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my bfs porn addiction makes me want to cheat Anonymous 129689[Reply]

my boyfriend’s porn addiction is making me lose my mind. I first found out about it in early August but I keep finding out things he’s lying about. At first he framed it as just watching a random video then closing. Then, I found out he used to pay for OF while we were together. after this, I found out that he was doing this shit the entire time before I found out and he had a twitter account for OF egirls + bought an anime porn game. He first blamed his problem on our relationship issues before I found out he was doing it the whole time.
He said that what I sent him wasn’t “enough to look at” compared to porn despite him literally being overweight with a receding hairline (quickly apologized but still).

After I found out about the OF stuff, I started cheating on him online. I was a very popular cosplayer and used to make lots of money off of my looks, so it feels weird and makes me feel resentful because I feel like he doesn’t admire my looks like this. Flirting with girls/guys online feels like an escape from feeling like I’m ugly + feels like a gotcha. It makes me want to show off my body and for a while I even thought of doing gravure work when I move back to Japan. I feel horrible for doing this. I used to hate male attention, but I feel relief when a cute moid hits on me. it’s like a “atleast someone appreciates my looks”.

He’s been a great partner and has been treating me amazingly since but I still feel this way sometimes and I feel like a horrible person. What should I do? Am I a bad person?
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Anonymous 129814

If you're as skinny and pretty as you say you are, then what are you doing dating a balding fat porn addicted, erectile dysfunction having moid? I don't even feel sorry for you at this point because from what you say you apparently have the access to get a much more decent moid who's actually handsome and doesn't jerk off to porn all day. Skinny women should never settle for fat men, they're disgusting, smell bad and have ED. Plus you're in the cosplay community, there are tons of model looking men who are in the cosplay scene. The world is your oyster when you're a skinny woman and you can have access to 90% better looking moids. You're only shooting yourself in the foot.

Anonymous 129914

strawman^strawman type thread

Anonymous 129971

>>129689
men will never give up porn. no matter which moid u get they will always want porn so if youre not ok with it you will never have a moid.

Anonymous 130011

Go to therapy?
Porn addiction is an addiction, you can't stop it by wishful thinking and just saying "no stop that".
Think of it like training a dog, if a dog shits on your carpet or steal food from the kitchen you can yell all you want or even be abusive to the dog… but that's not how you make the dog stop, it needs conditioning and training.
Just talk with him, make him admit he has a problem and look for practical ways to end this addiction, maybe through therapy, taking part in some programs, joining some groups and whatever, he'll be extremely embarrassed but accountability can help dealing with this shit by using this embarrassment as a way to stop doing it.

The real question is if you actually love him or not, because dealing with an addict of any kind is an ordeal.

Anonymous 130140

>>130011
porn addiction is not considered a real addiction medically speaking. it's not in any real diagnostic manual because what porn consumption is considered "healthy" is extremely subjective. A behavioral approach is sometimes taken if its really, really severe and the person in question sees it as a problem/is bringing them distress. OP can have whatever boundary they wish to set but a therapist isn't going to treat them for paying for a few OF accounts and having a porn twitter like its a serious problem unless they're a wacko fake christian therapist. sorry. if their boyfriend doesn't see it as a problem, which he almost certainly doesn't, it just won't be treated as one. i know people on here are extremely antiporn, but moral opinions aside, at the end of the day it's just not the same as being a crackhead lbr and won't be treated as such.

regardless i think OP should leave because they're bf is fucking bald and ugly. hello???



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Anonymous 130046[Reply]

Why should I have to settle for an ugly man just because I'm an ugly woman? I hate ugly men.

Men can impregnate multiple women at once so all women should just be able to share the few actual good looking men.
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>>130061
That's how gorillas do - they share parenting among their troop with females and even the male silverback helps. Gorillas are one of the more involved male parents in nature.

Anonymous 130120

You're probably not ugly. Society gives women self esteem problems, while most men look like naked mole rats by age 30 because they refuse to do a single hair treatment. don't settle.

Anonymous 130132

>>130060
It absolutely matters that they're beautiful becaues of the mountains of abuse they dole out. Even if I'm average, and don't wear make-up I'd rather be single than with an unpredictable man whom god knows how they're going to turn out, what they're going to do, unless I at least FEEL SOMETHING. Going with uggos feels like getting scammed twice by moids whom are imfamous for their violence, and sex abuse.

Anonymous 130133

>>130118
Yeah well I'm not looking a bara gorilla men no matter how you try to psyop it to us moid

Anonymous 130134

>>130132
It literally doesn't matter if I'm plain. The fact is I feel repulsed my men less if they're very attractive. Most of the time yeah I'm just not going to bother at all.



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Anonymous 130074[Reply]

I am a schizoid woman. I spend most of my time thinking about nebulous stuff in my head and doing solitary activities such as diy stuff, tinkering with computers, trying to make various stuff and all. I do not enjoy talking to other people unless they’re invested in my interests. Usually if I speak with someone I just wait for the conversation to end and for them to go away. I have little clue as to why other people are entertained by what they are. I prefer interactions where I don’t need to adapt to the other persons sense of normal. That’s why I dislike groups and often end up antagonistic towards them unless I have a big presence. I don’t have strong attachments.

