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Vent Thread Anonymous 129800[Reply]

Again because we need a gazillion of these
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>>131575
> I think it's very cool you managed to make girl friends, because it has been so hard for me
I honestly never did. I don’t think even now I have genuine female friends besides one woman I have known for 16 years, even then I think we’re cordial at best.

It sucks being a person that desperately wants connection yet is unable to do so with most people. Without my SO I’d be so fucking dead. I was so lucky to meet someone who’s literally me but male.

I’m sorry I just ended up talking about myself in the end. I guess I just wanted to share something.

Anonymous 131580

And I guess to answer your question, unfortunately meeting the right people comes down to luck and not being afraid to be vulnerable sometimes. All that’s left is to keep trying.

Anonymous 131592

Bf made me watch him play a game that I 100%d and it made me so exhausted like I was full time babysitting someone
Next time I’ll say if you want to do something together let’s just do literally anything else

Anonymous 131593

>>131579

I think it's nice that you share stuff too, at least, it's hard for me to open up to people in general to the face.

Being nonas with nonas, completely anon is not as scary as staring at others who know where you live and what you do and stuff.

I managed to meet very nice women, young, nearby my age at the college association I joined. The issue is, although I'm the "nerdy" one there, even if they are nice I still do not fit into them like they do naturally.

I have seen women multiple times. Multiple, studied them. Even dated them.

Despite all of that effort, women often get along you better when you are more calm and often do not even try to hang or impress them. The less you try to impress them and more you try to be one with yourself is how you become friends with women.

And the wanting to impress them would be after you accept your individuality and self first, and second you accept theirs.

Perhaps that is what I need to put into test myself, accept that even if they are all different than me and I might never meet another woman in my country, speaking my mother tongue, who likes the same I do.
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I didn't buy SpaceX stock.



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i hate being short Anonymous 129782[Reply]

i hate being short no one takes you seriously and peopl talk about how "cute" you are as if thats somethinf good and not extremely infantilizing. my self confidemce would be significantly improved if i was at least 5`6. short bodies look like shit in general, if youre skinny you just end up making yourself look even smaller and more fragile if youre fat your body starts to look all lumpy and your proportions seem off, if youre muscular you just look retarded any type of volume on short bodies ends up looking retarded. you cant win
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Anonymous 130062

>>129785
> Muscular looks weird, fat looks weird
hard disagree, unless we're talking obese or too muscular/too low fat percentage, n that case it looks off-putting no matter the height

Anonymous 130229

there are some benefits if you ignore looks. short people have lower centers of gravity and are far more aerodynamic. gives you an insane advantage when biking.
beyond that, i haven't noticed any perks to being short, just many small humiliations.

Anonymous 130230

>>130229
If you're smaller you need less food too I guess

Anonymous 131595

Being cute is amazing. You can get away with anything, even staying in the room.

Being small makes people more comfortable around you, if you are sharp tongued they might find you funny and let you live longer in danger situations.

Being cute and short is a good combination if you know how to use it properly in social dynamics, tall people might treat you like a child and you can use it to your advantage.

It might be uncomfortable if you are not used to your body, the faster you learn to move and control your life from your body the happier you will be.

Anonymous 131599

>>130229
Also, less likely to have a heart failure than tall people and wounds heal faster.



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bf didn’t follow the three month rule Anonymous 127558[Reply]

