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disowning my entire family because they are extreme trads. advice? Anonymous 133684[Reply]

My family, including extended family, is extremely trad. Beliefs vary a little bit but for the most part women shouldn't go to college or vote, premarital sex is evil, dating around is evil, and not having kids makes you a whore. They're like christian jihadists essentially.

"Women's rights" wise my parents were actually better than my extended family because they wanted me to be educated and to work, they just wouldn't pay for any college. (They paid for my brother, lol). But my parents fucked it up for themselves because they beat me really bad and started calling me a whore the moment I got my period. Real Carrie shit. I still have an eating disorder because I was mostly fed their leftovers and just never developed an appetite. Just real bizarre shit. My point is, I have no familial ties to any of these people. Like they're just nothing to me.

My main obstacle is getting a job that pays enough. I'm on medicaid and am getting psychiatric help but it might be a long road to normalcy. I had a full time job once and had a nervous break that stopped me from sleeping for five days. I'm really scared to go back to work after that but I've tried a few part time jobs and gig work since then and I found a few things that I could cope with I think.

My main fear is that they come looking for me and start a lot of drama. Does anyone else have experience with this? Are they allowed to just stalk you in the USA if you're related to them?
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Anonymous 133690

>>133684
What you're talking about is protective order when its against family, and the details vary by state, but you have to provide proof of the abuse. Did you document any of it on your phone ? Do you have paperwork from therapists or school counselers who can vouch that they knew you were being abused? They can be locked up if they walk through a protective order

Anonymous 133691

>>133690
I spent my whole childhood trying to get that but never could get any adults on my side. My mom was wealthy and in a political position, I think she just had an insane ability to get people on her side.

I think my best bet is just moving really, really far. but she was recently fired for misusing company money so maybe I can use that somehow?

Anonymous 133693

>>133691
You're mom is extremely wealthy, in politics, part of a company but she thinks women shouldn't vote???

Anonymous 133694

>>133691
Unless they use financial leverage i dont see how they can make you do anything after the age of 18. You dont have to let them in your home, you can block them on your phone/ social media, and anyone who associates with them.

Anonymous 133696

>>133693
literally yeah. I don't get it either. it's not direct politics, but influences politics. many of the plastic surgery addicted maga ladies are the same way.

>>133694
i guess i can just call the police if my parents show up. but ehhh. a stranger broke in to my friends house and we had to fight him because the cops just thought we were all crackheads. i don't trust anyone.


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Vent thread Anonymous 132763[Reply]

Again we need to vent
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Anonymous 133664

>>133651
>Do you like working out or lifting weights?
No…I know it's important and I should change my mindset about it. It seems to be so easy for some people…
>seperate my body perception from attractiveness and more towards ability and health
How do I do this…

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>>133664
Well when I started pursuing active hobbies like rhythm games (dance dance revolution, PIU), it helped me view my body for how it functions which helped a bit. Also if you get good you start becoming proud of what you can do. Same for running or weights. Basically for dissociating body=sex object/sex appeal. You can be proud of your body in other ways… There's also other metrics you can pay attention to that aren't am I bigger or smaller or more attractive but rather are you achieving your goals? This works even better if you naturally like improving.

Finding something active that you like is best, could be a sport or lifting etc. Once I got involved enough at one thing other active hobbies became more appealing as well. You can also eat more which is sick. Getting smaller is just misery, there is just less of yourself. You might also be going insane bc you are cutting weight btw.

Anonymous 133682

Wow, I don’t know if I’ve ever been this calm about the idea of suicide before. It’s not like it isn’t familiar to me but it doesn’t even seep into my head during just “really bad moments” it’s 24/7. I’m thinking of the best way to, if I could do it without a trace, etc. I am thinking about it with such a casualness. It wouldn’t scare me if it weren’t for the fact that it isn't an intrusive thought. I know what I’m thinking about and it doesn’t seem like an emotional reaction or response, it feels like a course of action. Something that I may have to do. Any day I could do it. And I could see myself doing it. It gets much more realistic each time. I guess this is my sign I should find something to live for. Or not, I don’t know

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>>133650
First of all, congratulations! Losing weight isn’t easy—it requires a great deal of determination and discipline, so well done on your efforts! You needed this, primarily for the sake of your health; don’t worry about what others think of you for now. Be patient—based on what you’ve described, your body has gone through a sudden change, but this is just the beginning. You should focus on some form of exercise; as the other mentioned, weight lifting is an excellent option. It’s certainly not easy at first, but over time you’ll start to enjoy it, and it could really help with the shape of your body.

