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i think my ex is gonna take his life Anonymous 130574[Reply]

i am 20 he is 24 he wanted to break up with me yesterday and i agreed, he then switched up and wanted to get back together and has apologised. i have ignored because he has done this before and i am really worried because he tried to force himself into my house whilst i was sleeping but my mum came to the house and she told him politely to go away so he gave her gifts for me. i did not want to break up with him but he never listens to my boundaries and has done loads of things to break my trust like reaching out to his ex and although ive moved on from certain situations because i am forgiving i have overtime built up resentment against him which is why i agreed to him breaking up. he is extremely emotional and is manipulative/gaslights when he wants to get his own way but i checked his twitter today and he has posted self harm on my tattoo i made of him and all over his arm and he has told me if i broke up with him he woudl take his life and so i am really worried because i still love him but he is destroying me mentally and draining me, the reasonwhy i didnt want to see him is because last time he flipped out he came tomy house and took this £600 mirror we both paid for but it was partially a gift to me and i took it badly as i wanted that mirror for over a year i am so worried for his wellbeing because recently he has completely changed his mentality and i am scared i told him i am worried to see him because i am scared he is going to harm me because he told memany times he could kill me and i believe him because he shares the same mentality of someone that would kill a girl because the girl has broken up with him and i love him a lot so sorry if i am not typing normally i am just really worried for him and for me too and im scared hes going to take his life wether intentional or not because he has done heroinin the past to try and kill himself im so fucking worried man

Anonymous 130575

why do you care whether this faggot kills himself or not (respectfully)

Anonymous 130576

>>130575
>>130575
becausei still love him a lot but its hurting me so bad that hes doing this i feel like its in my hands if he takes his life

Anonymous 130577

>>130575
my father took his life and i still think its because of me and i am living in this world and i dont know why everyone dies because of me

Anonymous 130578

>>130576
he is basically your wartime enemy with how much he hurts you, so him dying should be a good thing

I mean he's just exploiting you fuck that guy



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Anonymous 130386[Reply]

Do you guys ever just stop mid goon to cry? Like seeing people have sex and wanna have sex with each other just makes me want the same thing so bad.
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Anonymous 130542

>>130391
>I want a genuine human connection and love but modern men are incapable of doing that

Im kinda sure they can say the exact same, Stacy(TM) have make it so no man with two or more brain cells would go talk/approach any woman

Anonymous 130558

Consider that most moids want to abuse and degrade you in bed, what they're watching is far less wholesome than what you're watching

Anonymous 130560

>>130386
Just have sex with another girl.

Anonymous 130562

>>130391
what's the reason behind ur celibacy

Anonymous 130573

It takes active effort not to sit down and cry when I'm out and about and I see cute couples holding hands



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i hate work i hate i hate work i hate work i hate work i Anonymous 130572[Reply]

>girlboss it in the trades nona! rosie the riveter, nona!
>lots of money there nona!
>learn skills nona!
>it's not like the old days anymore nona!
>you definitely won't end up face-down ass-up on a disgusting man's disgusting truck floor like the world's least expensive prostitute nona!
If there are any other nonas in trades here - how do you put up with this world???
i could rant for HOURS but basically while i actually enjoy fixing things and being active and i don't mind getting a bit greasy, i just cannot deal with the people in this business. 95% of guys in trades are literal stone age far-left-of-the-IQ-bell-curve cavemen who salivate at any useless shiny bauble that says "Milwaukee" or "Snap-On" on it and THROW their money at the salesman offering 50% interest financing plans, condemning themselves and the GFs and wives they often somehow have to a life of debt slavery
My sister is like "oh at least there are hot guys" lmao these guys inhale hot dogs and soda and "self-medicate" totally avoidable bad knees with weed and vape. The soundtrack to every day is my colleague's douchecore spotify algo playlist (literally Nickelback, late Eminem i.e. "Ass Like That" and Thong Song and Kid Rock). Not attractive
The couple (literally 2) cute and possibly interesting boys I've met in this business have been taken and too painfully shy/awkward to get to know well respectively
Everything is filthy and disorganized and if you try to be a bit more orderly and organized yourself, apparently that makes you a princess
the vehicles are all disgusting because apparently guys who drive them all have no self-respect
I feel like my friends are slipping away because we can't relate to one another's daily lives and when I get home I just feel exhausted and like time is passing with no way to differentiate one day, week, month from another
Anyway that's all, just getting older with a wrench in my hand and my ass in the air and my face in the dirt


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Anonymous 130074[Reply]

I am a schizoid woman. I spend most of my time thinking about nebulous stuff in my head and doing solitary activities such as diy stuff, tinkering with computers, trying to make various stuff and all. I do not enjoy talking to other people unless they’re invested in my interests. Usually if I speak with someone I just wait for the conversation to end and for them to go away. I have little clue as to why other people are entertained by what they are. I prefer interactions where I don’t need to adapt to the other persons sense of normal. That’s why I dislike groups and often end up antagonistic towards them unless I have a big presence. I don’t have strong attachments.