i was proposed to but there are a lot of red flags and i’m really having some doubts. for starters it was an impulse proposal and i wouldn’t have wanted my engagement photos where i was dressed the way i was. he let me leave the house looking like absolute shit and only posted the ugliest photo. the other photos i don’t have a double chin. other girls have best friends that take them to do nails and secretly get them ready. a female friend was there and knew and didn’t do anything to help me with my appearance beforehand. he bought the rings there. i don’t know if he thinks i’m fat but my ring is sized so poorly i can’t wear it and we’ve been turned down so far at the shops we’ve taken the rings to because they don’t work with cheap metal or rings they didn’t sell there. like it’s not a size too big it’s dangling off my finger and i have no idea why he thought my finger would be so huge it makes me want to cry. my friends are all furious for me. he doesn’t make that much money it’s true but he could have gotten me a real ring. and then i came home. and i found out his ex got proposed to the same day. the same. day. and she had been aware of it and had a spa day with her friends and a gorgeous engagement shoot and party with loved ones. and it’s not even her real engagement party. hes talking about whether or not i think she’ll send him the announcement “to rub it in”. they have mutual friends and i can’t help wonder if my engagement was a last minute response to her engagement so he could post ours first? she had a professional photographer and mailed out announcements before she posted online about it. my engagement photo shoot was also an impulse - we were on a walk with a friend and he snapped some pictures and we called it an engagement shoot. my ex had been talking about his exes prissy snobby etc engagement and i think our friend felt bad for me. since then, he’s disappeared inside himself. he’s on the computer all day. he wouldn’t even pay attention to me right after at my dads birthday party, just sat in a lawn chair in his stupid yellow shirt drinking beer after beer scrolling on his phone occasionally hiding his phone screen trying not to make eye contact with me. we had a talk about it and i said i wasn’t insecure and my friends have been supportive and game with me when he won’t. he got jealous and has been making an effort to join in now and NOW he has a problem with screen time and wants to go out. to places he used to go with his ex or placePost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 127769

>>127733
>>127740
>>127768
everything in this entire relationship was about her. she called him out and they had a friend group destroying fall out as a break up. he was alone for years. she mocked him when he bugged her. he suddenly gets inspired to get the exact job, move out, get a girlfriend, try and change his facial hair, fix everything she mocked him for and he even told me he had her to thank for his self improvement. i thought lucky me he grew. until i found out what he’s really like and that he’s still stalking and obsessed with her. i found out he has weird private messaging apps he deletes and puts back on his phone. i can’t get past the password. i think he uses it to spoof a number so he can text her even when he’s blocked or something. i found out so many things we did together were about her - she made fun of him for a certain unromantic date he took another girl on and be posted pictures of me on the same date and talked the entire time about how she wouldn’t like it but i’m okay with it. he said something similar about my own proposal. they had a niche motif throughout their entire relationship he’s suddenly made ours about. as she’s getting married with the same theme. only her wedding is a fucking destination wedding. i wouldn’t be surprised if when i walk out he finds someone else and in half a year i’ll see he did this same wedding with someone he views as interchangeable just to try and make people compare it the one woman who was apparently one of a kind to him. i think he’s going to try and get her to stop the wedding. i wish she didn’t have me blocked and i could talk to her. i don’t know how to find her like he does. i’m going to look over his shoulder more and hopefully i’ll catch a glimpse of something on one of his apps that will help me locate her. i have a feeling i don’t even know the half of it and talking to her while reveal how fake this entire thing has been. we also got engaged after barely knowing each other. a year and a half when his ex took 5-6 years of dating her husband is crazy. i had a sinking feeling when it happened when we were on such bad terms and the only thing that saved our relationship was planning the trip he proposed on. on a walkway nPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 127773

>>127769
after a certain point of having so little in my relationship to talk about i started making content about how we eat different foods from each other even though we both have ARFID because there was literally nothing else in our relationship to make content about, including both of us gaming but none of that ending up as usable content because of his personality. maybe i deserve an affair where it feels like there’s blood in my veins again. the sitting around watching a man unable to eat vegetables rotate through the same five junk food meals that make his cum taste like battery acid has me thinking maybe there is more to life than meal prepping for a 30 year old toddler and watching him fart and disassociate staring at a screen.

Anonymous 127942

>>127773
What the fuck do you mean an affair. Run away ASAP nona, nothing will fix him. It will only get worse, get out before it's too late.

Anonymous 130648

HERE LIES NONA
???? - 2026
she died as she lived; in a relationship with an awful man

Anonymous 131598

>>127773
Nona what the fuck what is making you stay with him

Make a book and monetize or something because I rarely see people actually experiencing this crazy stuff, you know? I actually think, that if you made a book you would sell it asap. Really fast, like Colleen Hoover but you are writing something real.

I actually desire you the best for your future writer career.



