Romance Anonymous 162873
How do you enjoy romance media without wanting to kill yourself?
I don't get it. Other people sit down, consume it, then seem to be happy when it's done. I just feel lonely. No other style of media makes me feel so depressed and alone.
Because it's WAY better than dealing with male toxicity and dating. I've had boyfriends. Never again, not for me.
Also idk if I would call it romance media. I just love entertainment in general, all of it, romance is part of it. But I write too. It's better than any concievable thing. Absolutey nothing else compares. Besides love is just a chemical reaction in your brain, it's a temporary trickster and a conartist. Enjoying your life, travel and money is forever.
I would get like that reading yuri manga about high school girls when I was still in high school. Hurts to see others living the dream but like >>162886
said it's still entertainment, engaging stories with nice art are fun so that outweighed tfw no gf for me. I don't self insert that much.>>162875
IDK either, honestly. I can't hack it.
I get obsessed with a certain pairing and it takes over my brain. I use it as an escape, I live voraciously through the stories I consume. I focus on those instead of my stressful life.
But I also try to think about what I like about those characters and try to incorporate those attributes into my life to improve my relationships. Probably cringe but it helps.
Watch gay romance. Then I don't self insert because there is no girl.
i like romance films a lot but mostly when they're sad or rather subtle or abstract about it. since getting into a relationship romcoms have been much more enjoyable, when i was single i'd avoid happy romance media like the plague
Same. I can only consume gay romance media because it's so far removed from me that I can enjoy it without feeling jealous of the female lead.
Yuri is fine for the same reason, I'm not attracted to girls so I can simply enjoy the story
>>162887>I would get like that reading yuri manga about high school girls when I was still in high school
it’s even worse these days, because by now, the both girls in those mangos would lifemog the shit out of me due to having more experience than i, twice as old and still a kissless virgin, so i just avoid anything lesbian.
I’ve never felt sad or jealous over a romance storyline but I get insanely sad and wistful over movies about friendship groups because I never had one.
To be fair those mangos are written for female Japanese audiences who usually have little to no romantic experience themselves. Tons of Japanese women are celibate and adult virgins, hell even a lot of female mangakas are femcels themselves. That’s literally why they write romance fiction, to cope with loneliness and the lack of real romance in their lives.
Ngl it does make me feel a little better about myself knowing 1 in 4 Japanese women are virgins. Especially since they’re probably most fetishized women in the world. If even cute Japanese women can’t get laid or are choosing to go volcel, it reassures me somewhat and makes me feel less alone.
From what I’ve seen a lot of them use either going to host bars, becoming fujoshis or start getting heavily into Korean and Japanese boybands to substitute having a boyfriend. For them, the fantasy of a man is more pleasant than the reality.
It's like this for me honesty,you wanna know what it really is? I have never in my life, not met a guy who sits there and expects you to do everything domestic. Even when they do help its like they have to be told, or its not near the amount i do. Ive seen it my whole life.
At some point I just called it quits. I have terminal disinterest in that and even less interest in raising kids in that kind of hell.
There is just no discussion about it. What am I missing? What good could I possibly get out of that kind of relationship???? I know there are men who aren't like that but they're rarer than anything, and im not gona pull my hair out over it. It's not worth stressing over, when I enjoy life enough this way and have so much on my life bucket list. I don't have time to sort out men and their bs. It is really unpleasant to even think about dating. Their personalities are so shit, so often, it's like… do I really want to torture myself looking for one guy every girl is gonna want? Forget it, we all lose when we have to date them with what most of them are like
Same. No medja can make me sadder than the typical moe friendship group anime.
Same. I honestly don’t see any upsides to sharing my bed and home with a moid. What would I get out of it? Money? I have enough of that. Company? Since when do moids make good company or care about anything we say lmao. I need my lawn mowed or plumbing fixed? I can call up a professional moid to do that for me for a little bit of money, and the bonus is he won’t expect sex in exchange for it. What do women get nowadays? Men are no longer providers, protectors. They’re manbabies who want a woman who acts like an underage bangmaid and fussy mommygf st the same time.
All I can see is a deal where a man gets a free domestic slave and hole to stick his dick in, and what do I get from the moid? Sweet fuck all. Men have nothing to bring to the table anymore.
Romance media just makes me cringe. I don't mind romances in media, but the romance genre repulses me.
