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Anonymous 128766[Reply]

Are toxic female friendships common? What are they really like?

As a 25F with literally no friends, I always wondered how bad other women can be.
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Anonymous 128847

>>128842
Immoral and emotional

Anonymous 128855

>>128841
>picrel
imagine thinking autists are unemotional

Anyway, some women are fucked up people. They're a bit less ballsy about it than men are and will be more underhanded, cry-bullying, morally justifying their own sadism. But the pathology is the same.

Anonymous 128856

Lots of hypocrisy, people that care more about status symbol rather than their friends happiness.
Lets say your friend has some grievances with her bf, not toxic shit but just some annoyances, the so called "friend" will say dump him immediately.
She doesn't care about the long term happiness of her friend thou, she just wants her to dump the guy because guy.

Anonymous 128858

>>128856
This shithole examplefies it nicely

Anonymous 128877

>>128856
And to add on top of that, this female friend of yours all along is waiting on the sidelines and shouting , encouraging you to break up with your boyfriend to leave you all alone. Only for the friend to use it to her advantage to bring along her own boyfriend and rub their relationship in your face while you're at your lowest point. It's all about dark triad and her having the most power in your friendship dynamic.


the NEET life chose me Anonymous 128860[Reply]

I'm jobless,and uneducated.I'm held back.

I lack in-person adult school. My attempts at net school and mail courses failed due to them emulating the lack of support,and proper education I recieved. Brick and mortar adult school is necessary because it provides community. Not to mention, I'm exhausted from self-teaching without guidance or feedback. Relocation to attend an adult-school is necessary.

I live online. I lack solo-hobbies, such as reading physical books, or embroidery,as doing anything my family does not approve of feels risky.There is lots of activites I want to participant in, but my family holds me back.When I go outside, I am accused of doing something weird. Hence, to avoid conflict, I stay in my room. Given they do not participate in casual sports,or volunteering,doing so would make me ostracized.

I'm unemployed.I'm a caregiver. My sibling has an illness, and my parent is scared for them to be alone. Hence, I cannot work. I am also in the process of geting my ID. My parent lacks consistent hours, so working around their schedule would be challenging.

I love my family. But this is unfair. I'm unable to pursue a social life, and work towards my career goals. I feel an obligation them. I do not have in me to go out and do the activities I want to anyway, ignoring them. I do not want to come home to accusations,and be yelled at for defying them. I expressed my concerns to them, and they claimed I have everything I want. That is false:I want a job, and an offline life. I want independance. I'm ashamed of being a NEET.

Anonymous 128861

megamind-no-bitche…

no picture?

Anonymous 128868

>>128860
I am neet and I relate to all of this too. I truly believe that some of us are ment to be neet and unemployed forever because that's what life chose for us. it isn't a choice. Maybe you can try faking being a retard so you can get neetbux from the government

Anonymous 128876

You have to do everything in your power not to be held back by your family. It doesn't mean you don't care about them, it just means you are exercising your right to make yourself happy. It's not your job to give up your life for your siblings illness.

>doing anything my family does not approve of feels risky

They're not showing up for you as you are for them. You already recognize that that's not right. You're in the right to leave. Leave and never look back… get a wagie job, learn how to drive, get certified in something so that you dont have to rely on your family to provide for you….


Ngl, what >>128868 said is valid too. If you can manage it, go for it. It'll only be a temporary fix, cause ssi/ssd doesn't cover rent, but it'll help with getting your own money at least??


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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

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Anonymous 128808

This dumb bitch is too much of a wilting violet crybaby to call the bank. Just do it you fucking weakling you'll only be talking to a chatbot anyway. This is why I can't take your suicide threats seriously, your risk-aversion is so pathological you can't even bring yourself to make a phone call. I don't think you'd even kill yourself if you had a button right in front of you that would give you a painless instant death if you pressed it.

Anonymous 128822

look, no one is saying you arent allowed to schizo post in the unsent letters thread, but PLEASE can you keep it all in one post? im so fucking tired of the 45 posts all clearly written by the same person during a manic episode.

Anonymous 128853

you're so bad at committing that you can't even keep me blocked. stop unblocking me just to check my profile,not say a thing, then block again. you are such a complete and utter faggot that you can't even confess to me because the shame keeps you silent.
the mask of the good, genuine guy is off. so who are you after you deactivate? a moron who's good at pretending he's a good person when in reality you're constantly running from the guilt of your own wrongdoings.
one day it will catch up and eat you alive

Anonymous 128874

oh god gaming alone on tonight of all nights and listening to that soundtrack and tycho and toy boy and lord huron all in a row… the lavender marriage of all lavender marriages. i know what he was doingggggg.