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i think my ex is gonna take his life Anonymous 130574[Reply]

i am 20 he is 24 he wanted to break up with me yesterday and i agreed, he then switched up and wanted to get back together and has apologised. i have ignored because he has done this before and i am really worried because he tried to force himself into my house whilst i was sleeping but my mum came to the house and she told him politely to go away so he gave her gifts for me. i did not want to break up with him but he never listens to my boundaries and has done loads of things to break my trust like reaching out to his ex and although ive moved on from certain situations because i am forgiving i have overtime built up resentment against him which is why i agreed to him breaking up. he is extremely emotional and is manipulative/gaslights when he wants to get his own way but i checked his twitter today and he has posted self harm on my tattoo i made of him and all over his arm and he has told me if i broke up with him he woudl take his life and so i am really worried because i still love him but he is destroying me mentally and draining me, the reasonwhy i didnt want to see him is because last time he flipped out he came tomy house and took this £600 mirror we both paid for but it was partially a gift to me and i took it badly as i wanted that mirror for over a year i am so worried for his wellbeing because recently he has completely changed his mentality and i am scared i told him i am worried to see him because i am scared he is going to harm me because he told memany times he could kill me and i believe him because he shares the same mentality of someone that would kill a girl because the girl has broken up with him and i love him a lot so sorry if i am not typing normally i am just really worried for him and for me too and im scared hes going to take his life wether intentional or not because he has done heroinin the past to try and kill himself im so fucking worried man
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Anonymous 130688

>>130574
his life and deaths are absolutely not your responsibility. if he threatens suicide, thats just a manipulation tactic. he has hurt you before and he will hurt you again when he has the chance. fuck this guy.

Anonymous 130696

>>130574
his life and deaths are absolutely your responsibility. if he threatens suicide, thats a genuine cry for help. he has hurt you before but he definitely will not hurt you again when he has the chance. save this guy.

Anonymous 130712

>>130696
What the fuck are you talking about. This faggot moid needs to get over himself and stop manipulating this poor girl. Did you not read the part where he threatened to kill her before? Handmaids like you should stay quiet.

>>130574
Any updates?

Anonymous 131596

>>130696

Not really, depressive men who kill themselves do it.

Men who tell women about it want something in exchange.

It's about time that if she does what he wants, unless she actually acts like a sane person and contacts a ward or his parents (if possible) to care for the problem. If she acts like if he deserves her time after being, what she described, then she would end up being manipulated if she does as you say. Obviously.

A handmaiden would take the matters as her responsability to care for the emotional needs of man who hurt her, as to feel a person.

A woman as a proper adult, will just contact the proper adults for this situation as a mentally ill man is not acting properly.

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Guys I was memeing



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Lifelong depression Anonymous 131513[Reply]

Not even a wish could fix me. I have been depressed since I was a kid, and at first the reasons for the depression were pretty concrete and specific (body and family issues mostly). Yet now I cannot even tell you why I am depressed anymore. Even in the wonderland in my head where all my problems are gone I am still depressed. The apathy has shaped me so profoundly that I cannot imagine a version of me without it. I can only hope that this stay at earth wont be particularly long and that the next try will be better.

Anonymous 131516

I understand you, nona. I have depression too and antidepressants don't really help with it. I only have hope that one day it will disappear for one reason or another. Stay strong. I am with you.

Anonymous 131517

>>131513
I went to a rave and i got better and realized i need friends and sunlight

Anonymous 131542

Depression is a catastrophe in the chemistry of the brain which is connected to the chemistry of the whole body. It is subject to chance. The healthiest person can get unlucky and suddenly ienxplicably lose their brain health. A depressed person can get lucky and inexplicably gain health. You can get lucky with the right medicine. You can get lucky with the right therapy (in the broader sense where both nature walks and talk therapies are therapy). You can get lucky in a way which you cannot articulate or imagine at this point in time. In so far as you can I wish you will believe and act upon the truth that even when things are very bad they can still be slightly better or worse and that despite it feeling small it is significant to try to make things very bad but slightly better rather than very bad and slightly worse. Luck may appear in that difference one day.

I'd like to recommend the book Radical Hope by Jonathan Lear. It's a philosophical book about having hope while having no concept of what a bearable world would look like.

Anonymous 131594

being happy is a state.

How hard was life on you, nona? I am all eyes to read. w

If anything, what worked for my anhedonia was writing down what makes me happy.