>>133679
Thanks for bringing that up—it’ll definitely be a huge help, especially for her health and self-esteem. In my own experience, combining weight training with cardio and a proper diet worked wonders; my body still isn’t perfect, but I’m very happy and fulfilled

Anonymous 133695

>>133650
>>133683
Play moid games win moid prizes
You're still performing for ugly moids


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keep wanting him while having a boyfriend Anonymous 133677[Reply]

I have a bf but I keep thinking about a past guy. We were good friends and both liked eachother. But eventually drifted apart. I frequently thought about him.

2 months into my current relationship we coincidentally had contact. it felt so good, we talked for a couple of days. there was always so much unspokenness between us so then i texted him: i want to be honest with you, i used to like you and it was good to talk to you again but i think its better to let go now and not talk to eachother anymore. I didn't mention my boyfriend.

we had a good last conversation and he said he respects my decision and he regrets not having asked me out, and that it'll be difficult for him to let go but he's glad we're on good terms.

but still (2 months later) we keep having these small interactions on social media. i can tell he is still paying attention to me and i am also to him. I check his profiles every fucking day. Sometimes even while I'm with my bf. He doesn't know i have a boyfriend now. I think that would hurt him and he'd feel deceived. It's my responsibility but i also keep seeking out interactions with him and make it clear i still think about him. I look forward to like texting him next year to ask how he's doing.

i just feel so shitty. i know i should probably remove him from socials to minimize this and move on. but I don't. I want to hold the door open. It feels so good thinking back to us and fantasizing about what could've been. Our chemistry was so insane and talking with him felt good in so many ways. He's also really funny and I feel like there's more I like about him than my boyfriend for example. And yet I love my boyfriend fully for who he is and i want to spend my life with him. part of it might also be that i feel like im a difficult person to love and my boyfriend is so supportive and i don't think i'll find that in other guys. I'm scared that if i were to pursue somethign with the guy it'd fall apart or something or it'd be like i deceived him because i have so many issues. then again i also had those thoughts with my current boyfriend- and despite my worries we turned out really well.

my bf is so patient with me and understanding and loves me so much. its not like he's treaating me wrong and i'm missing something in the relationship… i just suck

I wish my bf would break up with me or something.. so i could have an excuse to pursue the other guy. But I know that won't happen. idk whaPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 133678

Trust your instincts. Your boyfriend cannot satisfy you. Break up with him and ask the other guy out.

Anonymous 133680

Might want to sit down and write some fanfiction about where do you think that insane chemistry would take you if you choose this other guy. From the post we don't get much, just that you like his talks.

It will help you understand how much of what you're seeing is actually there or just things that you wish were true when there's not much in reality to support that idea in your head

Anonymous 133681

>>133678
Do not. Do not listen to this.

There are going to be lots of moments in any relationship where other people seem enticing. This is normal. Other people are going to seem more exciting because you don't know them. They are fresh, they are new, they are different.

And that is entirely why this is a mistake. You have a perfectly good boyfriend. You know him, you feel safe with him, you feel comfortable with him. You've spent a good amount of time with him already and you know you that you're compatible together.

You haven't actually dated this other guy. You don't know what he's like in a relationship outside of how he wasn't ready to commit to you earlier when you were closer(red flag).

You're already emotionally cheating given how much you're fantasizing while interacting with him. Your boyfriend doesn't know and won't have to know but if you go further you might just end up with someone who isn't consistent and will leave you with nothing while losing your current boyfriend too.

