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Choosing to stay virgin for Life cause I find blowjobs humiliating Anonymous 127683[Reply]

And I'm pretty happy with my virginity. Sex is humiliating for women and I am psychologically not like ummm predisposed to withstand the deep submission it requires from a woman. I get symptoms of terror at the thought of being fucked. Anyone else?
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Anonymous 127689

No, I'm attracted to men and the act of fellatio turns me on, but only if it's like a mutual act where he's fingering me or using a vibrator on me. Sexy as fuck.

Anonymous 127691

Why are you so obsessed?

Anonymous 127692

>Sex is so normalized it's very sad.
lmfao the most insightful statement of the decade

Anonymous 127694

>>127683
>Sex is humiliating for women
how?

Anonymous 127696

>>127692
why are you laughing? this is a very really feeling for people who don’t view sex the way most of the population seems too. it’s actually pretty isolating.



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bf didn’t follow the three month rule Anonymous 127558[Reply]

i was proposed to but there are a lot of red flags and i’m really having some doubts. for starters it was an impulse proposal and i wouldn’t have wanted my engagement photos where i was dressed the way i was. he let me leave the house looking like absolute shit and only posted the ugliest photo. the other photos i don’t have a double chin. other girls have best friends that take them to do nails and secretly get them ready. a female friend was there and knew and didn’t do anything to help me with my appearance beforehand. he bought the rings there. i don’t know if he thinks i’m fat but my ring is sized so poorly i can’t wear it and we’ve been turned down so far at the shops we’ve taken the rings to because they don’t work with cheap metal or rings they didn’t sell there. like it’s not a size too big it’s dangling off my finger and i have no idea why he thought my finger would be so huge it makes me want to cry. my friends are all furious for me. he doesn’t make that much money it’s true but he could have gotten me a real ring. and then i came home. and i found out his ex got proposed to the same day. the same. day. and she had been aware of it and had a spa day with her friends and a gorgeous engagement shoot and party with loved ones. and it’s not even her real engagement party. hes talking about whether or not i think she’ll send him the announcement “to rub it in”. they have mutual friends and i can’t help wonder if my engagement was a last minute response to her engagement so he could post ours first? she had a professional photographer and mailed out announcements before she posted online about it. my engagement photo shoot was also an impulse - we were on a walk with a friend and he snapped some pictures and we called it an engagement shoot. my ex had been talking about his exes prissy snobby etc engagement and i think our friend felt bad for me. since then, he’s disappeared inside himself. he’s on the computer all day. he wouldn’t even pay attention to me right after at my dads birthday party, just sat in a lawn chair in his stupid yellow shirt drinking beer after beer scrolling on his phone occasionally hiding his phone screen trying not to make eye contact with me. we had a talk about it and i said i wasn’t insecure and my friends have been supportive and game with me when he won’t. he got jealous and has been making an effort to join in now and NOW he has a problem with screen time and wants to go out. to places he used to go with his ex or placePost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 127652

>>127646
he’s very close to killing himself at this point tbh

Anonymous 127678

he took some time off gaming to fix our relationship he lasted less than a week and he justified it to himself by saying he could buy a new game. cos he took time off gaming. right after he loses his job.

Anonymous 127690

>>127678
DUMPPPPPPPPP

Anonymous 127693

>>127690
he took a performative break from gaming and it’s been all weekend again already i need to get out of here before he’s always home when his job officially ends

Anonymous 127695

>>127690
i’ve gotten really close with someone one of his more attractive friends and i’m thinking of really hurting his feelings when i leave



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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

Previous thread >>>/feels/120288
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Anonymous 127679

>>127665
this is crystal cafe. please take your sane and measured response elsewhere

Anonymous 127681

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I’m truly the most sensitive girl alive and idk what to do. I’ve always been a sensitive person but I figured it would be a trait I would outgrow but no, I haven’t. I get upset over random people being mean to me online, especially on the games I play that are usually competitive and male dominated. I wish I could not care about what people say to me

Anonymous 127682

>>127681
Nona this absolutely can be trained with learning coping skills, support and exposure

Anonymous 127686

>>127681
Just mute everyone and pretend you're playing in single player mode. Many online players are immature, toxic dicks, who act like their shit don't stink and have long forgotten that the main goal of playing games is having fun, fuck `em.

