm chill with my bro now that we're older. We used to fight a lot around the ages of middle-high school.

Anonymous 6764

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
Nope, not really. Minor annoyances and fights that disappeared as we aged at worst.
>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?
Some of my best memories are making up dumb games and stories when we were young, we still talk about the elaborate and hilarious fantasy words we invented.
>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?
Nah, I don't expect to ever have the time/energy/money for one kid let alone 2+.
>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?
Yes, I love my family members equally so I'm sure they can too. Even if I 'like' one more, I always 'love' them equally.
>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?
It hasn't that I noticed (we're not treated differently), but we do fit the stereotypes to an extent. She's last born, very outgoing and a social butterfly, whereas I'm the responsible, cautious, first born.
>What is your relationship with your siblings?
I love my sister to bits, she's hilarious and fun. But our relationship is quite shallow in the sense that we don't talk about deep or personal stuff, maybe because I just feel awkward talking about those things with family members. We always gang up on our parents and revert to acting 10 years old when we're together, we communicate through song and dance and TV quotes a lot. She's probably the only person I feel like I love unselfishly and unconditionally.

Anonymous 34952

>>6747
well first off my sibling is severely autistic
she functions like baby just learning to talk and i am usually the one who takes care of her
>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
we do not have a mother and the only ones we relied on was my dad and my granny, i am pretty sure she did to a certain extent but honestly any hinderence that i have expereinced is most likely overlooked, i just dont notice it that much
>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?
she is teaching me to be considerate. i feel like i struggle with being considerate and with having her near, i learn to acknowledge her needs more even tho i mess up, i still keep on trying
>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?
lol yes, hopefully not disabled like my sister but even if thats the case i feel like living with siblings has a silver lining if that makes sense
>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?
not all, some parents absolutely suck at that and show partiality and favoritism. I believe a good parent can never love "equally" but we can love fairly if that makes sense
>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?
im the oldest shes the youngest, i dont think nothing would have changed if i was younger, i would still be responsible for her but being oldest just shows that i now have an obligation to look after her
>What is your relationship with your siblings?
its a strange one. in order to "know" my sister you do it without talking and no full on interactions. you have to observe. i used to feel as if i didn't loved her because i never knew as i would know my other classmates. i am very much apart of her routine tho, i sleep next to her and she will not sleep if i am not there. i suppose i "know" her through the things she does and what she will ask for in her own way. i suppose in an unconvential way, we share a relationship… but its not in the same plane as a typical relationship with a neighbor or a friend or coworker. you can feel it, but cannot touch see or smell it does that make sense?

Anonymous 34956

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
one of my brothers was a drug addict for a while which created problems but my family had problems before that so it really wasnt a big of hindrance as it probably would have been in a more functional family.
>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?
Watching pokemon together and talking and laughing about it. That's the only positive expierence I remember
>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?
Yes but I would want them to be close in age
>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?
Maybe sane parents can but the mentally unwell definitely don't. I would like to believe that if I have multiple children that I will love them all equally.
>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?
Youngest. I don't know how to answer this because my childhood was atypical
>What is your relationship with your siblings?
Distant/nonexistent. I have multiple older siblings but the age gaps between them and me are huge even though they are mostly close in age. The age gap and the whole dynamic of my family has resulted in this strained relationship.

Anonymous 34959

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
No, it actually made my life better.

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?

Having this very close bond that is not really possible to have just with friends. You guys slap each pther until youre tired of it but not even 30 mins later youre inseparable again.

>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?

I do not plan on having children, but if i foster/end up adopting i would be a problem to take in more than 1

>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?

I dont think so. Yes, parents have a different, potent love towards their kids, but in the end everyone involved is still human and have personalities who might vibe more/less with the parent

>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?

Im the older by a great amout and it was for the better. I gained a lot of maturity from the process and, in light of my depression/suicidal tendencies, the fact that i feel "responsible" for my sibling thethers me back to earth. If everything else goes wrong, ive got them to take care of and its something i can just give up on

>What is your relationship with your siblings?

I like to think that even though we dont talk very often and the age gap is bigger than usual, they still love me as much as i love them. They are a big part of my world and i care deeply for them.