That is just who I am.
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Anonymous 130555

The-Protection-Aga…

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-imprinted-brain/201302/why-early-blindness-prevents-schizophrenia
Did you know congenital blindness is supposedly protective against schizophrenia? People who become blind very early on or from birth have extremely low rates of schizophrenia and psychosis.

This is what a lack of a sense can do to someone. I wonder what it means.

Anonymous 130557

this is where I got all of my knowledge about philosophy

Anonymous 130561

>>130550
Yup I have that. And nope you don't need relationships to be happy. Was SUPER dysfunctional and angry as a child in an adopted home, but it was nothing but chaos in that house ontop of my own internal chaos so. Well you can guess how that would go. I want NOTHING TO DO WITH PEOPLE. I find pure joy in mastery of something and people are just kind of there but idk what to tell you either. What do you expect people who don't want attachment to do?

Why do you care if people love constant discomfort/pushing limits for fun ? I mean people do this all the time and they're the ones that usually excel. I don't care if you don't like my priorities you should just focus on your own.

Is it because you're a moid or a pickme misogynist that it makes you uncomfortable? Well enjoy your misery then idk what to tell you

Anonymous 130568

>>130561
You should try excelling at reading comprehension sometime soon

Anonymous 130571

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ok

what I've read is that Fourier series is all about describing a function using only sines and cosines, this makes sense to me.
So for example this here in blue is a sawtooth function.

Another book says the Fourier transformation is what our brain does to interpret sound, really it applies any wave-like phenomenon.
>There's a whole book on it – look for "The Fourier Transform" by Ron Bracewell. That book can change your life by building intuition about what the FT can do. (hint: it's a lot).
Wow… I want this book to change my life

I understand this a bit better now

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Vent Thread Anonymous 129800[Reply]

Again because we need a gazillion of these
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Anonymous 130523

>>130428
I'm just so scared of getting fired. I really need this job and I'm already not the greatest worker on the team (ADHD & executive dysfunction).

I had the realization that this is likely going to happen every job, though, so I need a strategy. Like when is a good time to stand up and say don't talk to me like that, when do you talk to management, when do you talk to HR. HR is a bit of a joke at my work though. I don't think they care unless there is like a threat of violence or a lawsuit.

Anonymous 130524

>>130523
You are literally me nona

Anonymous 130525

Probably going to get a significant pay cut, fuck everything.

Anonymous 130559

Since nonas are venting about jobs I'm going too

This is the second time I'm doing the job I like and 6 days in and they already want me replaced. Apparently I'm not talkative and bubbly enough.
I quit working at a store for that job because i though it would be slightly better but now I regret it. I wish I stayed working at that store, at least my coworkers didn't suck and i didn't have to be bubbly and shit. I might ask if I can work there again

Anonymous 130569

>>130167
>My mom has like 10 times the average wage in debt.
>Is this just motherly instinct? Or is my mom just extremelly Kaijipilled and actually based?
She has a problem obviously and you guys really need to do something about it before it wrecks your family. Especially when your father doesnt know about this. Its only a matter of time before he will know about this, and then shit is about to go down.



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Anonymous 130046[Reply]

Why should I have to settle for an ugly man just because I'm an ugly woman? I hate ugly men.

Men can impregnate multiple women at once so all women should just be able to share the few actual good looking men.
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Anonymous 130418

>>130417
Whatever if your samefagging is over I want to hear about others opinions, you're clearly mentally ill and delusional

Anonymous 130422

There's something so comforting about violence. To know underneath all the haughty ideals and carefully constructed masks we all wear is a bloodthirsty primal rage is reassuring. A world of nonstop violence…one can only dream of such pleasures.

Anonymous 130554

My feet are too big no men will ever love me

Anonymous 130563

>>130554
men literally love women with huge steppers though

Anonymous 130564

>>130373
Idk, I have a history of being bullied, left out by friend groups, etc. My current fellow sales associates, who by the way are all beautiful women, bully me horribly.

I have been more mistreated, and abused by my fellow women than by men, not even animals could be as abussive and aggressive.



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unheard Anonymous 127364[Reply]

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>>130513
yeah I noticed too lol

Anonymous 130517

>>130064
If they act like women then they're women

Anonymous 130518

>>130517
Debunked by ragtime ravs song

Anonymous 130553

Seven years later…

You will never receive this message little one. No one will ever know what took place here. No one will remember us. This message will roam the stars long after we are gone. Maybe you are out there somewhere. I would like to think so. You will never know that we existed… …but you did exist.

I wanted to give your life meaning. I wanted to give your life purpose. I wanted to give you a childhood, and maybe get to experience a childhood with you. I know that my efforts will fail. I suppose I've always known that. But I wanted to tell you that it doesn't matter. You already had meaning, little one. You meant something to me. You gave my existence a purpose.

You did exist. Your life was important, as small as it was. I wanted to give you a childhood, but it was never meant to be. But still… I can't help but hope that somehow I was successful.

Only you could know.

Was I successful, my little one?

Anonymous 130556

>>130517
Wow, halloween must be really scary for you.



