I don't know, a ton of lesbians date men first out for different reasons and then never again. Not realizing you're gay until a certain point doesn't mean you're really just bi.
You can have intense relationships with men and then find women and think 'hey, this is even better'. I did love Oz though.
I was a massive Billy Idol fan as a teen, so Spike was my shit, but if we're being real…. pic related