Anonymous 128875

friend of my friend.


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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

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Anonymous 128862

>>128859
Imagine if you were a politician or famous to some degree, people would talk bad things about you nonstop, if famous people can go unaffected by something like that, then so can you, don't let it get to your heart. NOTHING HAS HAPPENED.

Anonymous 128869

>>128862
Thank you anon, I will try. Still though, rich people have enough money to separate themselves from those who gossip about them and I have to work with them, at least for now lol

Anonymous 128870

I'm so tired
Every other day I have a new type of cancer
I can't calm down even if I suspect that it might not be the case
what if what if what if what if what if

Anonymous 128872

>>128848
"Why do you have such an interest in sex traffic" every victim deserves to have people at the very least try and persecute the people who violated them. If you don't care about the Epstein files then you simply aren't human.

Anonymous 128873

>>128872
"UGH but u like sound TOOOO compassionate about the suffering of bluds u aint even KNO.. givin like, creepy vibes shi. just gives me the ICK ! you know??"
gets freaknasty raped by epstein's eggshaped penis
now cries about it like a retard
- The Neutral Ending


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Anonymous 128849[Reply]

I can’t believe that sex and relationships are a normal part of peoples lives. The older I get the more foreign and farther away those things seem to me. It doesn’t even seem real. For normal people, it seems to just happens to them without resistance. Love, marriage, kissing, fucking, starting a family. It’s so common that they would have a hard time going a few months without it, let alone their whole lives. I wonder what it would feel like to be loved and accepted just for existing. And having things just come naturally for you because of that.
I wonder what being held by a man that’s safe and in love with you feels like. I can’t stop thinking about it

Anonymous 128864

tbh sex/fucking =/= love in 99.999999% of cases and a lot of guys pretend to love you because they know you'll give them access to your body so they can use and discard you and probably cheat on you.

romance media is all BS and if you speak to a lot of women irl they'll tell you that they've had to endure a lot of disrespect and subtle infidelity, while also performing sexual acts they don't want to do in order to keep their partner.

men aren't all they're chalked up to be and i honestly wish i could go back in time to before i dated anyone/was sexually intimate with anyone. don't feel too bad nona

Anonymous 128867

you will have to understand that normies are sociopaths
anywhere from 25-50% of people have ADMITTED to cheating on their partner
the normie libido is sky high
you will have to date autistic christian men to have something like what you want

Anonymous 128871

Same, but I've gotten so used to being by myself that I don't think I'd actually enjoy sharing my space with someone else, maybe if it's for brief periods it might be tolerable


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i h8 my life Anonymous 128690[Reply]

im a fat 18f girl, ive never had a boyfriend and ive been a fucking loner my whole life, people avoid me girls i know are fake and spread retarded rumours about me for no reason other then they just dont like me. i wanna get so skinny and pretty they regret or i can just die.

who tf would wanna be around and ugly disgusting girl like me, i tried to get better but it never lasts, going to the psych ward twice messed it up i wish theyd just let me die. stupid anti psychotics made me gain weight as soon as i was near my goal weight. atleast im off it now i faked adhd symptoms to get on adderall it suppresses my appetite and i lost 5kg in a week. i dont even take the reccomended dose it does nothing if its under 40mg tbh, its great i never feel hungry. i hope i get skinny enough that these stupid people can see im a person too under all the disgusting fat. if i dont lose the weight this year its over lollll
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Anonymous 128823

fasting is good idea but then also eating zero calorie stuff and not stretching your stomach is

Anonymous 128830

I'm with you, I just graduated high school at 18 and I feel so lost and existentially empty. I dealt with some bullying for my weight and thinking I was ugly no matter what, I still get scared if my shirts are too low cut because I'm that self conscious

Anonymous 128845

To be attractive you must first love yourself, then comes looks.

Don't change to please others, change to please yourself.

Build healthy habits that make yourself feel good and lose weight slowly as a bonus, shortcuts like adderall will hurt you long term.

You are 18, Adult life have not even started yet, you have so much time so don't stress about everything.

Focus on the healthy small things that make you feel good and build those habits slowly.
Write down goals that are reasonable and strive to reach them.

