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/lg/ - lesbian general Anonymous 108545

felt like this should be a thread tbh
what's everyone up to? i'm thinking of downloading tinder again

Anonymous 108546

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There are no lesbians on CC.
Look at the rest of b, it's pure heterosexual cuckqueen bullshitry.
I would prefer hethate thread at this point.

Anonymous 108547

>>108546
y are u mad tho

Anonymous 108548

>>108546
A hethate thread would be lovely

Anonymous 108549

>>108545
Lol I've been thinking of redownloading Tinder or Bumble too. I just get disappointed thinking if I meet someone nice, we can't even make plans or anything, then I wonder what's the point.

Anonymous 108550

>>108546
I'm febfem, does that count as anything?
It's true tho. CC is lowkey a femcel site.

Anonymous 108551

>>108549
yeah i get that, ive been talking to a girl nd we started playing games together but i wish we could go on a coffee date or something

>>108546
>>108550
i didnt want to admit it but you guys are right, it's pretty cringe honestly i cant imagine hating men and still being attracted to them lmao this thread can double as /hethate/

Anonymous 108552

>>108546
Has there ever been a census of the cite? I know that I get the feeling that the sight it way more straight than what I initially expected but it would be interesting to see the exact demographics

Anonymous 108553

been looking for a thread like this. i see so many threads here dissing scrotes and then yet still thirsting for them. i don't get it.

thinking of getting tinder again but so many women on there either want a threesome with their government assigned moid, or just want someone to smoke weed with

Anonymous 108554

>>108545
>i'm thinking of downloading tinder again
i'm thinking of deleting tinder, lol. that useless piece of garbage. nobody wants to swipe my empty profile with only one black picture as a photo. it's not like i would ever swipe anyone back, but whatevs

Anonymous 108555

>>108554
what did you expect though

Anonymous 108556

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>>108545
want this thread revived so here are the prompts from lc
>first crush?
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
>cute stories about your gf
>favourite lesbian media?
>lesbian media you hate?
>coming out stories
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
>bitch about being lonely
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
>how did you know you were gay?
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
>best date?
>worst date?
answer whichever ones you like ^_^

Anonymous 108557

Nice, I’m a (failed) lesbian, so I’m glad to have this thread. Hi.

Anonymous 108558

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>>108556
>first crush?
One of the girls in my elementary school class I think.
>bitch about being lonely
I just want a femme girlfriend!!! I know like three lesbians and the one interested in me just isn't my type…
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
They're cool, I'm a tomboy personally.
>how did you know you were gay?
I was always the weird girl and I eventually figured out that the reason other girls didn't like to talk to me is that I was very clearly acting like a lesbian and it put them off.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Tall, lanky tomboy. I loved doing things boys did; had exclusively male friends, too. Video games, guns, climbing, and jumping on stuff, you know. I'm not any different from that now when I think about it!

Anonymous 108559

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>>108556
>first crush?
Heehee, my first crush was in middle school. I believe I was about 11/12? I was new, she was nice, but we ended up not even really talking much. I was suppressing the feelings anyways. My first crush that I was painfully aware of was when I was about 13, and she was mega fuckin Christian. I'm talkin' listening to Christian music and shit… ugh. Jazmyn, if you're seeing this….. </3
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I don't mind them. They're superficial and sorta arbitrary, but I have no real preference either way anyways, lolol.
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I really have no idea.. If I had to choose, based on sorta stereotypical attributes, I guess I'd say I'm more…. femme-leaning..?
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Kinda tomboyish, in that I liked to go outside, get dirty, be vulgar, and wear "boy" clothes. But I loved some Barbie-on-Barbie action.
>best date?
>worst date?
I have yet to date.

Anonymous 108560

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>first crush?
a tif who was my childhood friend
was convinced i was going to go visit her country and eventually live there with her in a small apartment but she ghosted me lole… i dont think ill ever like anyone as much again i really felt like she was my one true love and that we were soulmates but i guess it just wasnt meant to be
>favourite lesbian media?
carmilla by sheridan lefanu and my lesbian experience with loneliness by kabi nagata ^_^
>bitch about being lonely
i would if i wasnt too retarded for words
all i can say is ummmm well
im still not over my oneitis and i dont think i ever will, i miss her a lot and i wish we hadnt stopped talking to eachother, still, i hope she thinks im dead and finally killed myself or forgot about me entirely
i will forever keep her in my heart as i know i will never find another like her
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
i think labels are for soup cans. i feel like they're superficial but i can see how they can be helpful to others so im not going to hate or anything ( sorry again im retarded so i cant really formulate long smart sounding sentences sorry about that )
>how did you know you were gay?
as a child ive never exhibited interest in boys in fact i was kind of a misandrist back then ( still kind of am but out of fear this time ) but ive been told that i would grow into it and i never did
i cant remember my childhood but during my teenage years i started questioning whether i was actually attracted to males or not and found that i wasnt and never have
i did have a year long phase in seventh grade where i larped as straight due to bullying because people somehow knew i was a dyke before i did lole i hated the fact that they were right about me so i did what i could until i couldnt keep it up anymore and… never told anyone and i wont ever do it i just dont see the use
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
i dont think i fit any stereotype but maybe there's a schizo lesbian one ? if so then thats the one i fit
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
i was a tomboy on the outside ( i hated wearing skirts and BOYS yuck ) but the minute i was in my own space i was the girliest girl someones ever seen ( especially online or when i roleplayed by myself using my littlest petshops :p )
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
ah i dont think i have the heart to do this but id love to be somebodys wife and live somewhere secluded from the rest of the world i dont think id mind being a housewife in fact i prefer it since im talentless if not for my housewifing skills ( cooking, general housework… ) uhmmm yeah ń_n;;;
>best date?
>worst date?
im a femcel unfortunately ive never dated and i dont think i ever will at this rate but maybe one day… only time will tell hah :]

Anonymous 108561

>>108556
>1.Met her when we were in middle school, idk where she is these days
>2. Dead, but it barely ever existed
>3. Got no gf
>4. Instagram because cute pics make me upset
>5. Dad was okay with it, mom was not, simple as
>6. What? You mean ”lolcows”, right? No. That site is disgusting, holy fuck. Kiwifarm users are bad people, thought it was common sense. Sure, ”muh they keep tabs on pedos and zoosadists uwu” Well stalking non-criminals is creepy.
Nevermind, I’ll go back to /clg/.

