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Anonymous 133604[Reply]

What is a controversial way to lose weight
Im a girl 5’6 and 190 lbs i was 145 at one point, but i got too comfortable.
I understand all you need to do is eat less and do more cardio, but is it safe to just eat a lot less like 900 cals a day, and then burn aprox. 1700 cals. Like obv ill be tired, weak and wtv, but how bad.
Can i get advice from girls who actually got extreme results. Thanks

Anonymous 133605

get worms or some sort of parasites


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Vent thread Anonymous 132763[Reply]

Again we need to vent
Previous Thread >>>/feels/129800
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Anonymous 133597

>>133585
>That's why you gotta lock your man down. Next time it happens, you gotta focus on getting him to become yours.

If he wanted to be loyal, he would be. You can lock him down, and he'll cheat or watch porn.

Anonymous 133598

>>133566
He was just using you for the sex.

Anonymous 133599

>>133566
> Like we barely talked at all or had a conversation or talked about interests. He just kept staring at the wall and at some point used his phone for a bit and I was just waiting for him to say something. I’d try to start a conversation and his answers were always one worded. He’s pretty different in text so I was taken aback.
Tbh that’s how I am and the people I’ve met were too. Somehow the conversations and the dynamic are just not the same irl.

Anonymous 133600

>>133599
Also from reading your post he just seems young and retarded (as moids are) rather than malicious. He acted like an ass and didn’t know how to treat someone on a first date. He couldn’t clean himself and thought microwaved fried chicken is a good dinner in this case not because he’s a manipulator (they do the complete opposite) but because it sounds like it’s his first day alive kek.
I just think framing it like he USED you gives him more agency than this moid really has.

Anonymous 133603

Not sure if I'm made for relationships at this point.

I tried dating a girl for the first time and it seemed great. She's someone that I've been friends with for a long time, I feel safe with her. She doesn't push for sex, but we still cuddle, kiss and there's a lot of affection.

But tonight she was really needy and I just can't. I really need my own space tonight and she's just refusing to give it at all. It makes me want to self harm so bad.


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any1 with psych ward experiences? Anonymous 133532[Reply]

Curious if anyone else has been to the psych ward/ mental hospital. TBH i don't know the difference. I guess some sort of admission to a mental place.

Right now i have stayed for 4 weeks and have 3 more to go. Life before is such a blur. It's so nice that we are kept busy nearly the entire day with all different sorts of therapy. And that there is always someone checking in and available to talk if you need it. I'm going to miss the other patients so much though. In our free time we sit in the common area together, each doing our own thing, but it's nice being together with other people. We play games and talk to eachother. It's very special to see normally depressed people open up and laugh so much. I feel sad for them that they struggle so much…
Anyway, though i really love my fellow patients I'm also aware of how much we are just in a bubble and influencing each other. Being around so many people with problems can't be good either. You are who you surround yourself with and stuff. For me I've been influenced seeing the other people's scars to fall back into old habits. I want to hurt myself and now I do because it seems so normal and it's a way to get attention from staff and for them to take you serious. I know that's my own responsibility but yeah. On one hand its so good but also damaging. I often hear people banging their heads against the wall. When I first came it was just 1 person but now it's 3… I have a strong feeling the others might have also been brought on that idea because of it.

I wish we could live together and just play games together and stuff. its different from having normal roommates because there is already an unspoken closeness knowing youre both struggling and in it together i guess. sometimes i talk to my old friends about things happening in the ward and they find it so shocking but tbh it's just normal and more like a funny story to me. but i guess thats stuff being normalized in my head…

