This is probably a safe refuge for a lot of women, especially if you've been in liberal women's spaces. If you're in a position in life where men leave you mostly unbothered, that's great. Other people may not have that luxury due to their past or present circumstances, I'm sure there will be a time in your life where you'd benefit from talking with other women about your frustrations.
I do see how it can be tiring, but, I don't think it's healthy to bitch about other women having different needs and priorities than you. It's almost like you're trotting out a sexist trope that assumes women are obsessed with men, that a lot of women don't bother to think about more than that, that they don't have complex needs and motivations. This ties in with the fact that we are literally conditioned to think of them before us in many ways, but even when women are focusing on men too much it doesn't mean that they're being vapid or obsessed. It's always painted that way in the media and it's easy to assume, but, most of us have complex reasons.