Anonymous 108562

This is going to sound really weird so I'm not going to be surprised if I get bashed for it. Basically, I have a family event tomorrow, and I needed to pick out a semi formal outfit. I showed my friend and she said that it's cute but "are you worried it's a little too on the nose?". This was her way of politely telling me "it's very lesbiany".

I didn't intend to make the outfit have that effect, but to be honest I like it more now knowing that it does. I have a lot of difficulty signalling to other lesbians. This makes me feel like maybe if I can figure out how to "look" the part (that sounds so dumb I know) it might not be as difficult

Anonymous 108563

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>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
Supposedly our gay scene is pretty vibrant, we don't really have a separate lesbian scene. I wouldn't know though, because it's largely nighlife focused, which isn't my thing.
>lesbian media you hate?
dramas directed by men where one or more woman dies after they've had uncomfortable looking sex
>bitch about being lonely
>tfw no gf
It's my own fault though, I'm an agoraphobic neet that can't even keep up with e-friendships. Even when I've known other L/B women that I was attracted to, I've been to much of a wimp to make the first move, and I guess I don't ping other peoples' gaydars at all.
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I think labels can be a good way to quickly describe yourself, but people sometimes take them too seriously. I am pretty femme. I really love butch women, but you rarely see cute butches under 35 these days. It's okay though, I'm attracted to other types of women too.
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I hate men, I don't usually shave, and I'm really good at putting together furniture.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Generally really girly, but I really liked bugs and wrestling.
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
Lately I've been thinking about how nice it would be to take my future gf on a a really fancy picnic ala the zoomer tiktok trend. I just want to spoil someone I love and be treated the same way in return.

>>108561
They were referencing lolcow.farm, not kf. It's not nearly as bad imo.

Anonymous 108564

>first crush?
I was 5 years old and had a massive crush on my babysitter’s teenage daughter
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
queer pandering and cliquish, they allow TIMs into lesbian spaces too, kind of why I stopped going.
>cute stories about your gf
we actually sat next to each other in one of our classes once but have never spoken a word to each other. Little did I know she was going to be the one I want to wife a few years later :’)
>favourite lesbian media?
Campy ass lesbians flicks like But I’m a cheerleader & miseducation of cameron post
>lesbian media you hate?
Queer pandering/ anything that involves sex with males
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
i’m indifferent to them though i used to identify as femme
>how did you know you were gay?
I only felt things for other girls. Making out & sex feels right with them
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit?
Combat boots, tomboy aesthetics, DIYs
>which ones don’t fit you at all?
Dumb infantilising memes like “useless lesbian” , “Gays cant sit right”, “Gays cant drive”
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Tomboy all day every day, but still made my barbies kiss nekkid
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
sleeping next to each other every day
>worst date?
>valentine’s day
>first rship
>invites her friend along
>becomes moody out of nowhere
>pushes me away and left with said friend
>discards box of chocolates i was going to give to her

Anonymous 108565

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>>108556
>first crush?
A girl in my middle school. I smelled her bras before gym. She had big boobs.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
Not sure. Just settled down with my girlfriend so not really outgoing.
>cute stories about your gf
She's really cute when she gets horny and doesn't want to instigate sex. She always waits for me to start it even at the cost of her having to wait. Ultra cute how squirmy she gets.
>favourite lesbian media?
Asagao to Kase-san
>lesbian media you hate?
Most anything western
>coming out stories
Told my family and they just kinda shrugged like they already knew.
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
No.
>bitch about being lonely
I'm in a happy relationship.
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I've always been kind of a tomboy so butch I guess. My girlfriend likes cute things so I grew out my hair and wear cute clothes for her. Labels are dumb. Do what you like.
>how did you know you were gay?
I've always found ladies really attractive and smelled really good. Boys never did anything for me.
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I wear flannel sometimes. I wear combat boots sometimes.
I don't know I don't really think about it too much.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Tomboy definitely
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
My current one is pretty great. We live together. Have a decent sized house. Both making a decent living. Great sex life. No complaints.
>best date?
Ooh the best date I ever have been on was one of the first ones with my current girlfriend. We went out to see a movie and a nice italian dinner and then walked on the beach with the moonlight. It was really nice.
>worst date?
That would be highschool when a girl went out for me as a joke only to call me gross because I was gay. That will always be the worst I think.

Anonymous 108566

>first crush?
my best friend in 5th grade
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
i have no idea, but i assume it has the occasional poly couple looking for someone to join their threesome or tims and genderspecials
>favourite lesbian media?
i really liked girlfriends by milk morinaga and maria sama ga miteru as a kid, i also like portrait of a girl on fire
>lesbian media you hate?
blue is the warmest color
>bitch about being lonely
i want a gf so badly, but i need to improve myself and my looks because i don't feel worthy of having one at the moment
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
i went through a lot deciding if i was either butch or femme when i was in highschool, i don't mind labels at all but i don't assign myself to one
>how did you know you were gay?
i realized that i felt the butterfly feeling/mushy feeling around girls literally all the time and actually got sad when my friend said she was straight
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
i'm not the type to move in or fall in love easily i'd say
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
girly, i kissed my dolls and made my barbies kiss as a kid
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
married, we travel a lot, are genuinely happy, we watch movies and dramas together and we can both live quite comfortably. i literally just want someone who is normal and loves me

Anonymous 108567

/lgbt/ jannies killed /clg/ by monitoring it strictly and only allowing the outsiders and actual trolls to voice their opinions.
Not exactly a surprise, it was bound to happen eventually, but holy shit!

Anonymous 108568

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>>108567
welcome home sister, you don't have to worry about scroids and troons in your lesbian threads here

Anonymous 108569

>>108568
Thanks, I’m glad to have found such a comfy place to settle in.
It’s hypocritical how /lgbt/ doesn’t give a damn about /gaygen/’s similar transphobia, but vehemently nitpick lesbians all day long, even the accepting ones cannot avoid their scrutiny and accusations.
Wasn’t a TERF before, I just believed we needed our own space, but I sure am now.

Anonymous 108570

>>108569
I mean, the /clg/ was just the last straw. It was very discouraging to hear all the things they actually think about womanhood.