Anonymous 127688

I'm really detached and delusional in efforts of love and so I can never really like someone, whether they're famous and inaccessible or if I know them in real life. I just become utterly obsessed with them, with a version of them that isn't them, and I reject any effort to get to know them because I know intrinsically I'll stop being impressed by them once I recognize them as a flawed human. I was OBSESSED with this one guy for years. Dude wasn't even that impressive and quite honestly made my life a bit worse but we had great conversational chemistry that took hold of me. I'm very selfish and self-absorbed. I never really cared for his problems, I just enjoyed how he made me feel. I'm obsessed with another guy now but thankfully he's famous, but unfortunately I should say was famous. He's dead and I feel like because he's dead I can just never move on. Genuinely. I feel like I'll always be in love with him and anyone who isn't him is a waste if my time. I don't know how to outgrow this because it feels so comfortable and rewarding to my brain.



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unheard Anonymous 127364[Reply]

song lyrics
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Anonymous 127640

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[Chorus]
It's not much of a life you’re living
It's not much of a life you're living
It’s not much of a life you're living
It's not much of a life you're living
It's not much of a life you're living

[Bridge]
Ohh, the reason I hold on

[Chorus]
It's not much of a life you're living
It’s not much of a life you’re living
It's not much of a life you’re living
It's not much of a life you're living

Anonymous 127659

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I wanted you to know, I've learned to live without it
And even though it's colder now, I no longer feel surrounded
And you never listened to me, and that's the thing I tell the others
You were my harlequin bride, I was your undercover lover, but no
You never saw me naked, you wouldn't even touch me
Except if you were wasted
But you were trying your best, and that's the thing I tell the others
I was your robot companion, you were my favourite colour, and, oh

And I'm caught up on the person I tried to turn myself into for you
Someone who didn't mind the push-pull parlour games
Someone who wasn't always cryin' on the journey back
Someone who didn't feel the low blows either way
Thought I was waitin' for you, when all along
It was you with the countdown kill switch
And it was me with the blindfold on

Anonymous 127661

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And if things had changed
I would have buried you deep in my heart
And if things had stayed the same
I would have carried you as far as the sky

Anonymous 127663

and in your life there comes the darkness
there’s a spacecraft blocking out the sky
just cos you feel it
doesn’t mean it’s there
i wanna have control i want a perfect body
i want a perfect soul
and one day i am going to grow wings
a chemical reaction
i’ll laugh until my head comes off
i’ll swallow til i burst
just cos you feel it
doesn’t mean it’s there
reckoner, you can’t take it with ya
dancing for your pleasure
you are not to blame for
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Anonymous 127687

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I wanna sink to the bottom with you
I wanna sink to the bottom with you
The ocean is big and blue
I just want to sink to the bottom with you
Cars on the highway
Planes in the air
Everyone else is
Going somewhere
But I'm going nowhere
Getting there soon
I might as well just
Sink down with you



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My deranged ramble Anonymous 127623[Reply]

I feel like I’m rotting inside myself. I feel like every thought I have is wrong, disgusting, embarrassing, but it’s still what I feel and I’m tired of pretending it isn’t. I hate the way I am, but I also can’t stop being this way. I feel so fundamentally broken that I don’t even know where the real me is supposed to be underneath all this mess. It’s like I’m trapped in a mind that keeps malfunctioning and the worst part is, some part of me truly believes my reactions make sense even when everyone tells me they don’t.

