/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>112983
I avoid mirrors

looksmax tbh

Work out and eat well to make the best out of your body instead. And get a good hair cut I guess. Makeup isn't great when your self-esteem isn't the best to begin with anyway.

>>112983
Externalize your insecurity as hatred of men like the rest of this site.

Usually it's not a problem for me, but >>112987 is right. By being fit and dressing well, people generally just feel sorry for me rather than reacting with disgust. It only really becomes an issue in a couple of ways. First is with older men in leadership positions, who respond extremely badly when not only am I not fodder for their deluded power-fantasies, but I don't appreciate their patronising 'compliments'. The other is when there might genuinely be someone who's attracted to me, but I can't bear to pursue it because the look of patronising pity on their faces, when they realise I'm even entertaining the thought, is too heartbreaking to stand. There's a very handsome guy at work who openly flirts with me, complimenting my singing voice and talent at work, and I so want to believe he can actually look past how unfortunately ugly I am, but even talking about it causes my chest to tighten and bile rise in my throat.

I am ugly to women but men say im attractive. I think theyre lying for easy sex because they think my self esteem is bad. Some scrote even called me a high value woman lmao. But women talk about me behind my back saying im ugly and that my fashion sense is bad. Feels bad since im not attracted to scrotes anyway. Objectively i'm probably average but i have been told im more like a 2 or 3/10 (by a woman) and more like a 7 or 8/10 (by a scrote). I wish I could switch and be ugly to moids and attractive to women

>>113392
at least you're seen as attractive

>>112983
Play the long game and take care of your skin/stay fit. I was in the not ugly but not beautiful category and while I'm not endorsing "THE WALL" as you might know of it, people start falling off aesthetically by their 30s if they aren't actively addressing what aging and the typical 20s lifestyle does to their body. By the time you are in your 30s you will be attractive for your generational cohort. This sounds like copium and it probably is, but it's working for me so far.

>>112983
If you're not a lesbian then you're probably just not your type. Don't worry overmuch about it, you're probably more pretty than you give yourself credit for.

I don’t think there are any ugly women. Beauty standards are purely a moid invention based on them only wanting to fuck women who look like literal children.

>>113540
That's cool nona but you're wrong.

I started to see myself the same way I see other women and I stopped caring about what other people think of me. If I can love and admire another woman for her intelligence, kindness, strength, creativity, etc, why shouldn’t I do the same for myself? Also why should I care about the opinions of people who only see my value in my appearance? If I have to waste my time and money on things that make me uncomfortable just to get someone’s respect, it’s probably not worth it.

>>113542
Brilliantly said. It’s not a coincidence that almost everything that is supposed to make a woman more attractive is meant to make her look younger, and in some cases prepubescent. It’s disgusting.

therapy