Anonymous 108571

>>108569
this isn't exclusive to /lgbt/, it's lgbt spaces in general
fags can get away with transphobia and make whatever comments about women's bodies they want with 0 consequence but if a lesbian so much as breathes a word about not liking penis or even just mentions anything about gender at all then she's literally satan

Anonymous 108572

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I think it's time this thread gets a bump. Hello my fellow lesbians.

Anonymous 108573

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>>108560
anon i know ur probably never coming back to this thread but i think we share a lot of similarities and let me be stupidly optimistic this once. i'll show you my old lps youtube channel i made when very young.
miri#7100

Anonymous 108574

I used to think of it but I never knew a lesbian deeply enough or had the chance to pursue attraction. Honestly I would just feel completely fake trying to pursue one.

Anonymous 108575

Glad to see the thread’s up. Convenient timing, since damn, I’m feeling miserable about being a female faggot rn.
Got only 3 matches last month, and they were all unicorn hunters. It got me thinking. I hate to say this, but maybe I just don’t deserve monogamy.
I don’t think I’ll ever be good enough for anyone, so I might as well take the chance with someone who is just using me to manage her dual sexuality.
I’d lose my first kiss and virginity to someone who prioritizes some moid over me, and yes, it’s depressing, but less so than eventually becoming 80yo femcel.
I just want to die lol.

Anonymous 108576

>>108556
>first crush?
one time in like 6th grade i was in class and i noticed that my ENTIRE chair/desk combo thing was moving up and down noticeably and I looked back and this cheerleeder/volleyball girl had her shoe under one of the rear legs and was absentmindedly lifting the entire thing WITH ME IN IT and I couldn't speak for 2 periods. I didn't realize I was gay until I was 25 somehow.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
SW Michigan. Huge. A massive gamut of choices from super queer circles to large radfem groups. It actually kind of rocks
>cute stories about your gf
Just dumped someone :(
>favourite lesbian media?
i am shipper trash.
>lesbian media you hate?
…i am shipper trash.
>coming out stories
uneventful. honestly, i think my family was glad i stopped forcing myself to be with men.
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
Butch, and proudly.
>how did you know you were gay?
it took me a long, LONG time to realize I was exclusively attracted to women. I was groomed on 4chan and literally thought the disgust and internal pain I felt being with men WAS attraction and the relaxation, joy, arousal and desire to spend more time with women was an unrelated coincidence. literally my own interpretations of my internal feelings were backwards, which lead me to compulsively seek out men because i thought the pain and discomfort was something i would want. yikes. i only started to get over this almost into my 30s
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
This is my first post on this entire imageboard.
>bitch about being lonely
not in the mood
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I'm stone butch, and the traumatic past/cocky but need to be babied behind the scenes etc stereotypes read me for filth.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
i'm intersex and my childhood is a mindfuck i probably won't get into here
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
I like long, kind of outdoorsy dates. I enjoy forest walking, driving around, thrift shopping, and just kind of…I don't know. Discovering new places? I love to drive and explore in my car, so often I'll go out and cruise down back roads, enjoying all the forests and farms around here, spotting water towers through the trees and finding new towns. Stopping for ice cream at a little parlor or a random petting zoo. It'd be nice to find someone who
>best date?
i met a girl at a get-together and in 30 minutes we'd come up with an excuse and ditched our mutual friends to drive around the city for 6 hours doing random fun shit
>worst date?
went on a date with a girl and then a few weeks later i got a knock on my door and she had left an entire notebook filled with her first name + my last name

Anonymous 108577

>>108575
This is too depressing. Please try to get out more or something and meet someone who actually cares about you. Forcing yourself into that unicorn situation is way too sad and definitely not worth it.

Anonymous 108578

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I truly really wish that I was a lesbian, struggle because I'm straight, but dislike men.
Tried converting multiple times

Anonymous 108579

>>108576
>she had left an entire notebook filled with her first name + my last name
how tf is this 'worst date' anon thats a yandere gf irl. I would cherish her

Anonymous 108580

>>108579
I've had 3 stalkers so far I think. 2 female 1 male. It's not as fun IRL as it is in dating games

Anonymous 108581

>>108578
Go away

Anonymous 108582

>>108581
probably some weirdo that thinks it's possible for two women fucking to be heteronormative

Anonymous 108583

>>108581
That's fair lol

Anonymous 108584

>>108577
Thanks for the kind words.
Yeah, maybe I should stop using dating apps, since it takes a huge toll on my mental health, it’s just… meeting other lesbians irl is probably just as bad, since there’s no filter to hide behind.
Everybody’s so gorgeous, I get crushes all the time. Just trying to say that I’m not like incels, god I love women, so much, I just feel inadequate when I try to talk to them, since I know I’m no one’s type.
I mean, things haven’t changed in 13 years, I don’t think I can make it past 30 like this (27 now). Sorry if that’s dark, but… yeah. It’s why I’m even considering unicorn hunters, to pretend play a romance, so that I could lie to myself about being loved and stuff.

Anonymous 108585

>>108584
I think that a lot of what being a women means feels performative because of the expectations that we are supposed to meet (most obviously beauty and mannerisms). It's unrealistic and exhausting for everyone, except a lucky few. Keep in mind also that your idea of what you should be as a women is probably skewed even MORE since you're likely online a lot (perfection galore) and you're lesbian (you pay much more attention to women attractive to you). What I'm trying to say is that there is that there is this arbitrary mold that is perceived as a 'golden standard', partially from culture and partially from personal insecurities. But in the larger, more nuanced world, there are women who would be interested in you.
Also, since you don't talk to women much romantically, of course you'll feel inadequate. Just like if it's someones first time at a formal dinner they're going to feel awkward, out of place, like they shouldn't be there. That's a very understandable way to feel, and it will go away with practice.

Anonymous 108586

It hurts me that so many people feel that they wish they were a lesbian to get away from men. I can't help but think it would be easier to sift through the ocean of shitty men to find a good one than have to deal with the endless loneliness of being a lesbian.

Anonymous 108587

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Is this common?

Anonymous 108588

>>108587
Furries? Yeah they're fucking everywhere these days it seems.

Anonymous 108589

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Anonymous 108590

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>>108589
God, I love Cate Blanchett

Anonymous 108591

Is a Kinsey scale of 5 lesbian or bisexual? For context I find the idea of sleeping with a moid gross, but I also would be okay with kissing or dating a man. I also had a boyfriend in middle school and I enjoyed it (I loved to make crafts for him and hold hands, and I also liked kissing him but I never wanted to do anything else or kiss in public). I've only slept with one person (a woman) and it was wonderful.

