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Pressured Into Following On Social Media Anonymous 111827

Has anyone else ever been kind of pressured by someone to follow them on social media when you didn't want to? And they cornered you in a group setting to make sure you follow them. It wasn't overt, but you can sense the energy behind it. It's someone who makes you uncomfortable but others seem to like.

They're in a community important to me so I'm worried they'd "talk about it" to people if I unfollowed and removed them for seemingly no reason and I'd probably see them again and they'd likely ask about it.

It's really upsetting me to have them able to see my account but I felt trapped in accepting their request since they came up in person.

Can anyone offer advice on if I should just embrace the "I don't care" attitude or just put up with it to save face?

Anonymous 111829

I don’t know if this would be a useful advice for you nona, but this is why I have 2 accounts. one for normie shit, for following people from school, work, etc, and the other one is for the actual me. I know it sucks but it’s the best I can do

Anonymous 111830

who cares? delete your social media girl

Anonymous 111892

>>111829

I've thought about doing this before but it's already too late with this person/a lot of people in this community knowing this particular account.

After I posted this I removed them as a follower and stayed following them because it's easier to justify not wanting people to see your profile but not "being rude" by still following them (just muted and restricted, etc.)

Anonymous 111893

>>111830
I've thought about it but it actually helps with some things I do IRL so no use deleting it. I don't go out enough/see people enough so finding out about things online is the best middle ground for me.

But also this attitude reassures me that people need to get over themselves when it comes to digital engagement from people just because you know of them

Anonymous 111894

For more context, this person is an old tranny who has talked openly about their porn addiction and parasocial relationship with a particular porn star, even posting about her, calling her "my friend" (this "friend" doesn't know who they are and has almost 200k followers)

I just get horrible vibes from this person and have dealt with people like this before and it never bodes well. The problem is I fear others who seem to like her/support her wouldn't understand or look down on me for my personal feelings about it if I did explain.

She requested to follow me a while back but I ignored it. She saw me at an event recently and came up to me to ask for my username even saying she posted something related to me (not like about me, I just don't want to explain here)

I tried to drop the hints that I "don't really use social media xyz" but it didn't matter. I should've lied and said I don't have the app or something right now. Ugh.

Anonymous 111904

>>111892
I wiped posts from my old account and transformed it into a normie one (I was following regular people from my art account…stupid). Then just made a second one and refollowed my closest friends on it.
That could be a good move if it's something like Instagram.

Anonymous 111926

>>111894
Just unfollow and stand your ground. You don't need toxic people in your life. You don't have to explain to anyone. You need to get a spine and defend yourself. "I mass unfollow people", "I'm not interested in following you right now, maybe in the future though", you don't even have to say anything. At the end of the day it isn't a huge deal who's following who on social media. Embrace a confident attitude, please.

Anonymous 111927

>>111926
Samefag but to add on, it's now or never to control your own life. You need to start now. Be the confident person you should be. Don't let this tranny moid control you, they get away with far too much in this world.

Anonymous 112772

>>111926
I needed to hear this, thank you.

Anonymous 112990

I have never experienced this exact thing, but I understand the feeling. In high school I was always asked by people I was not close with (or interested in getting close with) if they could follow me, and I always declined. My reason was that I only had a private account which was just for very close friends (AND IT WAS TRUE!). Maybe I'm unaware of certain social norms regarding these situations, but they would always react kind of hurt or sad, like I almost owed them my social media or something. It was really weird. I haven't been on any social platforms like Instagram, TikTok, or Discord in quite some time now and it has relieved me of so much stress- I honestly hate those platforms. I would prefer someone telling me what they have been up to rather than spying on their life through a story or post.



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