I get both from it.
on the one hand I get really happy about cute couples doing cute things,
on the other hand I get lonely from hapiness I shall never achieve
best move is to pursue moids who have lived on their own in their own flat/house for extended periods of time
Don't watch Little Busters, you'd probably spontaneously combust.
I simple do not consume romance media, I lie in bed and think about love or about torturing males.
Always chase a romance with 18-36 pages of reverse-ryona, femdom, amputation, torture. The hangover gets shorter.
You don't have to consume romance media if you don't want to, there are other options.
Unfortunate thing is, romance plots happen in all of media. You can watch some dumb shonen anime about buff aliens beating each other up with pineapples, and there will still be some romance plot in there.
Why should it make you want to kill yourself? I'm baffled that you would even arrive at this. Absolutely baffled.
I guess its about being reminded>this will never happen to you>you'll never get that
at least in shonen series, the setting is usually some flavor of fantasy
it's easier to think "something like this can't happen in my lifetime so why worry" when they're in some ninja village fighting terrorism or whatever the plot of boruto is>>227703
>>227968>it's easier to think "something like this can't happen in my lifetime so why worry
Kill yourself???? Over a romance? Jesus you put too much importance on flighty things op. I think once you accept the fact that it's extremely rare and comes with tons of strife and trouble you won't be so depressed by something like that.
I think you must be in a really strange situation psychologically.
>>228211>I think once you accept the fact that it's extremely rare and comes with tons of strife and trouble you won't be so depressed by something like that.
Not trying to be mean or anything, but when I hear people say: >yeah, relationships aren't anything that special, you're not missing out. Actually it really sucks you know?
to someone who was alone their entire life, It seems to me just like saying to someone in a wheelchair:>yeah, walking isn't anything all that special, you're really not missing out. Actually I hate walking you know?
I know that if I were to find someone I'd probably only want to do all sorts of romantic stuff for a short while before getting used to it and seeing all the negative aspects. and then I'd probably think that it's not as great as I expected, but that knowledge doesn't help much.
Actually having been in foster care adopted, and ignored by family/ estranged/ blamed for everything that went wrong, I can confirm that after being alone it's easier to just say fuck you to family dynamics and relationships altogether. Extremely easy. That includes outside relations. If you've been alone as long as you can remember it becomes what you're used to, you hate letting people in, especially experiencing how fucking simple and shallow most people are, their ideas of depth being 3 inches deep.
If you want rationships badly you must have faith in people thanks to somebody and learn to idealize from somebody.
When ever I feel an aching loneliness I go and seek another's presence and then I am quickly reminded of how much I value solitude. And then I go back to my room and lock the door. Then I feel lonely again and I repeat. I try not to watch anything with romance or think about romance because it makes me feel awful. As long as I don't think about it then I'm fine. As long as I don't have to look at couples showing affection for one another then I'm fine. I can't see them in my room with the blinds down
In short, I don't enjoy them
If I ever do it is a bitter sweet enjoyment and it's not worth it
You can't avoid them shoehorning romance into what you are watching even if it isn't really about romance but you just have to live with that. Don't go seeking romantic stuff to watch because you are lonely. It is like dwelling on bad feelings and letting them stir and torture you. Same thing. Just don't do it
I enjoy it because I know the difference between reality and fantasy. I crave for it but at same time I know that is a cope invented by women a very long time ago to deal with their awful moids husbands.
Rn I'm dating this guy and even if he's nice to me and all he's not very romantic. But I can't get rid of my romantic energy. I just can't because it's been a part of my life for way too long. So instead of suppressing that energy (something that I tried to do some years ago and obviously failed) I throw it all on my parasocial relationship with this man I'll never meet irl and I've been feeling better since then.
Pic related is probably the reason I came out like this
I like to indulge in it when I'm single. It's nice to self insert and daydream.
When I'm in a relationship it does make me want to kill myself because the experience of dating a scrote is always vastly different from anything I want, and anything he actually offered in the wooing phase.>>228833
Every time I act romantic with my boyfriend he just brushes me off and then I catch him using my move on someone else. My way of coping is pouring that energy into platonic relationships with girls, they appreciate the affection and return it
No, love can last longer than money and memories of traveling, if you get dementia the people who have the largest emotional impact are usually remembered most, and even if you lose that, that person will still look after you when you dont recognize them.
i hate romance
it's always displayed as this amazing thing that lasts and triumphs over everything
but there is never about moving on from it when it all goes south, and the time is up, and you gotta find another person.
i hate it
Isnt that the plot of LaLa Land