Anonymous 108592

>>108586
this. Not only is it really hard to even find other women to date, but half of the ones that are ''available'' are either looking for a 3rd or they/them or even he/him 'lesbians'. Once it's narrowed down to actual women looking for a relationship, then there's the whole other matter of personal tastes and if you're going to click or not.

Anonymous 108593

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dude i wish i wasn't still stuck in my crappy redneck hometown, seems like everyone my age left for college. are dating apps worthwhile for finding a gf? i have a gay male coworker who met his bf on grindr but idk dating apps freak me out since i don't like texting that much

>>108591
>>127636
it could be comphet? women are socially pressured to like men, plus you were in middle school so you weren't fully developed mentally yet. you also don't have to use labels if you don't want to, and you can always change labels down the road if you realize anything that you hadn't before.

>>108587
nah dude but why are so many "lesbian" plotlines written by men like this? it reminds me of the "experimented in college but settled down with a man" trope that moids love for some fucking reason

>>108586
literally, "i wish i were a lesbian cuz men suck :((((" is such a tone deaf thing to say

Anonymous 108594

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CC finally gets a lesbian thread yes!
Bumping with the questionnaire:
>first crush?
My middle school best friend. It’s hard to describe what it was about her but she was so beautiful inside and out and she really cared about me and understood me. She had really cute freckles too
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
Not very active or public it seems. A few years ago some people painted a rainbow crosswalk by the university and it got vandalized pretty quickly.
>favourite lesbian media?
The western ones are usually lacklustre and I don’t really like animu so music is mostly all I have
>coming out stories
I’m not out to anyone, I’m afraid people will think differently of me even if they try to be polite about it on the surface, so I just keep putting it off forever
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
I’m just curious what this means..?
>bitch about being lonely
It is so painful. There is no getting used to loneliness, because even if you manage to avoid every single sight of girls being affectionate together, you’ll still see it in your dreams because your heart wants it. The yearning will never leave you alone ;_;
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
People aren’t so one dimensional, most girls are a mixed array of masculine and feminine traits. I prefer feminine looking girls but even girls with short hair and gym shorts can look feminine, that’s what I mean when I say it’s not so rigid
>how did you know you were gay?
I grew up pretty sheltered and didn’t know being gay was a thing for a long time. I got king of suspicious in middle school when girls were so interested in boys and my attention was completely on girls but my parents just told me I was a good kid for not chasing boys and focusing on my studies so that’s what I used to believe for a while. Now it’s coming back around to me that my parents keep getting suspicious about my lack of boyfriends at this age and I keep having to make excuses and say I’m too busy with school
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I guess I had the reputation of being weird and kind of goth in highschool, but no I don’t think I’m very close to the stereotypes. I doubt any lesbian is really, I feel like those tropes are played up way too much
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Eh I was just a little strange and quiet, I don’t think I was noticeably feminine or masculine. I was too shy to make my Barbies kiss lol just the thought of it made me feel like I was committing a crime
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
A girl that understands me and we can talk for hours, the type of girl that makes my heart swell with happiness just thinking about her. Going driving around at nights and making out in the car while it rains…

Anonymous 108595

diary posting. even living in a giant city as a lesbian neet feels like hell. at least if you're straight, you run the risk of a guy striking up nice conversation with you and stuff, and you can enjoy those moments of feeling desirable to the people who want to feel desirable by. i go outside once a week to buy groceries, i can't do dating apps because hook ups make me want to shoot myself, every girl online is straight or in a relationship already, and so on. i hate thinking about this, but i really do wish i was not a lesbian a lot of the time. i don't even have the fleeting moments of childhood crushes/missed connections/flirty friendships to look back on because it feels like i've always just been weird and alone. i wish i was normal and living a nice, beautiful life, or even had the hope of one

Anonymous 108596

>>108593
>nah dude but why are so many "lesbian" plotlines written by men like this?
Because it's a man writing them. They can't fathom their dick being unimportant to any woman. Many of them truly and honestly do believe that lesbians are either only doing it for attention or because they haven't found the right man to set her straight yet. The high school hangup gives them a cope for why they got rejected: he wasn't shit, she was just experimenting. Add in the forbidden fruit angle and it intersects with those creeps that infiltrate feminist groups to try to get into someone's pants. (Lesbians have constant problems with trannies trying to get access to the "off-limits" women, too. Men can't help themselves.) There's an entire genre of pornshit where men dick a supposed lesbian so hard that she realizes the error of her ways and "turns straight". If you're a woman and you're not interested in men then it's CLEARLY because you haven't been screwed properly by one, and oh boy he is just the man to do it.

>"Dicks are magic and I am important. I have a dick so that makes me the MOST magic and important. I will make this woman who thinks she doesn't even LIKE men like me so hard because I am the best at the sex and am a high value male. With my dick. Please pay attention to me! And my dick."

Anonymous 108597

>first crush?
EqG Applejack
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
There are gay girls everywhere on my campus but they're too good for me
>cute stories about your gf
I'm too nervous and immature to ever find myself in a relationship as of now
>favourite lesbian media?
appledash fanfics
>lesbian media you hate?
Everything western (except my mlp ships) and porn
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
what?
>bitch about being lonely
too much
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
Ig a bit of both, kind of a sloppy femme
>how did you know you were gay?
My attraction to my current waifu led me to believe so
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit?
I wear lots of flannels
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
girly girl for sure hehe
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
I want to be in a relationship with a Stacy who I can take out and spoil so damn badly
>best date?
>worst date?
never been on one :(

Anonymous 108598

>>108596
>The high school hangup gives them a cope for why they got rejected: he wasn't shit, she was just experimenting.
My parents had a divorced friend that bragged about three of his ex-girlfriends coming out as a lesbian after dating him. He always said that it was because sex with him could never be topped by another man. Men are incapable of not thinking the world revolves around them.

Anonymous 108599

>>108576
im from michigan, too. how is the gay scene in saugatuck? i've only visited a few times for vacationing. heard the scene is pretty vibrant and i saw a lot of pride flags there.

