>>110272>You are not their friendI hate this advice. Firstly, you can be on friendly terms with students; if they like you then they'll probably do what needs to be done. Secondly, telling people what they are not is pretty useless.
My students see me like an older sister. I don't like telling them what to do; there are rules in the classroom and everyone (myself included) follows them (ideally). Not always the case, so here is what can be done to 'redirect' behaviour:
Acknowledging individual 'good' students is the best way to influence everyone to do the right thing (see: psyops). They can be little devils, but by golly kids crave validation, especially from someone older (i.e. you). Use this to your advantage. Sometimes I use sticker books ($1 for 300 stickers is very cost-effective, so many retards give lollies and other expensive prizes), I'll go around and give stickers to the ones who are on task, and most of the 'naughty' ones will start trying because they want a sticker too (granted I often don't do this unless the class seems more unsettled than usual, that's just cause I'm lazy). Also, I try and make the lesson interesting. It doesn't have to be a wild lesson with 20 resources; sometimes I just have a single problem at the start that grabs their attention and forces them to think. 90% of my learning goals are clickbait at this point (I actually hate learning goals for the most part, every single one I "need" to use is either unintelligible or a spoiler for the lesson content).
For the students who are 'unmanageable', I usually just walk over and stare at them. I try make it more unsettling than threatening. Few people enjoy having a helicopter mum standing over them watching every little detail, especially a helicopter mum who says nothing and just looks disappointed. When I feel they've experienced an appropriate level of discomfort, I explain very clearly what they've done wrong and what I want from them. This works with who I am because I'm not a reactive person. They tend to respect me for my intelligence; they know I'm well versed in what I teach and people will generally respect you if you're very good at something. Cue Machiavelli talking about the prince and his prowess, etc…
Depending on where you are (geographically) you can call the kid's parents and maybe the parents will take your side (if they don't then don't bother lol). I once knew a teacher (quite a small woman) who called a boy's mum in the middle of a lesson because he wouldn't listen to her, embarrassed him. This is probably what first reply meant by psyops; you haven't done anything disrespectful to the student, but you have left a deep psychological wound (hopefully it brings them regret on their deathbed).
The only issue (I think) that arises with "being their friend" is that it can lead to you being 'desperate' for them to like you. You have to be comfortable enough that you can handle 'rejection' from them. Could you sing in front of a class of 20-odd teenagers if the opportunity presented itself (doesn't count if you're a singing teacher)? It's my eventual goal; making them cringe is honestly so much fun. You're going to learn a lot this year, my advice hitherto may be entirely useless for you, but one piece of advice that isn't useless is to reflect on your 'failures' and 'successes'. You can't change your small frame, but you certainly can change the 'timid' personality (actually, you probably have to, but it'll be for the better if you do). This doesn't mean you have to become belligerent, but it does mean you have to know what you stand for and what you want for the future generations. Anyway sorry for the blogpost