I hate pretty women. I hate them even though I know that makes me sound bitter and pathetic. I hate that their existence feels like a direct attack on mine. I hate that beauty seems to be the one thing that determines who gets loved easily and who has to beg for scraps. I hate myself for caring about it. I hate myself for watching the world revolve around looks and wishing I had something worth orbiting.

I hate that I’m not beautiful. I hate that I’m not even average. I hate that I look in the mirror and feel this immediate drop. Like my face is proof that I’ll never be wanted the way I want to be. I hate my body. I hate even existing physically. I feel like if I weren’t this ugly, my mind wouldn’t torture me like this. I know it’s irrational but I can’t shake it. Nothing helps. Not therapy, not logic, not comparison. Nothing.

I hate the way men look at women. I hate how casual they are about it. I hate how normal it is. I hate that it hurts me so deeply I can barely breathe sometimes. I hate how I feel invisible and sick and replaceable the second I realize I’m not the only one they find attractive. Or even find attractive at all. I hate that this is just how they are and I’m expected to be okay with it, to swallow it, to get over it, to not make a scene. But I can’t. It feels like a knife to my heart every time.

And then there’s this humiliating contradiction inside me.. I hate men, but I still want them. I hate the way they treat women, but I still crave their attention. I hate their entitlement, their blunt desire, their wandering eyes. And yet I still want to be the one they look at, the one they crave, the one they can’t get enough of. I feel like an incel, genuinely. Like some delusional, bitter creature screaming into the void about desire and validation and beauty, knowing exactly how pathetic it sounds but unable to stop.

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Anonymous 127627

>>127626
I’m a bit confused by your comment. I do talk to people and have relationships. My post isn’t about not seeking people out. It’s about the internal conflict and contradictions I feel regardless of who I’m with or what I’m doing. Can you clarify what you meant by ‘seek them out’? Are you implying I’m not picking the right people? I just want to understand.

Anonymous 127630

Nice poem

Anonymous 127648

yikes! women like you are very pathetic nona

Anonymous 127653

>>127623
ugly nona, instead of jerking off to your own misery, have you tried maybe um… actually fixing your looks? Hope this helps <3

Anonymous 127655

this is the kinda shit i come to cc for! nona you got a severe cause of body dysmorphia which you probably already know but ffs this is bad



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Anonymous 127666[Reply]

Do you plan to remain childless your entire life?

Anonymous 127667

the lunatic of etr…

>>127666
Reminds me pic related.

Anonymous 127670

>>127666
Absolutely. I just fostered kittens and that was enough. I can't even imagine a child. The thought of 18 years of that makes me ill.

Anonymous 127671

>>127666
What the fuck does having no children have to do with keeping creepy dolls moid?

Anonymous 127672

>>127671
He thinks women who don't have children in their 20s go insane from regret and since women hit the wall and become infertile as soon as they turn 30 all that's left is to buy dolls and petend they're your children

Anonymous 127674

TikTok really does encourage you to film all kinds of retarded shit for money and attention



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Dealing with Insane BPD People Anonymous 127542[Reply]

Thread to vent about crazy bpd people you know who have ruined your life or ask for advice on how to deal with them/ understand why they do what they do.

I'll go first. So I stopped talking to the bpd months ago after having had enough of her crazy bullshit, lies and vile skinwalking. I forgot she even existed. All was well. Until all of a sudden, a couple days ago, she contacts my closest and oldest friend out of fucking nowhere, in order to """befriend""" her.

They don't know each other, have nothing in common, live really far away from each other. They have only met each other ONCE.
The only reason they are even aware of each other's existence is because of when I briefly introduced them one day over a year ago (I was on an outing with my friend and bpd happened to be in the area…)

ONE DAY. Not even a whole 24 hours, we were there with bpd for 2 hours max. So bpd has only interacted with my friend for a grand total of 2 hours, over a year ago.

