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Does anyone else feel like they can't bear men? Anonymous 107504

i’m so fucking sick of trying to befriend a male i think i’m bisexual, i only have dated girls and have not felt romantic attraction towards men, so i have a HUGE preference for women (i’d say 90/10).
i’m at a weird point where whenever i make a male friend, they end up liking me or romantically or sexually, and it’s just tiring me so much? sometimes it feels like they fetishize me just because i used to call myself a lesbian…
i feel so objectified and feel like all of their bonds are just because they’re desperate for pussy in general. i’m genuinely so tired and resented towards them. i feel like i’m completely unable of befriending anyone who isn’t afab, and it’s affecting me more than i want it to.
last year, i tried making two male friends (of my age) but they both ended up liking me? and one of them was a whole ass creep who thought i wouldn’t know that he lied about a lot of things just to appear cooler and for me to like him (he even said he used crystalcafe without knowing what was it), also i’m genuinely like a 5/10, with four points being from personality and likes…
even if so, i don’t deserve being object of their desires, it makes me so uncomfortable that i want to throw up. it also affects me because, as i stated, i think i’m bisexual, but i’m hugely confused by my own identity/label, i just don’t call myself a lesbian bc i feel that it isn’t right to say that i could NEVER like a man, after all, maybe someday i end up loving one but right now all i can feel is fucking disgust and rage.
i have two male friends, although i can’t stand one of them, and the other one is an aroace guy who is like an asexuated being on my eyes. I still feel like if he ever started liking me i would throw up until i die.
ty if anyone read my rant! does any of you have a similar experience? what should i do? after all, people keep telling me i have to still have relationships with them

Anonymous 107507

>afab
All fats are bad?

Anonymous 107508

Minors aren't welcome.

Anonymous 107509

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>>107507
LMAOOOO

Anonymous 107510

It's normal for people to fall in love with those who they like. Sigh. Is this a humblebrag thread about being a 5/10 and a moid magnet at the same time?

>people keep telling me i have to still have relationships with them

No, you don't.

Stop hanging out with moids who only want to sleep with you. You know what, stop hanging out with moids, period. Keep trying to find "AFAB" friends. There's millions of people out there. Fine, at least thousands that live close to you. Surely one of them must love you.

If you can't find anyone, then embrace loneliness. It's better to be alone than to be in something you hate.

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Anonymous 107519

>>107504
I have no issue with bearing men. Lifting them up is easy, especially if it's one of those young boys that barely passed basic training.

Anonymous 107520

>>107504
The bearing men joke aside, after reading your post I can't agree more. I live in a more eastern county so the men issue isn't that bad, especially if you are in a social circle where people are generally more inteligent. This whole stuff you speak of is totally normal. Both men and women are 70% trash garbage whores and whoreboys and 30% quality. You just need to look further, and not give up on trying to find a good guy. If girls are your thing, I don't judge. I myself dated a really cute mercenary girl, but she ended up being a whore too and left me for dick and drugs. I say don't give up and ignore the bad. Try to reach out to the true nature of a man and you will see a nice personality. Don't be too hostile or repulsive on them. Just filter out the bad, learn to ignore them, and try to look more objective on the rest. Try to put yourself in their shoes too. I don't have much issues with befriending men, simply because its easy for me to "wear their shoes".

Just don't give up and don't get too angry. Im sure that if you try hard enough you might find a nice boy.

Also boys outside of major cities are 700% better. If you live in a megapolis, that's probabbly the main reason you meet garbage men.

Anonymous 107526

>>107507
I miss MPA.

Anonymous 107528

I have the opposite problem. To set the scene, my colleagues are mostly women. I'm early 30s, and the youngest is early 20s. There's two guys we've wearily let into the circle (wearily for obvious reasons [see: men]); one of them is late 20s and is overly buddy-buddy with the youngest (she has a bf [he has a gf] which makes it weird, and I'm not the only one to express this view), the other is… distant. I think he has confidence issues despite being fucking good at everything (imagine that one guy in high school who was fairly decent, but now make him actually good and humble and it's somehow more infuriating why won't he fall in love with me!!!1eleven1!). Legit I'm a 5/10 like you; I think my personality boosts me a lot, and I WISH this guy could develop a crush on me - I've been trying to orchestrate it but he just hasn't been biting. I know I know, colleagues, avoid, etc… idc, no one I know is even remotely funny or intelligent. And handsome too… Ahhh I'm fooling myself, sorry for hijacking your rant to offer a counter-rant; I believe we are now engaging in what the kids call "dialectics"

Anonymous 108026

just don’t befriend males? This is such a non-issue tbh.

Anonymous 108034

>>107504
I feel like dat tbh except it's with women too

Anonymous 108192

just be friends with women only, problem solved



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