>>8676>why don't you stop talking to her also
uh, because I care about her? because she went through a straight-up meltdown this spring after being date-raped by another member of her residency program and developed suicidal ideations to the point where she had a place on the roof of her workplace picked out to throw herself from? because she would call me in tears at times and just beg me to listen to her because she felt like she had no-one else to turn to in her life?
i'm not angry, if anything i'm grateful that she's gotten help since then and things aren't as rocky for her anymore. but i worry that she's isolating herself even further from other people when what she needs the most rn is a support system and sense of community. withdrawing from her is probably one of the worst things I could do to her in her current situation.
i didn't mean to go into this much detail, but your response really annoyed me. you know essentially nothing about my life, my sister, or the relationship that my parents have with her, and you're projecting hard by saying things like 'there's probably a reason' or implying that I don't give a shit about my parent's feelings. If I didn't give a shit, I wouldn't be this stressed out about trying to help them reconcile, which is what both sides have told me that they want. unless you actually have experience as a mediator in this kind of 'disowning', please save your advice for /feels/, where people actually want the input of a total stranger with a severely limited frame of reference.