My mom is a muslim and never wears one. Hijabs weren't common in Iran when she moved to Europe, so it makes sense that she doesn't see it as a part of her culture.
I've considered wearing one before when I was an awkward teen and too lazy to wash my hair
, but never got around trying it.
>All the muslim woman i know that now live in the west all stopped wearing a hijab because they said they felt oppressed by it
I never got that. I like wearing chokers, and wouldn't stop doing so if they were considered "oppressive" in some country. That narrative is cultural erasure, and it's sexist as well because it implies these women can't make their own informed decisions. Don't tell women what to wear tbqh. Not allowing hijabs in universities (like it happened in France) is just as bad as forcing women to wear one.