That is just who I am.
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Anonymous 130101

Also I enjoy games because you can be competitive there. If someone is better than me, I want to become better than them. Others relying on my skills feels good too. So maybe there’s some ego involved.

Anonymous 130128

Okay, I think at this point I’m gonna have to concede that using an actual ide is better than just a notepad. I can’t keep up with the changes anymore.

Anonymous 130129

I love this youtuber, she hits my exact areas of interest. If you want some nerdy computer stuff to listen to I recommend her.

Anonymous 130131

>>130130
Aren’t you a vtuber listener? So it seems right up your alley

Anonymous 130137

>>130136
There’s a lot things that are beyond you, don’t stress your stunted brain over it.



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Vent Thread Anonymous 129800[Reply]

Again because we need a gazillion of these
Previous Thread >>>/feels/125413
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>>130066
What a goofy thing to say. Sure everyone just give up modern medicine, modern luxuries like indoor heating, and the easy consumer lifestyle of just being able to buy shit like spoons without having to craft them yourself. Sure just give all that up to…let's see…die in the wilderness. Genius

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>>130068
Obviously as a female you can't follow the advice. You need society to survive, but for men they can easily leave society and be much better off.
Society is a waste, it won't give you anything but a hole in the ground. Who the heck cares about medicine? You're gonna die anyway. Stay away from things killing your soul and rising up bitterness in your heart.

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>>130065
wait… you're not ?
>um akshually if you're unhappy, you should consider stoppeeeeng
oh my god it said the thing !
nonas, get a load of this SICK NORMALFAG FUCK

Anonymous 130093

>>130073
If you want attention you can just post that

Anonymous 130125

I keep thinking about the fact that I'm gonna die and so are my family members and I'm genuinely feeling like I'm gonna have a meltdown over it. I have no clue how to cope with it honestly, grief is just so hard to deal with for me, my dad's side of the family is getting older especially so I know I'll have to deal with their deaths sooner or later



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Unpopular Opinions Anonymous 129936[Reply]

Share any unpopular opinions you hold here.
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>>129936
I wish men and women were kinder to each other. Casual sex and online dating has killed love and romance and turned us into commodities. I think couples should try just a little harder, and not treat each other as something disposable or break up over meaningless stuff. We've only got one life to live.

Anonymous 130117

>>130116
this isn't an unpopular opinion ngl, especially not on here or any women centric site. not necessarily disagreeing tho

Anonymous 130119

>>130057
What even is this definition? Fruits and veggies are not strict distinctions, so I consider anything that's fruity and worthy on a salad plate as fruit. Else relegated to the veggie-sphere.

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>>130056
>>130024
Man therapy highly depends on what exactly ails you, and differs wildly from person to person, what their environment is, how do they think through stuff etc. Most therapists treat it like a doctor would - read from a book on how to treat it, follow the instructions, ignore the patient's direct response etc. In practice it's more like bending a piece of wood, you gotta know how flexible it is in the first place. A therapist has no idea what you've been through. That outsider perspective should be complemented with proper guidance but most therapists don't do that.

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>>130121
Yeah except most doctors aren't in a field with a replication crisis and dubious scientific efficacy.



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Poly & "ethically nonmonogomous" people in dating Anonymous 130104[Reply]

I'm dating in the city, and I've noticed that poly people will just not leave me the fuck alone. It doesn't really matter how clear and polite I make it that I'm not interested in being with multiple people, these people will continue to push you, prod you, try to get you drunk to sleep with you or worse fucking lie to you about it for a long time. It's not even just men, a lot of the times its women, especially bi women pimping themselves out for their boyfriends, even lesbians. These people will make a big stink about how what they're doing is the most humane, down to earth, ethical way to fuck someone even while actively pushing your boundaries, even after straight up hiding this from you to take advantage of you. At this point I'm pretty sure some of them just have a fetish for coercing people into this shit.

I had someone reveal this while fucking me after talking to me for weeks, and I've reached a total breaking point.

This might be too much of a Brooklyn problem, but if you're in any major liberal city I'm sure you could throw a stone and hit any of these creeps. Anyone have any idea wtf is wrong with these people? How do I get them to leave me the fuck alone and go fuck each other instead?

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>>130105
This answer feels really profound, but I'm feeling like the second scientist unable to totally understand it. Nonetheless thank you.

Anonymous 130109

>>130105
Even the birds know city girls are no good. Nature is healing

Anonymous 130113

>>130109
I've encountered these freaks are in the suburbs too. no need to feel so special, sadly.

Anonymous 130115

This is a big simplification but I think it’s natural to reduce people to sex objects when you’re poly. It’s impossible to get invested into so many people at once and usually poly relationships develop pretty quick, worse yet, you’re becoming a sexual object for multiple other people at once. Hell, if monogamous relationships were designed to take care of your offspring long term, what are the modern poly relationships designed for then?