Anonymous 108600

>>108593
>could it be comphet?
It was, you were right and thanks for the input. After thinking about it for a few weeks I realized that my attraction to men was not actual attraction (I think some have a nice style or I like their facial features or I enjoy spending time with them, but not more than that), whereas with women it is completely different. shit

Anonymous 108601

>>108599
The gay scene in Saugatuck is good, but it's a general vacation spot. Douglas is where the gay people actually live. Douglas is like walking into a 90s gay second life sim. My ex and I found an alleyway with the names of dozens of gay couples in chalk with years going back decades and we added our names, then we had dinner at the local small plates restaurant and there were literally senile lesbian couples there. it was lovely.

Anonymous 108602

This feels like a massive cope more than anything, I've seen scrotes trying this same shit and it fails miserably, right down to using 2d shit to fool your brain. You're likely limiting your already miniscule pool of friends by reducing everything to potential advances. Doesn't help that straight women find you sex pests on par with the very troons and moids you despise. So please stop, for your own mental health and dignity.
Don't care what the fuck you use as an alternative, this just isn't a viable solution.

Anonymous 108603

>first crush?
Best friend when I was 8.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
Haven't touched it since I was in college so dunno. Just stuck with the friends I made from the lbgt soc and their extended friend groups. Really glad I did or I'd have no irl gay connections right now.
>cute stories about your gf
Currently single. Last gf had a really awkward sounding sneeze that I'd always laugh at and then she'd laugh too. Eventually she's start chuckling when she felt a sneeze come on and then it'd just come out even worse.
>favourite lesbian media?
I watched Strawberry Panic at 13 and it's that one trash show I can admit is trash but still rewatch and enjoy years later.
>bitch about being lonely
Playing with your own boobs isn't the same ;_;
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
Neither and don't care.
>how did you know you were gay?
Growing up I was into girl groups while my friends were into boy groups, got clingy to female friends while finding male friendships a lot easier, was always entranced by boobs in anatomy books and female nudity on tv. Didn't think I was gay at the time because you get told these are normal things for girls, but when I never had the urge to date guys as a teen and got overly invested in lesbian fiction I figured something was up. Still didn't call myself a lesbian until college since I was still half expecting to grow into liking guys/be bi.
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
Flannel.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
I liked video games back when it was still largely considered a guy thing and I was the only girl at school who'd take in my GBA, but other than that I was pretty girly.
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
I want to go see Takarazuka Revue with a weeb gf…
>best date?
Unplanned drive around the country for a weekend after a party
>worst date?
Outdoor food festival where it rained the whole day and everything was overpriced and we missed our bus back and my date was obviously not enjoying herself. I don't mind days out where everything goes wrong since it can lead you to doing stuff you usually wouldn't, but you really need to be with someone who's up for making the best of it.

Anonymous 108604

>>108578
People like you are the worst because you're so ignorant that you think that being a lesbian will help you escape your problems, it won't. Being gay has made my life a living hell. The loneliness alone could drive anyone mad. I wish I was straight honestly. My parents would be proud of me, I would be able to raise kids with their biological father, there would be so many options to choose from for dates. and people won't give you stares for telling them that you're straight.

Anonymous 108605

>>108601
>My ex and I found an alleyway with the names of dozens of gay couples in chalk with years going back decades and we added our names
To be clear, then they abused me, and then the friend that walked me through understanding that, sat with me while I was confused, held me while I cried, was the first to use the word "abuse" when I was afraid to, said they'd protect me and was one of the biggest reasons I felt strong enough to break up with them…started dating them. 2 days ago.
It's a stereotype in the LGBT community that dykes have really bad relationship ethics. After 15 years in this community, I wish they were wrong.

Anonymous 108606

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Can you guys recommend me some lesbian movies?

Anonymous 108607

I need a cute pale carrer-woman gf

Anonymous 108608

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>first crush?
a girl I made spin art for in kindergarten.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
absolute torture, no one’s really gay. lots of larping bisexual lesbians + larping hets who call themselves “pansexual”/bi, im considered gen z though so it’s not too surprising.
>cute stories about your gf
one day…
>favourite lesbian media?
Overrated, too embarrassed to talk about.
>lesbian media you hate?
the L word falls flat.
>coming out stories
I come out over and over again yet everyone tries to say I’m bisexual/in a phase every time I come out. No one really listens to me. Other lesbians are either catty/bisexual. I have no vendetta against bisexuals (love them dearly) but we have contrasting experiences. Being a lesbian is an isolating experience. It’s lonely. I think I just need to find new people to surround myself with.
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
I could fix you Luna.
>bitch about being lonely
I just wish I knew other lesbians who are as down to earth as I am. Everyone seems to have their cliques, I just like talking to everyone. I just want to find a woman to build a life with but everyone I come across is either insanely repressed or just not for me… or very mentally unstable. I suppose we all are, though.
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
Butch technically, I don’t care about labels that much. Terms like futch do make me laugh though.
>how did you know you were gay?
I realized I’d never even kissed any guy I’d dated. My friends kept telling me that if I didn’t like sex I shouldn’t have sex. My friends kept asking me why I didn’t seem to like men. I read an article that blew my mind and then I realized it. That was a strange summer.
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I have a deep voice and I’m very masculine. As a kid I was a tomboy.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
I was a tomboy. I did make my Barbie’s kiss though.
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
My dream relationship would be someone who loves the city as dearly as I do. I want her to like animals. I want her to be an artist too, and we could create together.
>best date?
>worst date?
I’ve never been on a conventional date. I’ve always met people through other friends/college.

Anonymous 108609

>>108608
Cute pic anon

Anonymous 108610

First time I entered CC it was such a culture shock because most of the posts on /b, /feels & /nsfw were about men, both on the positive and negative way.
I mean, I'm aware most women are het (I haven't meet a single lesbian irl, just straights and """""bi"""""" women), but for some reason I thought there would be a decent amount of lesbians over there since it's a female-only board. Kind of forgot people can be attracted to men I guess, since everyone on my friend group is single and don't talk about relationships often.

Anonymous 108611

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Anonymous 108612

>>108610
Lots of lesbian stacies on feminist tumblr. Cc is kind of the female equivalent of r9k (but a bit less disgusting and toxic ofc)

Anonymous 108613

>>108611
How is rooting for a "sportsball" team toxic masculinity? It's a healthy way to waste time, so long as it doesn't reach cringey levels.

Anonymous 108614

>>108608
>I’ve never been on a conventional date. I’ve always met people through other friends/college.
What do you mean?