SO WHY THE FUCK IS SHE CONTACTING HER OUT OF NOWHERE? I don't understand? Why? Why now? Why would the bpd, who has an entire life (her own friends, classmates, colleagues, nigel, etc.) contact the closest friend of some chick(me) who hasn't even spoken to her in 3 months? What the fuck does she want?

I don't want this crazy freak to swoop in and steal my one fucking friend… She even seems to be skinwalking me since my friend was gushing about how 'similar' the bpd is to me. That's sickening to think about because last time I spoke to the bpd, I was thinking about how she was just too different from me and insufferable. I didn't even have the heart to tell my friend the truth.
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Anonymous 127572

>>127542
what character is this

Anonymous 127606

>>127542
You're probably the crazy one

Anonymous 127668

>>127550
>>127557
Sorry for the late reply..but thank you so much, that's some pretty solid advice. I'm shitting myself but I know I have to do it

Anonymous 127669

>>127606
I mean, I was thinking of the possibility. It's good to have some self awareness… So what is it that makes you think that?

Anonymous 127673

>>127669
nta, but maladjusted people can interpret fairly normal actions in a very malicious light. not saying you do this, but there's kind of a chance you do misinterpret the situation due to inexperience etc. happens to normal people too.

assuming what you're saying is objectively true, the things your alleged BPD has done do seem very plausible - however the BPD are drawn towards people with weak boundaries to begin with, which still kinda points to your maladjustment. strong boundaries prevent conflicts like this from being born and growing further.

but honestly, it's not very relevant to the question at hand, it's just nice to keep in mind.



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I feel so fucking cringe constantly and don't know what to do about it. Anonymous 127657[Reply]

We had a work social today, and the goal was simply to relax and connect with people. Still, it left me with the familiar feeling that my presence somehow makes things more awkward rather than better. Being one of only a handful of women in my IT internship and classes seems to amplify that insecurity. The other women appear confident, approachable, and well-liked, even when they’re shy or socially awkward themselves, and they don’t seem to struggle in the same way.

I can’t help wondering what I’m missing or doing incorrectly. I know I’m not conventionally attractive, and while I try not to dwell on that, it’s hard not to feel as though it puts me at a disadvantage. I’m not seeking romance or attention. Just genuine, low-pressure friendships.

I make an effort to reach out, especially to my female coworkers, but plans rarely materialize on their end, even though they seem close with each other. I’m respectful and well-meaning, even if I come across as a little odd at times. Despite that, it often feels like I’m standing just outside of a group I’m trying to be part of.

Anonymous 127660

honestly I just wanna say I sympathize while offering no real advice
I used to be like this but I can't put a finger on why I got better
probably the exposure effect plus people I feel comfortable with.
so are you lonely nona? do the people in your life uplift you or not?

Anonymous 127662

>>127660

Not particularly no. Most of my female influence came from my grandmother and then she passed when I was young. My mom and sisters never provided me any emotional or positive female support. So I just think lesser of myself more often than not.

I'm a bit lonely, I mean people talk to me but it's more last resort/floaterfriendy. So I don't feel a genuine connection.



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Anonymous 127647[Reply]

I suffer because I'm a conflict prone embarrassing bitch, but also, I feel like it sets me free. Life has no meaning without adversity. It just ends up feeling like constant following rules without any real goal in sight.

I'm actually a bit confused as to why I feel this way, maybe I have a personality disorder. It's an internal conflict: conflicts are tactically bad, yet they are not. Social failure is a loss, yet it isn't (like it's data or smth).
It's like I have to close my eyes on the bad consequences to get the good ones.

Any aesthetic images for this /feel/?

Anonymous 127649

i have diagnosed you with bpd

Anonymous 127650

>>127649
I don't really have a fear of abandonment and my relationships are pretty stable overall, but maybe there's something to this theory.

Anonymous 127651

>>127650
i wish and am trying so hard to have bpd right now get this fucking family away from me dawg!! please let these relationships disappear



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