I’m having a hard time explaining this, but I hope the general idea is there.



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Anonymous 130107[Reply]

I'm not sure if my boyfriend cheated on me or not. He tried to meet up with his ex but he hasn't. Didn't? I'm not sure. Everytime I try to talk about it he seems to sigh a little, maybe it's out of shame. I love him so much. He told me he wanted to stay. I'm letting us stay together, but I'm so nervous. I want to trust him again. I'm tired of being a paranoid schizophrenic about this. I love him so much. I don't wanna get hurt again. This is a horrible, no good, bad thing, isn't it? He held me and panicked a whole night with me about it. Oh, geez. Geez, geez, geez.

Anonymous 130108

>He tried to meet up with his ex but he hasn't. Didn't? I'm not sure.
I mean do you have any evidence that he did?

Anonymous 130110

>>130107
If he's thinking about his ex enough to try and meet up, he's 100% thinking about fucking her. I'm not saying you should break up with him but if I were you I would assuming what you're saying is true and he did try to meet up with her. No guy is meeting up with his ex to just talk unless they have kids together or he's trying to fuck.

Anonymous 130111

>>130110
Not defending a moid but how do we know he's thinking about her?? OP what is making you fixate on his ex? It might be healthier to let this relationship go either way if its bringing you so much turmoil.

Anonymous 130112

>>130111
Based on what OP has said I assume he tried to arrange a meetup which means he was thinking about her. Maybe she tried to meetup with him and he agreed before deciding not to. In either case it seems like he intended to cheat

Anonymous 130114

>>130112
Couldn't tell if she just thought he did or something from the "but he hasn't. Didn't?" but maybe i'm just special needs.

>I'm letting us stay together,

I mean, you're not going to listen to us, but just leave. moids are plentiful and most are low quality.



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unheard Anonymous 127364[Reply]

song lyrics
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I ain't got no panties on
Ain't got no panties on
I ain't got no panties on
On the dancefloor

Anonymous 128636

It took so long to remember just what happened
I was so young and vestal then
You know it hurt me
But I'm breathing so I guess I'm still alive
Even if signs seem to tell me otherwise
Got my hands bound
And my head down and my eyes closed
My throat's wide open

Do unto you now what has been done to me
Do unto you now what has been done

Tool- Prison sex. The latter half of the songs explains how abuse comes full circle, the abused become the abuser. Abuse like this leaves a hole in you that only seems to be filled when you hurt others. But you never truly get your power back.

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Yo, listen up, here's a story
About a little guy that lives in a reddit world
And all day and all night
And everything he sees is just reddit
Like him inside and outside
Reddit his house
With a reddit little window
And a reddit Corvette
And everything is reddit for him
And himself and everybody around
'Cause he ain't got nobody to listen (to listen)

Anonymous 129769

Rubbbin on her back as I suck on her NIPPLE!
Mane dis gal stacked butt cheeks like a HIPPO!
Jimmy crack corn Im gon bust on her LIPPO!
Jimmy in my cup my nig take a SIPPO!
Down by da benz so her cheese gonna FLIPPO!
Left the hotel with a limp like a CRIPPLE!
Pretty like highs and her smile had a DIMPLE!
Make her twat hot like a bust on a PIMPLE!

If you thinking I'm straight then you better think twice
Say you ain't got no cheese then I'm Jekyll and Hyde
'Bout to click on this bitch 'cause she need to learn me
Beat her with my pistol when I thought she burned me
It's the first of the month, you can call me Sambo
I'ma dick this ho down 'cause I like to gamble
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Anonymous 130064

you will never be a woman

cuz a woman has a womb, not a man

you can never be a woman

that's tough for some folks to understand

you will never be a woman

try as you might you look like cher not snow white

and while they take our rights away

you're up at night deciding if you're queer, bi or gay
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i hate being short Anonymous 129782[Reply]

i hate being short no one takes you seriously and peopl talk about how "cute" you are as if thats somethinf good and not extremely infantilizing. my self confidemce would be significantly improved if i was at least 5`6. short bodies look like shit in general, if youre skinny you just end up making yourself look even smaller and more fragile if youre fat your body starts to look all lumpy and your proportions seem off, if youre muscular you just look retarded any type of volume on short bodies ends up looking retarded. you cant win
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Anonymous 129791

6 inch heels for you

Anonymous 129792

>>129791
im gnc + live in a cold area + theyre uncomfortable. i wish i wasnt malnutritioned as a child so id be at least a little taller

Anonymous 129794

I somehow have multiple +180cm friends and family members old and young, they all complain about it and have horrible posture because they're afraid of standing up straight(bent knees, hunched back). They say they're attracting too much attention and younger ones say they get made fun of. They should be glad they're statuesque and you should be glad you're cute.

Anonymous 129795

>>129794
>you should be glad you're cute.
doesnt really match my personality and the traits that i wanna present. wish there was a way to trade

Anonymous 130062

>>129785
> Muscular looks weird, fat looks weird
hard disagree, unless we're talking obese or too muscular/too low fat percentage, n that case it looks off-putting no matter the height



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