/b/ - Random

>>302546
Unfortunately we're the strange ones.

>>302546
i dont believe sex actually exists.

I'm a married sex-haver but I feel the same way about casual sex. The fact that people hook up and have one night stands regularly blows my mind.

I felt this way when I was a virgin too, but after I became an adult and finally found my first boyfriend, I stopped caring about it, seriously. Today I know that intimate relationships are something very personal to each person, and each couple (or group) has the right to experience sex in the way they most want. I really don't get shocked by any sexual shenanigans or exaggeration by others as long as it involves consenting adults. I don't feel like having casual sex, but I really can't get shocked by those who do, it just doesn't make sense to me personally.

I have a theory about sex in modern societies. I call it the Gout Theory.
And just like every good theory, it starts a food analogy:
Food used to be scarce 100+ years ago. Some types of food were more challenging to get than others. That, combined with rampant inequality, created a food culture where rich people would often consume vast amounts of nothing but meat and alcohol for the sole purpose of those being coveted. This would too often cause them to have gout, which induces insane amounts of daily pain, which is described as being worse pain during labor. The societal pressure to constantly prove that they're above the rest would end up forcing people into suffering that is worse than being a peasant.

Now replace food with sex. Male attention is identified by Stacies as a sign of success. Men are 100 times worse in that regard. A whole bunch of them clearly treats having sex with as many women as possible as the be-all, end-all reason for existence. What follows is a cycle of retarded sexual behavior that leads to disensitization to intimacy which leads to even more retarded behavior in hopes of getting some of that high. Too many times in my life was I forced to listen to slutty women and manwhores crying about having difficulties giving a shit about their partners, no matter how much they try and how good those partners are. Of course, all these sobbing sessions are usually preceded AND proceeded with incessant bragging about said partners. Because the (perceived) positive attention they get for that is the only reward they can milk out of it all. This bragging then leads to even more people falling into the same trap.
Of course, the most ironic part is that getting sex isn't even difficult in the age of dating apps.

>>303833
I think it was Houllebecq who wrote that once sex ceases to be about reproduction it becomes to a lesser extent about pleasure and to a larger extent about narcissistic differentiation

>>303851
I've never heard the term narcissistic differentiation and it doesn't come up when I google, what do you mean by that

>>303851
It's about playing with a sex toy

>>303852
It's a fact…that in societies like ours sex truly represents a second system of differentiation, completely independent of money; and as a system of differentiation it functions just as mercilessly. The effects of these two systems are, furthermore, strictly equivalent. Just like unrestrained economic liberalism, and for similar reasons, sexual liberalism produces phenomena of absolute pauperization . Some men make love every day; others five or six times in their life, or never. Some make love with dozens of women; others with none. It's what's known as 'the law of the market'…Economic liberalism is an extension of the domain of the struggle, its extension to all ages and all classes of society. Sexual liberalism is likewise an extension of the domain of the struggle, its extension to all ages and all classes of society.

Not that deep

If you think about it, anyone who chooses to be a medic, nurse, or cop has to do with other people's skin all the time due to exams, care, and strip searches

I sincerely hate sex

Is easier to find people to fuck but it isn't easy to find people to bond and love.

But society been that way since forever when you think about it, history and folklore in some countries talking about sex and whatever. Art depicting sexual intercourse everywhere since centuries ago.

Is an primal instinct, but that's why I hate it, since we've got consciousness and will compared to animals.

Sex isn't important, unfortunately everything surrounds about it.

>>303863
For millions of years sex has been the defining moment in the life of every single one of your ancestors.

>>303857
That's just dumb incel shit. An excuse to make up a system where they are the most oppressed and therefore don't have to do anything and are above their oppressors in a christian self sacrifice way.

>>303869
No it isn't you just get horny when you're alone with each other and then start touching them.

>>303871
And it lead to them having a child which (with exception of some males) was a life changing experience for both.

>>303872
So?

>>303873
Your consciousness is not above primal instincts. It is built from them. Claiming the opposite is an idealistic cope.

>>303872
There's difference between procreative sex and recreative sex. Every time my ancestors fucked doesn't matter, only that one time when conception happened changed their lives.

>>303878
It is your duty as a modern human being to observe your primal wants and filter out the negative ones.

>>303899
nona.. won….

>>303895
The want for intimacy is not a negative one. Yes, it can evolve into some ugly garbage. But the lack of this want is ALWAYS dysfunctional and rooted in trauma and or mental illness.

>>303903
>But the lack of this want is ALWAYS dysfunctional
Would rather be "dysfunctional", or whatever negative view you have on this stance, than engage in the absolute degenerate dynamics we have today.

>>303903
You're a despicable moid propagandist!
When it comes to intimacy women can literally never win, only lose.
The best course of action is to become asexual.
I think the future will be asexual and will look down on sexuals and see asexuals as smart traiblazers ahead of their time.

it makes the brain release the feel good chemicals
simple as
people who have nothing else going on for them in their lives just think that it's the only source of it and will chase it.

I don't understand the need for sex. You can pleasure yourself on your own, without sex-associated risks.

>>304118
Sex is like 1/10th of what intimacy implies. The 1/10th people won't shut the fuck up about.

>>303903
A want for intimacy is not inherently negative, yes, but it is often fulfilled negatively. Casual sex and getting stuck in trash relationships are negative.

>>303903
>rooted in trauma
it's a good thing women being traumatized by men isn't super common in every society on the face of the planet throughout all of history haha

>>302546
>>302549
No, you’re the sane ones.

Life is a series of bizarreness and exploitation. Couldn't be me.

>>302546
having sex with that one person you really like is nice and all, but all the heartbreak and anxiety that is involved with casual dating in modern society just isn't worth it for me
after seriously trying for a decade, I just gave up on myself and the prospect of not dying alone
more time for my nerdy interests I guess

>>304321
made me chuckle

I like games and all but if it was viable I'd gladly just glue myself to another person's skin and die while high oxytocin like field mice. Sex is cool and all, I dont mind it, but just digging into skin of another person is sort of my only lifefuel. I used to still cuddle with my mom when I was 25 yo old hikkineeto. Kinda pathetic. I dont think regular sexhavers get that even, they have sex for ego reasons, not because they feel some sort desire to inhabit other people's skin ans just dissolve

>>305378
i don't get the point of heterosexuality beyond reproduction. at least with another woman we can be totally open with each other, and we don't have to worry about catching a life-altering, potentially fatal condition.

>>305401
can I interest you in the Human Instrumentality Project?

>>302546
How old are you to have these thoughts? This is like something you think when you are 14

>>305451
Your thoughts are comparable to teens. Teens just want to fuck.