anyway curious if anyone else might be in one rn or has any experiences they'd like to share
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I've never been but I drove there once and sat in the parking lot sobbing because I really needed help but I was scared of who I would have as a roommate and how I'd be treated if I got admitted. My friend just got sent back to the psych ward due to another suicide attempt, I've known her since 4th grade and this is her 3rd suicide attempt in her life (one in high school where she took a bunch of pills and drank bleach, one in college where she slit her wrists, and this most recent one where she overdosed on pills again). Last month she was in the psych ward too due to having a psychotic break, she thought she committed a cybercrime and threw her laptop and phone out her car window and was just driving all over the state. She is a people pleaser like me and now I feel like whenever I would communicate with her she'd be masking. We were emailing back and forth between her two psych ward stays and she seemed happy and motivated to put her life back together. I never asked her how her psych ward stays were, she always referred to it as "the looney bin" as a joke and showed me her grippy socks. I don't feel like I've ever been a good friend to her. I don't know when she's going to make it out this time and how to support her when she does. I'm so scared for her. She was still having paranoid delusions before she tried to kill herself again. Idk how we can ever trust that she won't try to kill herself after all this

Anonymous 133592

>>133532
What got you admitted nona? It's comforting to know that it's not a scary experience and you feel a sense of community with the other people there and you get lots of therapy. Truly I think my friend needs to stay at an inpatient facility for at least 7 weeks like you if not a few months, and then hopefully get on disability afterwards. I'm remembering now that she told me she felt like she didn't need her antidepressants at all while she'd been unemployed the past couple years. And then the second she accepted an offer for a new job last month all these problems started happening.

Anonymous 133596

>>133532
I was in a psyche ward for 4 months. I met a lot of nice people there. That was definitely the most helpful part in recovering, socializing with all the other patients during our free time. Most of the actual "program" though (group therapy, one-on-one therapy with the psychiatrist, physical therapy, art therapy, workshops, city outings, etc etc) didn't really accomplish much though.

Anonymous 133601

>>133591
>I don't feel like I've ever been a good friend to her
im sorry to hear you feeling like this. I hope you know you are not responsible for how she feels!! I wish it were that easy, I also don't like seeing my friends having problems- but it's their battle to fight at the end of the day.

>how to support her when she does
Honestly ask her if u can do anything! Say u are available if she wants some distractions and do something fun together. Nothing major, maybe a game, a walk, drawing, etc… Any hobbies she's into? and nona it sounds like you're struggling a lot too. I hope you also take care of yourself and your feelings!! If it get's to much (with her) it's totally okay to take a step back and give yourself some space!


>Idk how we can ever trust that she won't try to kill herself after all this
u can't. im sorry but being in the psych ward has also taught me how some people are just hopeless. I do believe everyone can get better- but they have to want it. And unfortunately people who are suicidal do not want that. Your friend can get better but it will require intense treatment- not this short visit which is only meant for while she's in active crisis. I'm talking a LONG admission. especially delusions and psychosis are very very difficult to learn to live with.
The issue there isn't (and this has to do with that some people are hopeless) always that help available, or financially possible. and again, people can only be helped if they WANT to be helped. Nd your friend does not seem like she's in that state of mind right now.

Anyway, I can tell it's taking a toll on you so pls take care of yourself!! wishing you both lots of strength

Anonymous 133602

>>133592
My ward has space for crisis patients (short visits to get you stable enough to be on your own) and longer admissions for treatment/stabilization or for observation/diagnosing.

I was first there as crisis patient bc i was really suicidal. We looked at options because i was really struggling with it, and they offered me a longer admission. A month later I came back and I'm here in the group of observation/diagnostics- which is shorter in comparison to the first group. I agree with you, i think for most people they will need much more time to really stabilize. it is normal in my ward to stay for 4-5 months if you're in the first group. In the ward next to us it is between 6-9 months. In the ward next to it is for very complex patients a year to a year and a half is normal. Keep in mind this is for very intense stuff though. For example someone is there right now after being a victim of sex trafficking.

So it all really differs from what your needs are/what responsibility you are able to have. Obviously it also really depends on the ward- like im sure it could also be a scary experience. and its hard work participating each day. i wish your friend goodluck!!