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I (22F) think I want to break up with my boyfriend (24M) Anonymous 130531[Reply]

I think I’m reaching the end of my relationship and I can’t tell if I’m finally becoming honest with myself or just spiraling.

The weirdest part is that my boyfriend has no idea how much manipulation and performance existed at the beginning of our relationship on my side. Not even in a cartoon evil way. More like… I knew how to become what he wanted emotionally and I did it very intentionally. Sometimes when he says romantic things to me now, I get this horrible detached feeling because instead of hearing sincerity, my brain immediately goes: “yeah, but you engineered this.” Like I built the emotional architecture and now I’m uncomfortable living inside it.

But then another part of me wonders if ALL relationships are kind of like this to some extent. Maybe most people just aren’t self-aware enough to interrogate attraction and attachment this hard. Maybe everyone performs a version of themselves in the beginning and then later feels trapped by it. I genuinely can’t tell anymore if I’m uniquely toxic or just hyper-conscious of dynamics most people leave unexamined.

Lately I’ve been thinking about ending things. I can feel him trying harder to get closer to me, texting more, being more attentive, wanting reassurance. It almost feels like he senses me slipping away. And instead of making me feel loved, it makes me feel trapped and guilty. Sometimes I can’t tell if he actually deeply loves me or if he’s terrified he won’t find someone else who fulfills certain emotional needs for him. Then I wonder if I’m the reason he feels that way now. Like maybe I slowly trained him into emotional dependency and now I resent him for it.

What’s also confusing is that one of the reasons I liked him initially was because he felt normal compared to me. Grounded. Socially functional. Less mentally tangled. But over time he started becoming stranger, more isolated, more emotionally intense, and I genuinely can’t tell whether that was always inside him or if being close to me dragged it out. I hate even typing that because it sounds narcissistic, but it’s honestly something I think about a lot.

And despite all this, he gets under my skin in a way nobody else ever has. It’s almost physical. Certain tones in his voice or certain phrases instantly trigger rage or disgust or panic in me and I become obsessed with analyzing WHY he has that effect on me specifically. Sometimes I think I’m psychologically studying him more than loving him. WhPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 130533

>>130531
You're just describing a social mask. Almost everyone does this as a way to connect with others. I remember when a teacher first mentioned the concept to me in school and I had absolutely zero idea what the hell he was talking about because I had never filtered my thoughts, opinions, or actions for anyone and so the concept was entirely foreign to me. In any case you seem deeply unwell and I don't mean that as an insult. You seem uncomfortable in your own skin and unsure of who you even are as a person. He's dependent on you and you hate yourself and so his goal of satisfying you is unobtainable. Seek the truth. You know where it is.

Anonymous 130547

So basically you both entered the relationship thinking the other was a different person and now that you can't keep the masks up you're finding out that you don't actually like each other and on top of that you sound like you're at least somewhat co-dependent.

Have you actually talked to each other about this? Like, the things you wrote. If you haven't then that's the place to start and if you have and you still feel like this you should probably part ways. Whatever you do, the most important thing is to learn from it. Being yourself isn't easy, especially when you're unsure of who exactly you are, but if you want a healthy relationship then it's non-negotiable.

You might want to look into therapy no matter what happens, though. You sound like you're dealing with some pretty thorny personal issues.

Anonymous 130549

>>130531
I think you are definitely too much in your head, don't ride the rollercoaster of emotions so close, I used to do that, because those emotions easily betray you.
One day you feel like he did something that you resent him for and feel like it's over, then the next morning you'll miss him and want to hug him again. Basically don't be too hasty and expect easy solutions for your feelings.



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Dealing with trauma Anonymous 130538[Reply]

I survived COCSA when I was in middleschool. Everyone in my family knows, yet none of them talk about it (I don't really expect them to), and I'm too scared to tell anyone. Since it happened, I have had to deal with this by myself. This of course didn't go well, since time after time, since I was eight, I've somehow ended repeating the same situation where I'm degraded sexually.

I have only learned one thing from all of this, and it's the reason why I feel I should step out of dating for a while (although predators always find a way to slip into your social circle ). But I have also learned that anything that you "seek" in a man, you can already give it to yourself.

Dating feels amazing, but if you're doing this for a specific and selfish reason, you should really question if whatever you're looking for can already be found within yourself (or other relationships like you girlfriends). Be kind, take care of yourself.

I hope things go better for me. I'm tired, terribly tired of going through the same situation agan and again. After all of this, I unfortunately forgot how a normal relationship should feel like. One where I don't feel disposed after they…well.

Anonymous 130539

>>130538
I wish you luck in your search for peace. Peace will always come from within.

Anonymous 130540


Anonymous 130543

>>130538
>I'm too scared to tell anyone

Well, you did, right now.
I wont lie telling you that i know how you feel, but know that there is people here who are with you, we can hear you and keep you company on your struggle.

Keep it up :)

Anonymous 130546

>>130538
I hope you find peace, and it's true, if you need someone to make you feel better, you're not seeking a relationship, you're seeking a remedy, something to heal your lust/solitude. We should heal by ourself first and foremost.



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