Self-worth outside of academics Anonymous 103326
I failed last semester and I’m starting this new one on academic probation. This is really affecting me mentally. I have a therapist but I don’t know how to handle my feelings outside of that 1-hour window.
My parents and the community I come from are very judgemental so I can’t risk failing or I will be shame upon my family. Being on academic probation makes me suicidal. My parents make me send them my grades at the end of each semester. The pressure is so high that I don’t even want to hand in assignments on time because .
I don’t have an identity outside of school.
Anonymous 103350
>>103326>Self-worth outside of academicsHas anybody ever measured a single particle of worth?
>My parents and the community I come from are very judgemental so I can’t risk failing or I will be shame upon my family.Has anybody ever detected a single atom of shame.
My only advice is to not concern yourself too much with things that are not real.
>The pressure is so high that I don’t even want to hand in assignments on timeAs you can see it is detrimental.
Anonymous 103356
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Hi nona,
This is a situation I resonate alot with. When I first started college, I was put on academic probation for failing several classes multiple times in a row. It was one of my lowest times that I didn't think I'd ever be able to pull myself out of - suicide attempt, depression worsened to the point I stopped even attending any classes.
However, in the summer right after the last semester I failed, I enrolled in a program at my school that was meant to help students on probation get back on track. They awarded me a small scholarship in turn for completing a bunch of requirements, like meeting a peer mentor, guidance counselor, and advisor several times to track my progress. If you have something like this at your school, I recommend you take advantage.
After that I still had to move back home, was cut off financially by my dad for failing out and then had to get a shitty fast food job to make ends meet. But, from the sugesstion of my advisor, I continued by re-taking the classes I failed at a local community college. The fast food job at least helped me pay for them.
The gap year I had really gave alot of time to better figure out what I wanted to actually do in college, too (Because I didn't even know what I was actually going to it for. I was just following what was expected of me) It helped me realize I didn't really want to be in the major I was in and to switch to something more interesting. It helped alot with soul-searching so this is another reason I highly recommend a gap year.
>I don’t have an identity outside of school.
I have been like this for the longest time. My self-worth would be deeply dependent on my grades. I still have the problem of not really having much of a life outside of school, but it's only because I still barely socialize. Having even just a solo hobby can make it better though. During my gap year, I also began intently learning a skill that I still attribute to it getting me out of my hole. It made me realize there are actually things out there I can learn while actually enjoying learning them, and actually devote myself to. I suggest you find something like this.
And remember, like lotus flowers rising from the depths, you can be reborn from your resilience.
Anonymous 103364
>>103356>> And remember, like lotus flowers rising from the depths, you can be reborn from your resilience.Hi nona! Thank you for your post. May I ask what the skill was?