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How do I overcome? Anonymous 133514[Reply]

I work part time, my boyfriend works full time. He works 8-5:30 everyday, I work anywheres from 7 and 8am - 3pm, 3pm-7pm, or even 12pm-6pm.
I am constantly afraid that I am going to be cheated on or he is going to watch porn. We have conversations about it, it’s never argumentative, and he has been profusely reassuring me.

I am simply just not sure I can shake that feeling in my stomach and chest entirely. It’s truly impacting my ability to function at work and my inability to be away from him while he is home alone.
Do I put something on his phone to monitor his browsing?? What conversation can I have to make this stop happening??

I’m at a loss, caused by my own insecurity.
I do not know what to do
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Anonymous 133516

You're going to push yourself further into your head and believe he's cheating when he isn't, probably. To the point it makes you unbearable to be around. If he's reassured you, why don't you trust him? I'm not doubting you. You need to ask yourself honestly why. Is there anything that's remotely justified in making you feel like this?
>Do I put something on his phone to monitor his browsing??
Look, if he was that bothered he'd probably get a second phone or something for his cheating. You can never truly control or predict other people.
>What conversation can I have to make this stop happening??
Not TOO many of them, that's for sure. The paranoia might set him off tilt and make him believe you'll never have faith in him, causing other problems.
Like >>133515 asked, have you been wronged already before? Are you insecure about your looks or body? What's really going on. If it's a disorder you can be medicated for that.

Anonymous 133518

I once dated someone who was extremely paranoid that I would cheat to the point of making me remove friends from my contacts and the funny part is that they ended up cheating, next time someone acts paranoid about me cheating I'll dump them instantly, after experience that I haven't even felt like dating again

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>>133518
Excessive paranoia about a given topic is often like that, projection. They know they do these things, have these vices, and thus assume everybody else does as well. They project their own guilt onto others.

Anonymous 133583

>>133514
if you are consistently paranoid about being cheated on it means you have low self-esteem. you need to increase your self-esteem either with some mental exercises or physical..

Anonymous 133589

>>133514
All males are porn cucks. They love being emasculated by other men.


tired Looks perfect Anonymous 133575[Reply]

I look beautiful, but for 2026 lately there are a lot of anxieties in my life, like having to choose suitable clothes or beautiful makeup. I am mentally exhausted and stressed, confused about the appearance I want and how my friends always dress beautifully and use good makeup, also on social media, so I have to always look as perfect as possible so that I am not outdone by my friends and look perfect on social media you know times have changed

Anonymous 133584

r u stupid

Anonymous 133587

You're too young to be here.

Anonymous 133588

Also, that song sucks.


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Is S/A the only way? Anonymous 133444[Reply]

I've never been pretty (maybe I never will). Even my family made (and still) jokes abt that, and as a child I belived it even if it was just a joke, since growing up there was no boy even wanting me and other girls made fun of me and never took me seriously as a friend. Only one men has touched me and it was my grandma's husband, I still feel gross, if I was unloveable already, that made me a fucking monster. But I can't let that go, what if that's the only time I can feel desired and will never happen again? I'm scared, I try to be skinnier by fasting and exercise, I don't have a coventional style (since I like visual kei and alt things in general) but I try to look pretty with it, but still nothing happens, I need some nice man to touch me and feel everything is okay, but until then, I'll only have the image of a old man licking me, and I'll never be able to forget that until I feel real love.

Anonymous 133446

This seems like bait but if not, I'm sorry that happened to you. Love is out there if you want it but be discerning when choosing a partner. Nobody is beneath love

Anonymous 133460

That old man was an inhuman monster. There are still good people out there; they are just much harder to find now.

Anonymous 133465

No, allowing yourself to be the victim of incestuous abuse will only make your life a trillion times worse at least. You should tell somebody about this especially if it happened while you were a child

Anonymous 133481

>>133465
Based on the fact she called him "her grandma's husband", instead of just "my grandpa", I'm assuming she isn't blood related to her abuser, which would mean it wasn't "incest" technically. But it might also be some language barrier thing, maybe her first language isn't english, and thus my interpretation is faulty, as it's based on subtleties in the phrasing of her statement. Or she said "my grandmas husband" as a way of coping, because confronting that he's her genuine, biological grandfather is too difficult for her.