Anonymous 108615

>>108613
Its retarded sexist moid behavior and it almost always reaches cringe levels. They've killed other moids with their bare hands and destroyed entire cities during matches cause their little group of old rapist cokeheads with raggedy hips didn't kick the ball accurately enough.

Anonymous 108616

>>108612
Been there before, but it's either walking on eggshells with common/libfems or enduring edgy radfems (even if I agree lots with radfem stuff), it's so hard to find someone who is a middle ground. I just use it so silently reblog stuff nowadays.
I'm fine on CC though, it was just a culture shock. /b and /feels are full of drama, but the other boards are very chill.

Anonymous 108617

>>108611
Most of these aren't even toxic. Just say you want a boyish-acting gf and move on.

Anonymous 108618

I'm from a Muslim family so I think I'll be forced to marry a male to appease my family. The thought of lying every time I tell him I love him makes me laugh

Anonymous 108619

>>108613
It's not. If someone is really sperggy and gets violent over sports, then that is definitely toxic but just casually watching sports and rooting for a team/person is a normal activity. I also like how driving a forklift is also "toxic". Next tumblr will say that other basic activities like walking and breathing are also toxic.

Anonymous 108620

>>108618
If you can't be free, at least I hope for you he marries two wives and that she is also a closeted lesbian.

Anonymous 108621


Anonymous 108622

>>108620
we live in a western country so that's illegal

Anonymous 108623

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>first crush?
In primary school, one of my best friends. I ended up confessing to her on Facebook chat. This was back in 2010 so I don't know how FB chat works back then but I don't know if that message sent or not. I just told her I get heart palpitations around her and that she was so cute. She didn't treat me any different afterwards at school so maybe it didn't.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
It's alright. You can meet and find girlfriends easily through social media.
>favourite lesbian media?
I don't really recall right now and I'll probably stay up seething once I do and I've made this post but probably Orange is The New Black. Nicky Nichols <3 and Flaca although she aint gay
>bitch about being lonely
I just want a similarly schizo gf
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
Labels are good so long as you're not kamikaze about it. I'm a femme and I only date femmes, not really into butches
>how did you know you were gay?
Gay awakening when there was this local movie that almost showed 2 girls kissing
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
tomboy but I progressively got even more femme
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
I wish I could have my schizo (not literal) gf who loves me right and makes me feel safe. We'd talk and there'd be no dead air unless it's comfortable silence. An ideal date would be if we'd go on a nightwalk on some beach and go back and make love in our expensive hotel room. I'm embarrassing but you told me to be sappy

Anonymous 108624

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are dating apps worth it? for finding a gf, not just a hookup? 2 out of the 3 people i've met through non-dating related websites ended up being troons (this was years before i realized how common they were). i did date the 1 actual woman for a couple years and it was a very nice relationship while it lasted. i'm too shy to flirt with randoms irl unless i know she's into women which almost never happens.

Anonymous 108625

>>108624
Nah, most people I have met there are either trannies, women looking for a 3rd with her boyfriend or some "bicurous"/not wanting something serious. And most often than not, they don't tell you any of this until pretty late, if they even do.
Dating apps aren't worth in general regarless of who you're looking for though.

Anonymous 108626

>>108624
dating apps/sites are fine. it's true that the "women looking for women" category will be full of trannies, hetero couples, and straight women who just don't want to self identify that way. But you can dodge those hurdles with a bit awareness.

Anonymous 108627

>>108624
>>108625
>>108626
Where the hell do some of you live that meeting troons online is such a normal thing? I hope I don't accidentally move there.

Anonymous 108628

I’m disappointed that most miners are straight. Like I can’t take your rambling about the moid menace and how much you hate scrotes seriously if you get into relationships and sleep with these same creatures. Just shows this board is full of fake feminist pickmes.

Anonymous 108629

>>108628
There's nothing more based on this earth than straight women who are misandrists.

Anonymous 108630

>>108629
>rewarding the enemy with sex attention and relationships
Yeaaaaahhhhh sis, soooooo based

Anonymous 108631

Is anyone an actual lesbian, doesn't believe in gender/libfem nonsense, and not really a radfem either? I don't mind them and I agree with them on more things, but I disagree with a lot of other things. Maybe I'm just a centrist in the end but I hate how sexuality is so political, I hate how I can't find community that isn't segregated to certain opinions besides woman=female and gay=same-sex (which shouldn't be controversial opinions but basic dictionary definitions).

Anonymous 108632

>>108631
Yeah, I am! I find it so hard to meet other people online because that, everything is too extreme and black/white, if you befriend people from [X] circle, it means you have to ditch everyone from [Y] circle. Also your political beliefs turned into a part of your personality for most online people, so you can't be central-ish, to be more "soft" with your beliefs or being open to befriend people who disagree with you.

I can't stand liberal feminism, agree with like the core beliefs of radical feminism, but disagree with a few things (like political lesbianism). Doesn't help that lately, lots of new "radfems" joined from hate, not love; so you get stuff like women making fun or bashing other women for dumb stuff instead of supporting eachother, along with rentless figting.
That's why I left my only social media actually, I couldn't stand how hateful some women were towards other, but I also can't befriend libfems because they all hate me…

Anonymous 108633

>>108632
*relentless fighting

Anonymous 108634

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>>108545
Two cute ukrainian refugees moved in next door, not a single day goes by without me thinking about them.

Anonymous 108635

>>108632
That's a relief, although I do use social media for fun (I'm not closeted but I'm not out-out IRL, so I go online to talk about hobbies and read interesting things), and it sucks because it's like I can get along with different kinds of people, but I've lost friends on both sides and I hate walking on eggshells and hiding a part of myself everywhere I go. if people outright asked my opinion on "hot issues" I'd just say so, but I also get scared of the response due to the black-and-white thinking.

I'm honestly not even against befriending libfems as long as they aren't pro-"if you say you're a woman you are a woman" and pro-sex "work", but most of them are and aren't even open to debate, they just shut you down as "you're a bigot, go away TERF." But the TERFs don't really like me either, lmao

Anonymous 108636

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>tfw no Viking gf to lez out with

Anonymous 108637

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>tfw no basque gf

Anonymous 108638

I think I'm finally ready to start dating women and hopefully cultivate a good long term relationship. The only problem is that I don't know any lesbians and I'm a painfully shy person who struggles to approach new people. I'm not sure what to do. Im afraid to try dating apps like tinder because everyone on there is looking for sex. I want to date and fall in love

Anonymous 108639

>>108638
Hah, best of luck anon you're a bottom drowning in a sea of bottoms there.