Anonymous 133685

thank u all for the replies. I want to elaborate it's not that i'm idealizing the guy. we were friends for a while and I started to fall in love with everything i got to know about him. For me new people aren't 'enticing' at all because I want a connection before anything else. In my opinion friends to lovers is the way to go. That's why it's difficult with him because we already have a history and I know him. And truthfully his qualities resonate more with me than the ones my boyfriend has.

>>133681
your comment brought me back to reality. You're right it's crazy to think about breaking up for someone who isn't even clearly communicating with me. When we had the conversation he showed regret not being more direct with me and asking me out. But he still isn't doing that- maybe because I told him i didn't want anything more. Then again, I also said he could always text me if something was up. So he knows he could ask me. Instead he is making playlists with my name on spotify and telling me in the description to reach out to him. I won't interact w that anymore. If he actually were to communicate w me I'll say I'm in a relationship now.

thank u nonas <3


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No affection Anonymous 133482[Reply]

out somewhere today
see this couple absolutely shameless about PDA
holding hands, hugging, leaning all over each other, the whole thing
they looked genuinely comfortable with each other

meanwhile I’m sitting there thinking about how I barely ever get affection
never experienced affection from a man either
never been intimate with anyone
honestly don’t even really remember what a proper hug feels like anymore

not even trying to make this into some “woe is me” shit
just got me wondering what it actually feels like to be loved on
to have someone want to hold you, touch you, cuddle you, whatever
must be a weird feeling when you’re not used to it

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Anonymous 133493

>Do you just eventually stop thinking about it?
Yes
If you're alone for long enough you'll sooner or later reach a point where you stop caring altogether, because there's no other option.
You can, if you want, counter some of the sadness by remembering all the things you aren't at risk of (or at lower risk of) by being alone, such as stds, stis, cheating, physical abuse, arguments, infections transmitted through kissing, partner perpetrated misogyny, betrayal, pregnancy, vaginal tearing, awkward moments that don't feel soft or funny but instead embarrassing, lies, judgement based on how you age, loss of love with the only one willing to give you affection/intimacy, nasty in-laws, your partner using porn.
But nothing will replace the void of wanting someone to share your life with, there is no cure for it. The pain only dulls

Anonymous 133498

>>133489
Surely a sign of mental well-being

Anonymous 133507

>>133482
idk if this pov will help you since I'm in a different moment of life but, having a pet is indeed a nice way to cope with loneliness.
I got dumped couple years ago through phonecall. It really hurted me since it was a long distance relationship so intimacy was a rare thing and cute words were few of the things we used to share each other. Hurted even more knowing that I'm a really shy and introverted person, dating is a pain in the ass with my personality and my looks don't help either.
During that period of time, my cat got her sterilization so needed a lot of care. Passing so much time with her calmed my anguish of the sudden breakup and nowadays me and my cat are quite close, she likes sleep on my lap while I study or play games. Not every cat likes contact but if you are clingy enough with them during their early days, kittens end liking being hugged or getting pet unprompted.
Reading and exploring hobbies you didn't tried out before also helps a lot to cope with the sadness being alone for too long carries with.
Im sure youre going to find the affection you need sooner or later.
Hope I explained myself a little I'm ESL, I wish you the best.

Anonymous 133660

>>133482
I apologize if this becomes rambling and off-topic.

I've only experienced affection a few times in life and they were brief. There were short relationships that I entered into over the years, but they were devoid of affection and my attempts at it made me feel rejected and used. For a long time, I just acclimated to it. I forgot about my earliest experiences with romantic affection because it was so brief and happened when I was a teenager. It was easy to forget it had happened at all. My later experiences feeling so taken advantage of and rejected for wanting tenderness made it feel even more distant and hazy.