Anonymous 133557

>>133481
Banging your in laws/step family is qualified as incest in some places where it's illegal though. And I doubt him seeing her as some sort of granddaughter wasn't part of the appeal for him


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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
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Anonymous 133496

I often think about all the girls I’ve ever interacted with on here and how we’d probably be good friends if only we knew each other. When I feel lonely and I think about how I have no fellow female friendships, I get even more sad because I start to think of all the other girls like me… It sounds so silly but I really love all my fellow lonely girls that I’ll never ever meet or even know… It’s a bittersweet comfort. Of course that’s not to say all cc users are lonely neets or anything kek, but the ones I’ve had the small pleasure of interacting with, have felt so similar to me

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Thinken about buying an apartment share in my country.

Okay, so here's the deal. Here an apartment can have multiple owners with each one having their own share. They can also SELL those shares to other people. Of course nobody wants to live with strangers, so these usually go at a steep discount of 40% and more. This usually happens when the family is full of retards that can't get along kek so some are willing to do this anyways. There are seemingly very decent prices for very decent options.

Maybe I should just go full psycho and get one of those. I am completely and utterly unbothered when it comes to other people's presence in the same room. Only concern is them fucking with my personal items.

It's an actual business scheme for some people too where they buy a share and just become insufferable to live with so the other owners sell their share for nothing too.

Anonymous 133546

There's a very weird subtype of moid I see occasionally and it's the kind that suicidally tolerant and "understanding" of all kinds of shitty behavior. What the fuck causes this? That's like one one of the few reasons I genuinely might need to cut off a person completely.

>oh this person who told me to fuck off and that i'm a cringe retard? haha yeah well who knows they may turn around :)

Anonymous 133548

>>133546
Reminds me of my ex. People would do all sorts of shitty things towards them and he would just make up excuses for it.

As nice as it is having someone who is very understanding of you it sucks when they don't stand up for you or even themselves because they're so laidback and willing to excuse poor behavior. Have a spine, please.

Anonymous 133549

I wanted to start well the last 3 months but I just feel drained these days.
I know my job won't be pretty for some part of October, but maybe is that I feel I have nothing else and I ran out of excuses to convince myself otherwise


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Only Child Anonymous 133251[Reply]

This thread is intended to be a safe and relatable place for only children to share their unique experiences and perspectives.
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Anonymous 133494

>>133276
19 day shift, rip

Anonymous 133501

Seeing people accuse only children of selfishness is certainly something. I feel I'm only so chill about sharing my belongings and accommodating others precisely because I've never had it expected of me or forced onto me inside my own home

Anonymous 133526

>>133501
Give me $400

Anonymous 133527

>>133526
Okay, details?

Anonymous 133528

I'll send you a couple pennies, if you insist. Since you need it. My only child generosity knows no bounds


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im a pathological liar Anonymous 133502[Reply]

title. basically all of my life ive been making shit up about myself and there hasnt been a single person in my life to whom i havent lied to excessively. i do this because i really hate myself and my life so i dissociate by inventing new lives and personas for myself. nobody knows the real me because ive lied so much. there are countless chunks of my identity that are entirely made up and it doesnt help that i tell everyone a different story. im too deep into these personas to stop or fess up. i compulsively lie about even the smallest things like what i had for dinner for example. its a lifelong pattern and i abandon everyone before they can figure out that i am full of shit

Anonymous 133503

Yeah yeah so the typical lolcow/tumblr poster. What else is new?

Anonymous 133505

>>133502
What are some of the bigger things you have lied about nona? You might as well say it here. I’m curious

Anonymous 133511

Nature or nurture? Why're you like this


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