Like hugging my loved ones.


It does not have to be the same for you, it can be something that makes you feel the same warmth, like drinking water after thirst.

Or having cute clothes.

After making a list, you can then build a sense of self about what you like.

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How to stop feeling like a subhuman because I'm a woman Anonymous 126636[Reply]

No it's not because of men that I feel this way, neither porn, but I've seen porn and women act like subhumans in it.
My problem is that I see submission as subhuman and female submission in sex is human and natural and sex is the fundamental part of the reality. So it's like we are subhumans in life. I don't hate myself but I hate womanhood.
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Anonymous 131587

I mean if your going to hate men don't half ass it. Hate woman too it's only fair

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Anonymous 131589

>>131584
>Did get raped?
Yes.
And I don’t “hate half the population” but I also don’t feel safe around men anymore. We are all human capable of doing good or evil, but men statistically do more evil things than women. I don’t know why the world is the way it is, or what do about it, but I think women have more than enough justification to hate men if they choose to.

Anonymous 131590

>>131589
>Dumb enough to get raped
>Blames it on men
Not suprised though, feminists and misandrists entire ideology is reactionary. For example according to feminist ideology there's no reason for a woman to hate men if her husband treats her well. Women are like dogs, once they're abused they start barking at everyone, they get defensive, it isn't a conscious decision per se more like the dog instictively feels betrayed so it acts the opposite way, it starts hating it's owner.

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Anonymous 127510[Reply]

Hi nonas
I really need help
I really like this guy and he really likes me, we spend all of our time together to a downright obsessive degree, and ive never really experienced something like this because i was not very appealing to boys growing up. But now, Im having trouble going forward with him

He is still hung up kn a girl he dated a year and a half ago. Usually this would immediately turn one away from pursuing anything, but he is so tied to my hip that i dont doubt his affections for me. But he does say things that worry me, I fear I cant shape up to this girl that he had a really thrilling romance with, everytime he mentions her I feel like he misses her more and more. He mentions how nice she was to him, and how well they understood eachother, and it is so affectionate. I am so sad, these days, I cry a lot, but he also freaks out if he feels like I’m upset with him or just disappointed with him, I dont doubt he loves me, but i dont think he will ever love me as much as he loves this other girl. I am really autistic and i have troublr understanding other people on a degree like that. They havent spoken in a year but its still like this.

I feel so stupid and dumb and immature, i feel like a failure of a woman, im 22 and I’ve never had a boyfriend, so this is my first time experiencing soemthing like this. Am I desperate? what should I do?
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Anonymous 127549

>>127536
>virgin bf that isn't a bitter incel
I don't think that is possible, see above kek.

Anonymous 127561

>>127549
i would never want to be the girl someone loses their virginity to. my fiancé lost his by threatening to break up with his girlfriend. they broke up shortly after. he just wanted to have sex and said she was withholding it from him. thankfully she left him.

Anonymous 127610

>>127561
>Yeah, I love used goods sluts

Anonymous 127611

>>127561
Wait, you're engaged to this asshole? Sounds like you may have some screws loosed.

Anonymous 131583

>>127533
Fuck. I was with a boy just like on the left. Oh my god, i miss him and I fucked up. My heart aches looking at this and it's so stupid.



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How do I fix jealousy issues? Will it ever go away? Anonymous 118132[Reply]

I have insane jealousy issues, which is taking a toll on my relationship. I often get extremely jealous if my partner even so much as interacts with another female, is this too much? I cause pointless arguments which ends in both of us being extremely upset. I'm not sure how to deal with my insane jealousy issues. I'm embarrassed and ashamed of myself after an argument has ended. Am I a bad person for being selfish causing meaningless arguments? How can I work on this?
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>>118136
>>118138
Oh nona I'm in the same baot as you. my insecurities and mental illness/anger issues always cause a fight between us and I go insane without his attention and talking to him

I regret ever expressing how it feels to him and get angry at him when he doesnt react the way i want, I apologize and beg him to come back only to sabotage the relationship again and again

Anonymous 118354

>>118132
not sure where you're at with him now, but it seems like you put it pretty clearly here and in writing. you could just copy and paste some of this into a text or something.