Anonymous 34960

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
I don't think so, my sis is my best friend and we got along great even though she's 3 years younger
>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?
Having someone to share everything with, to always be there when you fuck up, someone you can trust and tell everything to. My sister is a lot more social than me and I just love listening to all her drama and friend struggles lmao
>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?
Yes although who knows. I think I would've done well without a sibling even though I love my sis the most in the world. Two kids would be where I stop though.
>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?
I think my mom is a great example of equal love, she never prioritised either of us despite raising my sis with slightly different rules once she got a hang of the whole parenting thing. My grandparents love me more though I know that, because I'm the first child and I'm "smarter" but honestly I admire my sis more since she always fights to get what she wants and despite being younger she's the one renting her own apartment while I'm stuck at home as a poor student that wasted 2 years of uni until finally finding something I'm decent at.
>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?
I'm the older one and like I said earlier, I think my parents were a bit more strict when raising me and I do think it resulted with me being more of an outcast than my sister. During the time i first started coming out of my shell my parents were very strict with my curfew for some reason and I missed out on a lot, lost touch with a lot of friends and turned to the online world a lot more. I'm glad though, because that's how I met my bf and my current friends are really great. All in all I'm grateful for that but it's funny how parenting can totally change the course of your kids life, scary almost.
>What is your relationship with your siblings?
We're best friends, to the degree of our communication being made up mostly from lame memes and inside jokes.

Anonymous 35464

>>6747
>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
I have three. Didnt really know the two oldest siblings, because theyre a lot older than me. The siblings closest to me in age, probably hindered me in that she would many times turn my parents against me. By doing that, I became resentfull of both her an my parents. It kind of feel like I dont know my parents either, just because I havent spoken to them that much (not just becaude of my sibling, but because of other reasons too)

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?

Its one of these:
-playing mario party 64
-playing with my toys with them

>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?

Yeah. I dont want kids, but If I wouldve, I wouldve wanted them to have siblings.

>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?

I believe they can, but I also believe they can have a favorite. The will love everyone equally, but their favorite may be either the one that got to accomplish what they never got to, or the one that spends the most time with them.

>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?

Im the youngest. I was born quite some time after my siblings. My oldest and 2nd oldest sibling is 10+ years older than me. Because of this, I havent really gotten to know them. My 3rd sibling is 4 years older than me. Ive got to know her better, but there is still a age difference.

>What is your relationship with your siblings?

Bad. I have no contact with my oldest, barley any with my 2nd oldest. My 3rd oldest I have more contact with, but we have very different personslities, so its easy for us to kind of "trigger" eachother. On top of that, shes very messed up.

Anonymous 35466

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?

Yes. There’s a 7 and a half year gap between me and my sister. Growing up it always felt like I had 3 parents instead of 2. My sister was the golden child (favourite) so that sucked too.

I also hated having hand me down clothes as mine were particularly dated yet my mother would force me to wear them. Toys always had a shabbiness to them as my mother was cheap (not poor) and would buy them used for my sister then after many more years of play they finally became mine.

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?


I find only children tend to not be used to not getting their own way. I’m not like that at least.

>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?


I’m childfree but if I did, I would have 2.

>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?


I think some can or pretend to anyway.

>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?


I’m the second of 2. My older sister and my parents would have secrets among them and also treated me like a child even when I wasn’t anymore. I guess it was just stuck in their mind. I’m smarter than my sister but she always got to make the decisions when we were alone together which was annoying.

>What is your relationship with your siblings?


I text my sister from time to time but that’s it. I don’t really want a relationship with her. She’s almost 40 now but still a child inside. Whenever I don’t do what she wants she’ll start hissing that I’m “so selfish, a brat” etc. She also is in complete denial that my parents were abusive and brushes off my concerns with “that’s normal”.

Anonymous 35469

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
It mostly hindered my sister's, not mine. She learned from my mistakes, but in turn never got the gumption I have.

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?

Playing videogames, I guess. I was emotionally unavailable and always wanted to be left alone. She didn't get much affection either, but at least wanted it. I didn't do anything to break the cycle and always rejected her.

>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?

Yes. Because I know that parenting is more than giving your kids food and toys.

>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?

Yes. The problem is that parents turn younger ones into perpetual babies and older ones into mini adults before their time.

>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?

I'm older (by a little over a year). I got more attention (good or bad). I always wanted to be the one to win if we played games (since my sister was younger, she wasn't as good). I was affected by my spoiled sheltered emotionally neglectful upbringing. My sister was affected by me being that way.

She was also forced to be the "normal" one, even though I'm pretty sure she has just as many issues as I do.

>What is your relationship with your siblings?

I don't talk to my sister much unless I need to. She blames me for all her problems. She also brings up embarrassing shit I've done in the past. But if I do the same thing, she acts like I'm lying since I can't provide exact dates and times.

