How did the job offer come around? He offered you unprompted, or what?

>>134069
We work in the same field. I have many years more experience than him. I messaged him on social media to ask for help finding a book I thought he might have access to. We otherwise rarely ever talk on social media. Then he just offered.

>>134074
It's best to assume all men are capable of ill intentions as it allows you to best prepare yourself for the worst case scenario, rather than having your hope of a decent, amicable connection crushed and your composure left unguarded.
The issue becomes a question of whether or not you think he's likely to be cruel about his ulterior motives (romantic slash sexual interest), or just the sort to leave open the chance to sleep with you. A lot of men hold space in their minds for the possibility that something could happen between him and a woman he thinks is at least not ugly. Do you know if he's a sensitive person, or the type to drop things easily when he's been slighted, even if a joke is an offense? Is he calm? What kind of things does he talk about, if not work?
It's hard to read the body language of men if you aren't accustomed to being around them, but most of the time it's not worth worrying about until they say something inappropriate. When they get more personal with their questions, asking whether you've got a partner or not, that's an absolute guarantee that he's feeling out the available room to behave in a certain way, predicting what he can get away with.
Decent men tend to at least try not to look at your boobs if they're "out", and that behaviour of dodging their eyes is usually more obvious than the staring, although sometimes they'll find their eyes drifting back to that spot when they don't want them to (the same way one can keep making awkward eye contact with a class mate across the room in their line of sight, and can't stop doing it after realising that they are.) You can try wearing a completely chest and torso covering outfit like a baggy shirt and see if he still flicks his eyes over your body, or if he changes how he treats you based on what you wear.
If the conversations are mostly in text and he doesn't push too often to be in person with you, that's a calm sign as of now. He could still be playing a long game, or he's.. nice and not really thinking about that. Maybe he's hired you for the really simple reason that he knows you from when you were young and thinks your personality is a fit for where he works.

It can be hard to hold suspicion against others as it complicates how you see them and might lead to misinterpreting true intentions. So it's not healthy to overthink it, but it's still safe to assume thaPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>134029
He's enjoying stringing you along, he likes that you're on your knees at his mercy, stop this bullshit and realize when you're the one running away they start to chase

>>132837

They're called "sneaky fuckers". Its a specific type of white knight man who pretends to have the morals/beliefs that he thinks will get him laid. It's a slimy way to get into your pants. You're better off trusting men who disagree with you because at least they are honest and won't lie.

I'm almost graduating as a pharmacist. While I'm waiting to defend my master thesis i started working in retail pharmacy and fuck I hate this so much what the hell! Customers are a pain in the ass, I probably use 5% of what I learned and technicians that did a 9-month online course are doing the same I do for 100€ less, and have no worries or responsibilities. Can't wait to officially graduate, and move to either hospital or follow the academic route. They're shitty as well but at least I'll be a little happier. Oh well.

In the room where women come and go, talking of Michaelangelo

>>134075
And I have seen the eternal Footman hold my coat, and snicker,
And in short, I was afraid.

right? Loneliness isn’t enough. They’re calling their own mothers whores, I hate these subhuman rats with my whole being.

men expect to get away with this behavior because they often do. so many women stay with horrible men and get trauma bonded and when they realize they need to escape it's too late cause they have a kid and the house is in his name, she doesn't have a stable job and he isolated her from her friends and family.
women that are lonely insecure and have trauma are ridiculously easy to manipulate and trauma bond. they literally say "my bf does [insert insanely horrible thing here] but he's nice otherwise what should i do> :(" and it's sad.
a lot of women are very lonely and will do anything for a crumb of affection and warmth from a man. and they used it to their advantage. most don't respect or love you but will pretend to be the nicest and sweetest guys you met.

Forced celibacy due to a lack of safe and reasonable options for partners is not a sex specific phenomenon. I hate their bullying, whining attitude.

I don't hate men of my own inspiration. They hate me first and I respond accordingly. None of them are true incels nowadays, just fakes who can't get stacy and feel wronged by nobody throwing pussy at them

i didn't even want to hate men. i am happy to simply live my life without them. just ignore them. truly neutral. but every time one finds his way into my life, its for the worse. and every time i hear news about men, either in my private sphere or a public man, its always something abhorrent and inhuman. i dont want to hate them but they make it hard not to

>>127819
A femcel server I used to be on was a server called Femdom. Would you happen to know of it by any chance?

