There are ~3 completely different things being argued about when you talk about society caring for or not caring for men's vs women's wellbeing. First being therapeutic services, second being both legal procedures and law enforcement services, and the third being interpersonal behavior. The trouble is that item 1 is an extremely serious issue that does manifest and obvious harm to women worldwide, item 2 is debatable, and item 3 is trivial but is always the ultimate cause of sad-at-the-internet syndrome.
There are a number of arguments that get folded under the banner of male therapeutic negligence, and it's not in women's best interests to minimize that issue. Elliot Rodger was in therapy and was taking his prescribed SSRIs prior to his mass shooting, and countless men have entered the psychiatric and therapeutic environment and come out the other side just as retarded and terrible as before–there comes a point in this process where we ought to stop insisting that the process is perfect but that only good boys deserve to benefit from medical treatment, since there are no good boys and if there were good boys don't need no medicine.
It is risible to say that the problems with therapeutic services with regards to men are failures of
intent rather than failures of
effect. "Nobody cares about boys" is the
dumbest possible argument to make on this front since male psychology services failures inevitably and invariably harm
women *most of all
*. Only a fraction of men who do not benefit from therapy harm themselves or take their own lives, an infinitely larger share harm women or take women's lives. If psychiatry and mental health services care about women so much and if care is the only factor that causes mental health services to succeed or fail then *men's services would be fucking impeccable.* Necessarily. And… they aren't.
Since this is already going to center on male suicidality, here's a recent study from the UK concerning middle aged men that's making the rounds. Middle aged men are infinitely more interesting in terms of demographics of suicidality as there are a lot of confounding factors with men in their 20s to 30s.
https://documents.manchester.ac.uk/display.aspx?DocID=5530550% of men who successfully commit suicide do so after contacting mental health services.
38% had contacted some form of services that week, usually mental health services but also frequently law enforcement agencies.
It is found in general and at large that males do not benefit much from current mental health services related to suicide prevention.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4377906/This is usually worded as benefitting "less" compared with women but when you try to look for signs of benefit versus never seeking help at all you won't find much evidence in either direction.
The male suicide rate is also found to not be a matter of method preference as had previously been thought.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21937122/There is significant stigma to seeking mental health services as a male which would not be found for women, and this stigma will always exist because it exists for good reason. If you were dating a moid and found out that he was in therapy I would advise you to cut him loose, and employers also understand and will also exercise caution or restructure when they find a legally acceptable means of doing so without violating various federal regulations. I will try to find it again though I seem to be unable to, but there was a study surveying psychologists and therapists on their patients that found that men's assumptions regarding how their careers would go if others learned they had used mental health support services were largely accurate. Passed over for assignments, demotions, wage stagnation, increased financial tension in their home lives, relationship failure (probably not helped by the alarming rate at which men develop romantic fixations on any woman involved in their therapy whether or not she's a 60-year-old 250lb nurse or a group therapy divorcee heroin addict), and so forth. One of Freud's blunders was in assuming that this "transference" also occurred among female patients, and was inherent to psychotherapy, simply because Freud was incapable of escaping his own male psyche.
Item 2, legal procedures and law enforcement issues. This is never what sad-at-the-internet types actually concern themselves with. As with any broad spectrum of laws, procedures and law enforcement culture there's a billion and a half things that go wrong and are institutionalized into wrongness. What I will point out, though, is that the modern Men's Rights arguments are only concerned with institutional situations that involve prevention of harm by men to women. Men's rights arguments have actually managed to become worse on this front since the 1920s - E.B. Bax was, for all his many and extraordinary flaws and neuroses, an able lawyer and a committed Marxist who defended the red flag both from slanders and from revisionists, and whose lasting and most meaningful impact could be found in his opposition to the death penalty and to corporal punishment. Men's rights that actually meant a damn thing. When MRAs support BLM I can consider them to have met the bare minimum degree of integrity required to hold that title.
Item 3 does ultimately relate to item 1. I do not believe you will find a single therapist or psychiatrist in the world who would argue that therapy or psychiatry can ever actually reduce or supplant a need for socially normal associations and personal emotional support within your normal social environment, and those socially normal associations do include normal romantic relationships and experiences. But I do not see any evidence that this is categorically worse for males than for women.