Anonymous 35470

>>6747
I have 3 older siblings from my mums fist marriage, all 10-25 years older than me. and one real sister whos 1 year younger than me

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?

my older 3 siblings are awful. being around them he definitely negatively affected me
>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?
my younger sister is probably my best friend tbh. we have similar humour and like the same shows and stuff. one of my older sisters has kids and I really get one well with them too
>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?
yes
>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?
love yes, but they will have some they like more. this is also subject to change
>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?
second youngest. it made my older siblings hate me and be cruel to me. it also meant I had a good example of how NOT to behave, seeing them
>What is your relationship with your siblings?
youngest sister is good
first older sister, I hate her. she treats her kids like shit and is generally a waste of space
brother, hate him. if he tries to talk to me I literally pretend hes not there. I have more respect for him tho as he is a single father and treats his daughter well. he also has a decent jobs and skills. just a shitty personality
oldest sister, I hate her, but I act polite around her. shes possibly the worst of them. the other two were atleast nice when I was a kid. she would get drunk and scream at me since I was like 5 years old

Anonymous 35489

>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
Definitely, my eldest 2 (half) syblings are okay I guess, but my older (full) sister was extremely cruel and has fostered a lot of paranoia,depression,anxiety,hate in me, I would probably be like this anyway just not as bad.

>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?

I guess sometime we would have fun and play silly games , but it always got cut short as i would become the target of the fun, then it would become bullying as the harmless fun got boring.

>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?

yes, but i would try and make sure they were close friends

>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?

they definitely pretend to, i'm not sure love really works like that though.

>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?

I'm the youngest, and was an easy target for bullying, my syblings didn't really look after me or help me (and in fact did the opposite), even though in retrospect I showed obvious signs of OCD and autism, they were old enough to know better as well, also my parents stopped caring by the time I came about, my syblings obviously got treated better than me (though my gran saw this and helped me out, god bless her)

>What is your relationship with your siblings?

okayish with my eldest 2 (half syblings), speak to them rarely, I don't know a lot about them. My relationship with my other sister is non existant, we don't talk or communicate in any way. I hate her for all the bad she has done to me, but I love her and would do anything for her at the same time, even though I know she doesn't care about me in the slightest.


sorry if I went into a bit too much detail, but while I was typing it just flowed out.

Anonymous 35516

I'm the youngest of 3, all born to different fathers. My brother was born to mum's husband who died in Iraq, my sister was born to her old landlord who turned out to be trafficking cocaine on the side and I was born to a 17 year old mum worked with, who quickly bailed.

My sister is a pathalogical liar and extreme narcissist, just like our mum. She tortured me growing up, abused me constantly and destroyed any kind of normal development of intimacy when she fucked the two guys I had crushes on in high school, then tried to convince me to be "practice" for her uni friends.

My brother has been more like a father to me than a sibling, always protecting me from the kids in our neighbourhood and our sister, guiding me to make better decisions, making sure I was properly dressed, fed, had school supplies, studying ect. even when he left for the military. When he got back he put up rent so I could move out and gave me my first job.

When I was about 16 we found out we also have an older brother mum gave away when she was a teenager, and turned out to be a psychopath who went on to work as an enforcer for a biker gang. Currently serving a 25 year sentence for murder.

On the whole, siblings were a mixed bag, but I wouldn't give them up if it meant never growing up with my brother.

Anonymous 35622

Ny only sibling is a brother 5 years older than me. He adored me as a baby, and turned out being my best friend as a younger child. When I reached childhood/teenaged years, he was essentially another parent, because my mom and dad are pretty toxic and apathetic (they treated him terribly). He protected me from them. When he was a teenager, he got into 4chan culture, so I did too. My entire personality and sense of humor are essentially spin-offs of his. My boyfriend asked me the other day what I think I might be like if I was an only child, and I realized that I would be an entirely different person from my core. He moved across the country a while ago to get away from my parents, to be near his friends, and to start having a career. The move is the best decision that he's ever made, even though it was really risky and I really respect him a lot for it. But I do miss him a lot, and him moving was the end of an era for sure. We aren't as close anymore, it would be nearly impossible for us to be. Quarantine would be much easier if he were still here. There were low points in our relationship of course. He made a few passes at me sexually when I was a kid that still make me not trust him as much. He gets really mad when I bring it up, says that he was just a dumb teenager, etc. When I was like 11-14 and really struggling with depression and suicide, he put me down a lot. It was about things like my weight, the clothes I wore. He said that he was just being brutally honest and refusing to "hugbox". He once told me that if I became fat as an adult, that boys wouldnt be attracted to me, jobs wouldn't hire me. It stuck with me. It's a very complicated relationship to say the least.



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