>>127821
*Femceldom
My mistake

I don't think femcel spaces can really exist without being fetishised, targeted or internally sabotaged. It's so grim. I wish they were around and immune to being ruined

can i get a prayer. can i get a prayer, anyone

>>131889
A prayer for anything specifically?

Regardless may god bless and keep you always friend. God stays with anyone who wants to be kind and better themselves in this world.

>>131964
nothing in particular, all i wanted was to see who'd reply. thank-you

i pray for your light to illuminate my face. Please show me your light.

If a prayer can be contained in text, if I can send out a hope with no effort at all, if I can love and be loved without knowing a single bit of flesh, if I can ask God for anything, if I can be so presumptuous, if I can dare and deal with remaining unrewarded, could I ask, please, for the goodness in this world to win over the dark

Tired of getting sent to a therapist and it not helping? or tired of being a therapist friend? what do you mean

>>133810
Does he have an equally generous and clingy friend by chance?

I'm about to sponsor my bf of 3 years. Sometimes, I wonder if he's just using me for a visa and a lot of people say he is even without meeting him. We met online but we've also met in person. His only red flag is how secretive he is. He only uses Brave browser on incog and has 0 search history on his phone and his computer. He also does not want to post me on his social media (he claims he's just not active online). I fear he'll use me as a stepping stone into the USA and discard me when I'm no longer of use to him.

best case scenario:
>get to spend forever with someone I love.
>cheap rent

worst case scenario:
>he uses me for a visa
>we divorced
>I might be financially in a hole since I'll technically

even worst case scenario:
>he's a pyshco/ physically abusive

>>134050
He clearly has something to hide. I've met people that aren't active and they've never cared whether or not you post on their socials.

Check his. Do not take no for an answer.

>>134050
>>134051
As much as I hate to agree with this, this is probably true. The mature way to go about handling this is just to tell him how you're feeling about it and ask if you can see it. His reaction will tell you all you need to know. The best outcome is that he shows it to you without a fight, break up circumstance is if he fights over it and it's suspicious if he says yes but tries to make you wait for it.

>>134050
Men hiding internet activity is always suspicious
He's probably into some illegal stuff or has multiple gfs like you
And yeah he could be using you for visa, did he invest inyou at all (send you money etc)

>>133863
sounds normal, just make sure to put a towel under you

very late to this but - it sounds like you might have a weak pelvic floor . it usually happens post-pregnancy but yours could be genetic or from incontinence from smth else. i'd just put a towel down when u guys have sex , maybe ask your doctor about it if you think it's really concerning.

>>133863
The bladder is close to the "hidden" part of the clit. When it's full, it pushes against it. So when you masturbate with a full bladder you're basically having your clit stimulated from two sides at once.

>>134048
holy shit

>>134052
What?

What do you mean, bad things? Robbery? Battery? Cancer? Rape? Getting felt up in a crowd?

I'm certain sexual assault is way underreported. I'm just an ugly weirdo who never goes out or talks to anyone and even I've been groped, and when I redeemed my free scrotoid thinking a romantic relationship would alleviate my loneliness, he pressured me into sex, held me down, tried to control me financially, all the usual things men do to socialize.

>>120729
My hot and controversial take is that you're not wrong. Who knows what's good or bad?

>>120729
you’re probably not even an actual sociopath, just an asocial neet who never leaves the house. nothing bad ever happens to you because i’m guessing very little at all happens to you.

>>121556
women with male friends and partners, women who go to school, women who go to social events, women who use substances, women are socially naive or shy or easily pushed around, autistic women, any kind of woman who struggles with boundaries or are socially isolated.. like what do you think happens to shy lonely women who hang out with very few people and end up alone with a creep who sees they would lose everything socially for speaking up? do you think most boyfriends are patient when waiting to get laid? men will push women to over indulge on substances or pretend they are more wasted than they are to come on to women inappropriately. it’s fucking constant and most women at high risk have multiple risk factors.

Most people are dumb and naive. They trust people easily and that's why they unfortunately end up being victims a lot. Some do learn from bad experiences and use that to have people pity them for extra attention, it's fucking weird.