I also experience extreme jealousy (abandonment wounds from upbringing and was betrayed by first love, not sure if I'll ever see men/relationships as fully trustworthy, but I'm trying to be open). look, whether it's what you've been through or stories you hear through others in person or online, it's easy to completely absorb the idea that men are lustful apes with no self control or that every girl is out to steal your man and that this is some big fucking to the death sex competition, but there is so much more out there. it's the dwelling and obsession that you're getting stuck on because for as miserable as it is, it feels good. in a miserable way. it makes you feel like you are protecting yourself. I know the feeling. find what specifically you feel is hurting you. go to the source. your fear uses his likeness as a skin to mask itself so you don't suspect who is really at fault. it does not make you crazy or evil or selfish. it is a preoccupation with your self and something important to you. the truth is you probably don't have the best self esteem, even if you have moments of confidence or rationality. learn to sit with discomfort. learn to sit and watch. when you feel the impulse to attack or point something out to him about another woman or whatever thing you feel about yourself, just go quiet. I swear by this. just swallow it and breathe. if he genuinely isn't doing or hasn't done things to break your trust, then sit with the idea that this is a projection of you effectively "cheating on yourself" with these other girls. whether hate stalking them, comparing yourself to them incessantly in your mind, imagining scenarios of him and them, etc., you are thinking WAY too much about these other girls. which is what you're afraid of him doing, right? imagine what life would feel like if you spent that energy imagining the sweet things he's done for you, said to you, that you've experienced together. imagine if you thought up date ideas or an activity or a gift idea. imagine if you imagined yourself achieving something special, working towards a goal, no matter how simple. it becomes a habit in the brain, but you're not stuck this way. you're scared and need to activate some kinPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 131574

>>118132
I feel this all the time. Literally all of my teen years where I was in a relationship, halfway through I'd feel that my bf didn't want me anymore and would look for other girls to be interested in. I fear this will never go away and I don't fully understand it. I know there was an instance where my crush had told me he liked another girl while he was aware I liked him and that really hurt me. So much so that I think it forever ruined my confidence in the dating scene. It wasn't just that of course, but it was the first time I ever got close to a boy and it just shattered my trust in people. Plus, being lonely, sheltered, not having real friends, growing up in a hostile environment where your parents give a bad example of what marriage is supposed to look like, and only having the internet as my comfort, it just made my insecurities worse. I think arguing about it is ironically better than what I do, which is assume how the other person feels and just take it as fact. At the very least you're confronting them about it and expressing your jealousy. I wish I was better at communicating how I feel, but every time I try, it just seems like I can't get it out. I don't know how. I think how I feel is pathetic, but I don't have the faith in myself to improve. Sometimes I feel like I don't deserve it. It's really annoying and I don't know what to do if I just constantly stop myself from ever being happy.

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>>118138
1. Recognize that your intrusive thoughts are irrational and admit this to him.
2. When you get jealous say 'I got jealous again, I need affection', giving him a chance to show he likes you more than the girl who will not get a hug or whatever from him.
3.The hard part is believing what he says. Remember that he has a simple, pathetic boy brain. He is not capable of complex social thought. There's no hidden meaning in anything he says because he's too simple-minded to pull that off.

Anonymous 131582

>>131578
Some guys are smarter than that and they lie.



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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 130868

Lolcow’s lonely women thread and murderer documentaries on youtube really make me feel not alone in being really isolated and out of touch from reality. Thank you lolcow autistic experiences thread and weird people youtube documentaries, also the strange people thread here on /x/. This is something really hard for me to come to terms with as it fills me with dread.

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Finally found that one table that tied schizoidness to historical attitudes towards children. Psychogenic modes are a fringe theory I think but it makes an interesting point.

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To be a hermit is to be holy.

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my face when I accidentally see people I don't like having a good day

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I rejoined “society” and I started noticing something that hasn’t been here before.

I stopped constantly comparing people to each other. I don’t create mental hierarchies where someone is inferior or superior. I don’t evaluate them by asking “how good would being friends with them make me look?”.

I think I started seeing people as ends unto themselves. It is a strange feeling, as if I am a parent that doesn’t have a favorite child - they’re all just… valuable by themselves.

Somehow this feels very liberating. Weird, huh?



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