Start easy like a little bit of exercise every day to get your body moving, it can literally be just stretching in the beginning to build the routine, a walk outdoors every day and minimum of 3 eggs for breakfast for nutrition and vitamins.

As you read this, improve your body position by just 5%, stretch something that is stiff, just a little. See, feels better.
Continue like that every now and then. Small habits grow with time.

Anonymous 128865

you're just 18, barely an adult yet. maybe it's a function of my social circle but most people i know including myself didn't have our first relationship until college when we were older than 18

i second getting a part time job, it'll help keep you busy and you'll be standing or walking rather than sitting down + you can start saving to buy makeup and clothes so win win

Anonymous 128866

>>128737

this is bad advice lol

OP you should count calories rather than having rules like this. You lose weight as long as you're in a deficit.

Whole foods and fruits are good ofc but you can def still stay in a deficit and have more than 1 fruit a meal lmao. Also it's not that hard to allocate a couple hundred calories in the week for a sweet treat. If you over restrict you'll probably end up binge eating eventually.

You can hit the gym everyday as long as you're hitting a different muscle group every time but you should take a rest day for muscles to repair between training the same area.


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Anonymous 128788[Reply]

i feel like ill never find true love as a woman partially because men are shit and partially because im also an emotionally unavailable woman who wants very specific things out of a man. im just mad every man ill ever be around is a shithead and men make me feel so mad and evil

Anonymous 128789

What are your standards for a man?

Anonymous 128835

alive and maybe has a job

Anonymous 128863

I used to be a big believer in "true love." But I've come to the belief now that most people are constitutionally incapable of it. I know I am. And I know all the men I'd love or who would love me are too. I don't really care to search for it anymore. I am also emotionally unavailable, and I seem to attract emotionally unhealthy men. It is what it is, you know? But its easier to accept that after experiencing it fail first, which I have. I recommend having one or two disastrous relationships and then maybe you too can accept the futility of love.


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I feel like my boyfriend is trying to avoid seeing me Anonymous 128839[Reply]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a about 3 months but we've only seen each other 2 times within 2 months.
I want to meet every weekend but my boyfriend says he can't meet as much because he needs to study and he says he wants to reward us both with meeting when we've done a good job studying.
The problem is that I work really hard studying but it seems like he doesn't even try and then he tells me that we'll meet when he's catched up on everything.
I haven't told him it hurts my feelings but it really does because I feel like he doesn't want to see me at all when he doesn't even do his school work.
It feels like he's trying to avoid seeing me and it really hurts.
How do I stop feeling hurt by this? Or do I just tell him I am and that I'd rather meet even if he hasn't done anything?

Anonymous 128843

Don't waste your time on someone that don't meet you with reciprocity.

Don't explain yourself, just walk.

Anonymous 128844

>>128843
I don't want to, but it feels like he doesn't even like me back, he's told me before that I like him more
Writing this all down makes me realize I've been acting kinda desperate and pathetic

Anonymous 128846

>>128844
It's ok to want love.

He is not very interested or he is an avoidant, either way it's better to just walk and find someone who meets you.

And I will tell you a little secret about attraction: Whatever quality you like in him is actually a projection of yourself; qualities you have that you project onto this external person.

Look for that in yourself and you will find it easier to walk.

Anonymous 128850

>>128846
Thank you, you're so sweet, I needed to hear that


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Insufferably passive and weak people Anonymous 128809[Reply]

I might just be an asshole but at a certain point you can be so spineless that you're just a completely useless human being. Trying to get them to do anything (or convince them to make any decision by themselves) is like trying to walk on water or containing sand in a sieve. Some people will not stand up for themselves or take any independent action, ever.
How do you guys deal with people like this? Preferably "not at all", but when you actually have to work with them to get things done, how?

Anonymous 128810

>How do you guys deal with people like this?
make them lend me couple bucks and promise ill pay them back though i never will and keep asking them for more and more favors aswell. basically make these fuck niggas my bitches

Anonymous 128811

>I might just be an asshole but
You 100% are. What have you done that's so rebellious and interesting that makes you have a spine compared to these people? You're posting on a loser femcel site. This post is just you sucking your own dick.

Anonymous 128812

>>128811
Oh I'm also not very smart or accomplished, I'm just angry with this one particular idiot.

Anonymous 128838

>>128812
Not really. This post isn't about a particular situation at all, just how you're better than this person we know nothing about. Not sure what you're expecting people to say about a situation you haven't shared. It just comes off narcissistic.


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