Last year, almost exactly, I was pulled into a whirlwind romance that I was unprepared to handle. The idea that I could be desirable has always been alien to me, but I was going to therapy and I was trying to build up my confidence. I didn't think love bombing was a real thing, but she told me she loved me very early into the relationship and I was stupid enough to think she meant it. In fact, I second guessed myself - was I taking advantage of her? Was I using someone vulnerable? I always do that because I think I'm this ugly, terrible monster and she was so beautiful and beautiful people don't take advantage of ugly monsters because they don't need to. It made me deepen my commitment. When she asked me to tell her I would never leave her and never abandon her, I told her. When she asked me to tell her I would love her forever, I did. Every time I told her, I believed it and somehow I convinced myself that it went both ways - if I would never abandon her, she would never abandon me. I caved the moment I felt like I was really being loved. I realize now she was just using me to get over her last relationship. I was very stupid and naive and pathetic.

It still upsets me to think about what I did and what I accepted for her. I comforted her when things were hard for her. I listened to her when she needed someone to talk to, even when I needed someone to talk to. I endured her horrible, mean parents who always found something to find me unworthy over. I put up with her friends who said hurtful things about me behind my back, things she knew I was insecure about. I let her into my home and I let her sleep in my bed. I made myself small for her because she wanted to feel like she had power over something and I wanted her to stop fPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 133665

I guess I just pour myself into personal projects, I wouldn't mind being supportive of someone in an emotional way though I think it's good to have someone to talk to


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Worried about cheating friend Anonymous 133666[Reply]

I'm a close friend of two people who later became a couple. They've been together for a year and 2 months now, and I'm worried that my female friend is in the process of cheating on him, or has already cheated on him.

She's been taking a class for the past four months, and that's where she met a guy. I've seen the way she looks at him, almost with longing in her eyes.
Over those months, they went from simply getting to know each other to:
>texting about class stuff
>making excuses to meet up and spend time together
>leaving together after class
>taking public transportation together after class
>texting about their lives and interests
>texting each other at around 11 p.m. or midnight
And so on.

Apparently, HE asked HER out weeks ago. She said she had a boyfriend, he said no problem, and I was happy. I thought it was over and that we'd dodged an incoming storm…
EXCEPT that my friend texted HIM a couple of hours later.
Ever since then, they've gotten even closer, added each other on all their socials, started sharing stuff, etc.
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Anonymous 133672

>>133671
So be honest with both of them about. Tell her you don't like what she's doing and you won't stop it, but you will tell him because he's also your friend and that regardless of what she does you still want to be friends with her and your other friend, even if you don't all hangout together.

At that point if she declines she's just being petty.

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>>133672
That might be the move, but either way I think I'm losing both no matter what, and maybe I don't WANT to keep talking to her after this to be honest…
I've never seen or heard about a woman in a relationship rejecting someone because she had a boyfriend and and then trying to claw the guy back in while escalating things, it's like she instantly regretted it.


I just feel sickened by how she's treating her boyfriend, I would've never expected this from her, and this is just from what I've seen and what she has told me so I have to imagine the real thing is even worse.

Anonymous 133674

>>133666
>EXCEPT that my friend texted HIM a couple of hours later.

LOL this slut was put in the spot and has been trying her absolute hardest to revert that.
That's just shameful, poor bf.

Anonymous 133675

>>133667
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Anonymous 133676

>>133673
> I just feel sickened by how she's treating her boyfriend, I would've never expected this from her, and this is just from what I've seen and what she has told me so I have to imagine the real thing is even worse.

I don't understand. This is your own friend. Someone you're supposedly very close to. Don't you think it's possible that she could just simply be getting carried away?
Sorry Nona but if she's really your friend you'd have a little faith in her. You'd feel comfortable talking to her about your feelings. You're failing her by not coming forward.


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College is an isolating experience Anonymous 132499[Reply]

college has been such an isolating experience for me, at the beginning i had a lot of friends because im naturally extroverted, i would talk to pretty much everyone, then i realized the same people i interacted with every day were talking shit behind my back, after that i just lost interest in being part of big groups, later i mostly hung out with two of my best friends, then i found out they were talking shit about me too, during all of this i kept trying to self reflect and figure out if i had done something that made people treat me like this, i genuinely couldnt find anything, i was always kind to them, i would help them however i could, even with my closest friends, i know i have flaws like everyone else but i honestly tried to be the best version of myself

