/b/ - Random

I was but I know better now

>>300724
yes i would be.
also, image above, always sign a prenup, for god’s sake.

He wants to but both of us are too lazy to actually officially get married and we have no kids

I’m single but no, marriage seems like more trouble than it’s worth. Just for what? Hyper trad people to consider it a “real relationship”?

>>300798
Same.
Marriage is a bad deal for women. You get a nice wedding and a shiny ring in exchange for having to prioritise his needs forever.

I'm 29 years old and I've never been in a relationship, never been on a date, and never kissed anyone. I fully intend to keep it that way for the rest of my life. However, if I were to ever be in any kind of romantic or sexual relationship, they would absolutely have to agree that we would never get married or have kids, ever, no matter what. There is absolutely nothing in the world that horrifies and disgusts me more than the thought of getting married (and #2 on the list would be the thought of having kids).

I think it's sus when a man makes it explicit that he doesn't want to marry you

>>300724
YES, HE HAS NO RIGHT TO DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT.

>>300798
>I’m single but no
opinion discarded

>>300809
>man makes it explicit that he doesn't want to marry you
He's just being honest and openly manifesting his common sense

>>300806
>in exchange for having to prioritise his needs forever
only if you're stupid, in which case you deserve it

He has to. I can’t lose him. I can’t.

>>300829
>He has to. I can’t lose him. I can’t.
lol, then you've already lost

>>300829
With no-fault divorce laws he can leave whenever he wants. Abolish that and only then will he be yours forever (unless you have an affair or something)

>>300832
>Abolish that and only then will he be yours forever
are you dumb, a marriage can formally exist, and he can still be with another woman

>>300833
Yes and that's grounds for divorce. Then you take all his shit in court and never let him see the kids again. If he's a good guy he won't risk it.
Divorce needs to be bad again. Divorce nowadays has no consequences.

>>300834
>and never let him see the kids again
that sounds like a win, for him

>>300836
Not if he's a good moid. Only marry good moids. Only marry a guy who, if he fucks up and cheats on you and you divorce him, the prospect of never seeing the kids again makes him kill himself.

>>300837
>the prospect of never seeing the kids again makes him kill himself.
He will celebrate and start a new and better family.

>>300838
If he's evil he will be do that
If he's good he'll kill himself
My uncle almost killed himself when he got divorced

>>300839
>If he's evil he will be do that
big win for him
>If he's good he'll kill himself
big win for him - it's his moral superiority, and you are evil

>>300837
>the prospect of never seeing the kids again makes him kill himself
>>300839
>If he's good he'll kill himself

If your kids knew the truth, you'd be the worst person in this story.

>>300841
Good thing women lie and everyone believes them because they're too pathetic physically to be rough with and not have everyone jump down your throat

>>300842
but that's not true, men know what women are capable of, and women know even better

I told my bf I wouldn't marry him until our future kids are 10+. He was disappointed, but took it pretty well and understands why.

>>300849
why?

>>300853
I have to protect my family's business and land when I inherit it, and I want to pass it down to my kids. If we end up falling out of love or breaking up over something else, I can't let it get to a divorce court and take the chance I'll lose some part of it which might end up being sold to strangers or falling into the hands of any other kids he might want to have.

>>300866
Why not just get a prenup?

>>300867
Because my country's law regarding prenups were re-written to protect trusting women from being left nothing by divorce, so unfair or drastically lopsided distribution of assets can have it thrown out in court, regardless of sex. There's also the issue that if I die or am incapacitated during proceedings (unlikely, but fatalities from my work are pretty high) he could legally demand negotiation and take advantage of my elderly parents. Without marriage, using clearly defined accounting, he'll still be able to claim shared assets, but that's like 5% of my total assets, compared to the 30%+ he could claim or negotiate around a prenup.