Anonymous 108640

>>108638
Ah, same here. Although I'm trying to be less shy, and I also always gain an absurd amount of confidence when I'm interested enough in someone. It's like possession, I swear.
Currently I'm just going to events/places where the type of women I like would reside, and in the meantime I'm meeting cool friends (something I never saw coming!). It's a win/win. Perhaps "just putting yourself out there" isn't a meme.

>>108639
What? Her post said nothing about her sex position preferences.

Anonymous 108641

>>108640
>shy
She didn't need to, as a switch I always know.

Anonymous 108642

It's funny how I see lesbians complain that tinder is full of people looking for sex, but where I am, I see the other way around. I'm not opposed to dating, but it's difficult for me to have attachments so I wish I could find these women who just want to do sexual things and that's it. I've been trying to find a woman around my age to be FWBs or even sext with, but it seems like everyone wants to settle down and get married. The only ones into casual things are women with boyfriends who want a threesome. Sometimes I wonder how some women manage to have a million exes or past sexual partner when I can't even get one.

Anonymous 108643

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>>108639
Fr, as a bottom (switch?) I feel like tops don’t exist anymore

I had the perfect image for this but I can’t find it so we will have to go with michaelwave boy

Anonymous 108644

>>108643
It's also because the stereotype of bottoms being greedy and immature scares tops off. I'd love to try topping (I consider myself verse), but when I tried to seek out bottoms on apps they're just pillow princesses who overstate how shy and useless they are and nothing else. Boring.

Anonymous 108645

>>108644
Never understood the sentiment that bottoms are the ones receiving oral. Where's the person giving oral during face-sitting? That's right. On the bottom.

Anonymous 108646

>>108645
I know, I'm just using "pillow princess" to describe a certain kind of bottom who is only interested in receiving oral that I mostly find.

Anonymous 108647

Out of curiosity s that are dating or have been dating (or have lesbian friends) is it normal for the girlfriend to join your friend group? In straight dating there's always this barrier between the boyfriend and the girls even if the girlfriend drags him everywhere he's an honorary part of the friend group. It's also totally normal to ask the girlfriend to not bring her boyfriend along but I can't even imagine asking my friend to do that to her gf.

Anonymous 108648

>>108647
Maybe? The ones I have dated where part of my friend groups, so nothing really changed.
Moids are moids so they're always unwelcome, but as long as you aren't lovey dovey with your girfriend while others are present it should be ok. Basic etiquette for relationships in general.

Anonymous 108649

why can't i find a woman to top me. i'm screaming. i'm successful with women and date often yet none of these bitches can give me the O i deserve. i put in so much work for their O and they barely touch my body in return. i'm FED UP

Anonymous 108650

What is top and bottom in a lesbian sex? Penetration? Just being active/passive? Is it dom/sub thing? I have a gf but have no idea which one of us is which kek.

Anonymous 108651

>>108648
> but as long as you aren't lovey dovey with your girfriend while others are present
My friend and her gf are very very very touchy and covey around each other and it makes a few of us paranoid since we live in a homophobic country.
But I wasn’t thinking of that, just that the gf becomes part of the friend group.

Anonymous 108652

>>108643
I'm a service top, but I don't understand why it's expected for tops to be don juans who will take all initiative and can't feel a bit reserved or worried at first. I get being shy, but if you give no signals and you look straight passing, nobody is going to approach you. Nobody wants to risk a lesbophobic freakout if you turnout to be straight or end up feeling creeped out.

Anonymous 108653

How do you deal with jealousy especially if you’re jealous your friend (who you’re rushing on) is with another woman?

Anonymous 108654

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>>108556

>first crush


i think it was toy chica from fnaf, i would always draw her as a kid. i was literally obsessed with her

>what's your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?


it's pretty dead when it comes to lesbians, i dont think ive ever met a single lesbian where i live.

>cute stories about your gf


we always have sleepovers on call together since were LDR. like everyday since we cant handle being long distance.

>favourite lesbian media?


undertale and deltarune, they probably have some of my favorite ships in media. i love alphyine and suselle

>bitch about being lonely


theres literally no fucking other lesbians in my area and everyone who says they are one is a fucking libfem who says they have "comphet" (theyre using it wrong)

everyone likes men or is a man for some fucking reason i just wish there were more lesbians

>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?

I dont mind them but personally i do not use them

>how did you know you were gay?


I always knew i was gay, i just didnt know what label to put on it

>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones dont fit you at all?


I fit the man hating lesbian stereotype 4sure.

>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?


I was a weird kid, i had an obsession with horror and i was a little bit of a tomboy. i didnt really have any friends so i feel bad for younger me lolol

>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc


watching a movie together eating a large ass pizza in a comfy bed, kind of like a sleep over. theyre so relaxing to me. id like to kiss her before we fall asleep

Anonymous 108655

>>108551
on god imagine hating men and being attracted to them
my ex said something to me recently and i have kept it with me ever since. "not all men, but somehow, it's always a man".
i will never understand het women.
>>108556
first crush was probably my best friend from 7th grade, but that ship sailed eons ago.
i live in the deep south so i'm basically alone aside from my ex who i'm no longer with bc we want different things out of life. we're on good terms still ofc.
my fav lesbian media is either carmilla or bloom into you, but i adore sailor moon bc of Haruka and Michiru.
my hot take is that idfc about labels and i dress pretty andrognyously. it looks professional and clean and i'm a fan of characters like Haruka and Oscar who dress in androgynous ways but have their own brand of femininity.
as a kid i read books and played games with my grandmother on her Dreamcast or PS2, when i was able. sometimes played outside with my cousins ofc.
the best date i ever went on was playing yugioh with my ex at our mall. trash game, never play, but i'm too far gone.

Anonymous 108656

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>"not all men, but somehow, it's always a man"
picrel

Anonymous 108657

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honestly i feel like we need a /lg/ board, due to the small amount of lesbians on here lesbian threads get hidden pretty fast by het posters. so they die pretty fast…

its so isolating being a lesbian on female only threads like all you hear is "my bf my bf" or "how to talk to men" im so tired of hearing it

Anonymous 108658

>>108657
Give them a lesbian board. How hard could it be to duplicate the web code and just add another board?