then i had a guy friend catch feelings for me, i rejected him, after that things got even worse, now i basically have no real friends in college and every day just feels weird and isolating, im lonely most of the time, i feel like most of my class doesnt like me and it sucks because i havent done anything except be kind to people or stand up for myself when someone treated me badly, a big reason people dont like me is because the guy i rejected spread rumors about me and everyone just believed him because hes popular and basically a microcelebrity, then i found out some girl in my class was telling a guy that i wear makeup every day because i want attention and that im nothing without it, its just exhausting, it feels like no matter what i do people will come up with some reason to hate me, after a while you just stop wanting to bother with anyone, sorry if this sounds like im victimizing myself

Anonymous 132504

Join clubs! I went to the board game club and found friends there.
After 3 years I still talk to 0 people in my classes.

Anonymous 132506

>>132499
Go talk to that guy who had a crush on you. It's easy.

Anonymous 132507

>>132504
My college doesnt offer clubs except for singing and dancing, i dont reallly enjoy any of those :(



>>132506
he's a big time retard and wants to fuck me, i donot like him and i can bear his retarded personality he's all about flexing

Anonymous 132508

>>132504
>board game club
Fuuuuuuck no

Anonymous 133663

>>132499
happened to me too nona. some places are just weird as fuck. make friends online instead


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Anonymous 133653[Reply]

I was raped yesterday

Anonymous 133654

I'm sorry.

Anonymous 133657

>>133653
Bro…

Anonymous 133658

What happened? Who did it? Did you report it?

Anonymous 133659

Let's rape them back


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Is S/A the only way? Anonymous 133444[Reply]

I've never been pretty (maybe I never will). Even my family made (and still) jokes abt that, and as a child I belived it even if it was just a joke, since growing up there was no boy even wanting me and other girls made fun of me and never took me seriously as a friend. Only one men has touched me and it was my grandma's husband, I still feel gross, if I was unloveable already, that made me a fucking monster. But I can't let that go, what if that's the only time I can feel desired and will never happen again? I'm scared, I try to be skinnier by fasting and exercise, I don't have a coventional style (since I like visual kei and alt things in general) but I try to look pretty with it, but still nothing happens, I need some nice man to touch me and feel everything is okay, but until then, I'll only have the image of a old man licking me, and I'll never be able to forget that until I feel real love.
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Anonymous 133460

That old man was an inhuman monster. There are still good people out there; they are just much harder to find now.

Anonymous 133465

No, allowing yourself to be the victim of incestuous abuse will only make your life a trillion times worse at least. You should tell somebody about this especially if it happened while you were a child

Anonymous 133481

>>133465
Based on the fact she called him "her grandma's husband", instead of just "my grandpa", I'm assuming she isn't blood related to her abuser, which would mean it wasn't "incest" technically. But it might also be some language barrier thing, maybe her first language isn't english, and thus my interpretation is faulty, as it's based on subtleties in the phrasing of her statement. Or she said "my grandmas husband" as a way of coping, because confronting that he's her genuine, biological grandfather is too difficult for her.

Anonymous 133557

>>133481
Banging your in laws/step family is qualified as incest in some places where it's illegal though. And I doubt him seeing her as some sort of granddaughter wasn't part of the appeal for him

Anonymous 133647

The only way is to name and shame your abusers, post his picture


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Anonymous 133622[Reply]

I've never had friends in real life; all my friends are online, and I'm not close to them either.
My family has been making fun of me since I was a child, and I can't trust them.
I’ve just entered adulthood, and I don't think I’m going to have a good life.
Euthanasia is illegal in my country, and I’m too much of a coward to commit suicide.

I don't know how I ended up with a life like this since I'm not bad looking, neurodivergent, or anything like that

Anonymous 133625

do what you can

Anonymous 133626

It's not hard to be friendless, a lot of people are friendless in 2026. Usually they make do with family even if it's one or two relatives. As that doesn't seem to be the case for you there's not much else to do but gamble to be more open and vulnerable so you can find somebody to trust and get a close friend at some point.

Life will still feel like a drag in the meantime, but you know that's no real reason to end it.


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