/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I feel you. It was tough, but I've recently come to the conclusion that moids with savior complexes just see mentally ill women as fetish material, just like how they view everything a woman does. I used to fall for it all the time, they always sounded so genuine when they talked about wanting to help me and wishing how they could save me, it made me feel so heard. They always slip up, though. They always show their true colors one way or another.

>>115005
don't go after the ones who think you need saving. Find yourself someone who embraces that side of you, doesn't really mind it and/or likes it. That kind of person probably carries some baggage of their own though, so..

>>115006
>They always slip up, though. They always show their true colors one way or another.
can you provide examples?

>>115005
So why do gOOood girls like bad guuuys?
I had this question for a real long time
I've been a BAD BOY and it's plain to see..
SO WHY DO GOOD GIRLS FALL IN LOVE WITH MEEEE

Or they find ur self-harm hot. Makes me sick

As others noted, it could be yet another depraved fetish moids have. Moids are fundamentally lazy, and get turned off of wanting to help when there's actual work/caring involved. Like how moids want to impregnate or "spread their seed", but think caring for the small child they helped create is "women's work".

Plus, moids want a woman who's feeling vulnerable, so that they can break down and remold a woman to become who he wants her to become, like in a cult. The amount of control a moid has over a woman he "helped" is unparalleled. Imagine if a woman tries to leave a moid who "saved" her from addiction, etc? The guilt trips, the "you owe me" mentality, the "how could she leave him?" from every person in their families and friends, coworkers, etc.

The ego boost of being her only source of strength in ending addiction or whatever would be enormous. The moid can basically say he created her, he owns her, if he becomes her pillar of strength. She should still leave him if he's abusive tho, just saying.

>>115306
You basically described society
Food for thought
Stay away from moids
Unless they are Keanu Reeves

>>115025
Absolute lies

>>115005
>All men say they want a woman with a bad head, suicidal, mental disorders
Who the fuck says that?

>>115336
Lazy losers that want to manipulate vulnerable women. Guys who want a mentally ill girl are too lazy to build the trust it takes to be depended on by a woman that loves herself, and instead they want someone who will be dependent immediately. These guys enjoy the brief high of being a girls lifeline until they get lazy/tired of it, then it’s the girls fault for being needy/mentally ill/ gross. Men like these are predators. If you date a guy who finds your mental health issues attractive, they want to OWN you. If you want a man in general, look for someone who’s patient.