Anonymous 108659

>>108657
oh god yes, gimme

Anonymous 108660

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>>108657
second this, I want to like this website, but seeing so many posters talking about how much they like moids really puts me off. Also, the het posters tend to derail the lesbian generals too, I saw one in /feels/ and the only people who talked were straight women and bisexuals… it's annoying

Anonymous 108661

>>108657
an anonymous lesbian space that isn't the fucking 4chan would be great because, one, CC is moderated by actual women and, two, you can't just admit you're a 4channer.
the real question is: should it allow nsfw images?

Anonymous 108662

>>108661
i feel like as long as theyre tagged as nsfw it should be fine

Anonymous 108663

>>108660
so true like "im a bi/straight woman but…" getoouuuttt

seeing so many posts about dating moids is so annoying alot of the content on this website is very interesting but the hetposting just irks me out

Anonymous 108664

>>108657
It won't happen because there's no one with admin powers.

Anonymous 108665

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I got stupid questions.

This is more towards the bisexual girlies but…
What are some differences between mlw relationship and wlw relationships? What are some similarities?
Any late in life lesbians?

Anonymous 108666

>>108665
Sorry but this isn't the thread for
>mlw
lmao

Anonymous 108667

>>108666
Then which thread do you recommend?

Anonymous 109360

I feel really guilty whenever a guy likes me especially when I think he’s really cool and I love hanging out with him. Grew up in both male and female dominated spaces, I guess my friend (male) started getting into me because he likes programming and so do I. And I guess I have pretty nerd interests, have a sense of humor and am physically attractive with a healthy background so I’m basically nerd guys “dream girl”. But it makes me feel so guilty because I know what it’s like to be rejected and I keep thinking what if this guy doesn’t get a girlfriend after I reject him? What if he becomes an incel? What if he kills himself? (I know it’s a stretch but that’s how my head works) sometimes I feel so guilty that I consider saying yes and being in a relationship out of guilt. How do I stop feeling this way? I really feel like “me being a lesbian is such a waste” just like those guys say.

Anonymous 109372

>>108667
Go away.

Anonymous 109380

>>109360
Suck his cock if you love him so much then.

Anonymous 109381

>>109380
I don’t love him bro. And I don’t like sucking cock there is no fucking reason for you to be so mean.

Anonymous 109382

>>109381
Stop being so weak

Anonymous 109384

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>>109381
>>109360
There are no bro here, and >>109380 is right. You need to learn that his feelings are his responsibility, not yours. What's the point of whining about it? You're like these tiktok people filming their outraged selves watching faraway news on tv.
Feeling a tad sorry is okay; like you're sorry for a roadkill or a lost dog or anything that's outside your control, but lamenting beyond that is either self-indulgent, or even stupid if you consider alleviating the imagined sorrow of that guy you won't date (yet, it doesn't seem like he even asked you out, that whole scenario lives (rent free) in your head).
Concentrating on non-existent problems is refusing to deal with the existing issues in your life. Grow up, look at your real life, make it better.
tldr: stop the nonexistent drama, live your life.

Anonymous 109386

>>109384
Sometimes I feel so guilty for other peoples problems I become severely suicidal.

Anonymous 109387

>>109386
Btw sorry guys that was a retarded post I get like that sometimes idk what I have but I have intrusive thoughts n shit not as an excuse or anything but like literally sometimes when it rains a tad bit too hard I think the world is ending or when I’m in a car I think that it will be my last day on earth because I’ll be in a car accident. And like I read anyone’s story like “my life is so shit I’m gonna kill myself” I’m like HOLY SHIT THIS INDIRECTLY MY FAULT! and kinda went to misogynistic online incel places as a teen because internet access and I keep reading about how women are evil because they rejected them and I thought that I was evil if I rejected someone. Like it’s complicated I’ll shut up.

Anonymous 109388

>>109384
The difference is that I feel extreme involuntary guilt and those TikTok people usually do it as a way to stroke their ego or to make themselves look like good people

Anonymous 109389

>>109387
>>109386
Thinking everything is your fault is some sort of narcissism (as in: it is a failure of considering others, as you place yourself at the center of everything). Often it comes from immature parents making you responsible for everything and/or growing up in an unstable household (because if you believe all things are your fault, you have the illusion of control over them and it's less stressful than having zero control).
So these feelings of misplaced guilt are not to be trusted and if they persist once you live on your own (meaning out of your unstable family and/or living conditions) you need to work on them with a shrink or else.
>>109388
And publicly convincing yourself you're better than those tiktok people is not about stroking your ego?

Anonymous 109390

>>109389
The best solution to this problem would be to kill myself. And my parents are great. And I’m not mad. And everything is an excuse to kill myself because I am not a functional member of society.

Anonymous 109391

>>109390
Society is sick; not being a functional member is rather a good sign (again: stop thinking you're the issue).

Anonymous 111318

>first crush?
My first crush was this cute chick that worked with me at a Taco Bell. I tried to become friends with her and
I even got her phone number at some point but she ghosted me after a couple weeks.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
I go to an art school so a lot of the people around me are queer. They seem cool I have nothing to say about them though since I don't interact with my peers much.
>cute stories about your gf
After two weeks of dating my girlfriend I knew that I was in love, but I didn't wan't to make her feel weird by telling her too soon. So I marked in a date that was 3 months away on my phone to tell her that I love her for the first time. But then she told me that she loved me the same night I that fell in love with her!
>how did you know you were gay?
I tried to reject the fact that I was attracted to women when I was a kid. I got myself a boyfriend in high school to try and prove to myself that I was straight. But I couldn't even bring myself to kiss him or even have sex with him. The thought of doing any of those things with him or any other man was disgusting. That's when I accepted my identity and came to terms with it.
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I don't fit any of them lol.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
I was a tomboy as a kid. I wanted to wear pink dresses, play with dolls, and be a girly-girl but I was too ugly for that.
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
Every date I have with my girlfriend is a dream date. But one day I'd like to bring her out to a tulip field.
>best date?
The best date I've ever had was last Valentines day. I gave my girlfriend a bouquet of roses and couple large plushies while she gave me beautiful locket necklace. We sat down to eat sushi and then I took her to a sweet-heart-themed ice-skating rink.
>worst date?
don't have one lol



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