/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>115723
ikik it's a boring answer but I wouldn't wanna look at them. I think it'd just hurt me for no reason and it's already in the past so who cares. But if I were to look through them I'd be hoping to find him being respectful and loving etc as it says a lot about what he's like as a partner. But then again too loving could be hurtful when reading through it. Stuff like
>I'll love you forever
>you're the only one for me
>I don't ever want to lose what we have
>I couldn't live without you
It all just feels wrong when you're the one being in a relationship with him now.
(I assume you mean messages from when they were together, not that they're still texting each other.)

>>115723
their sexting for sure

You must choose a man that didn't have an ex, then you wouldn't have this debacle.

>>115726
A don't want to teach a man how to be in a relationship. He would have no experience basically a child.

>>115727
very bad. you should be more responsible

>>115723
If he's a virgin, I don't care about his ex.
If he's not a virgin, I dump him immediately.

>>115727
Wdym experience, it's not like it's a cookie cutter thing where he can transfer what he "learnt" onto you. Unless your relationship is so banal and like every other girls that he can just do the same things and it'll be the same.
>go to x restaurant
>go to x bar
>boom sex

I've done it, and my biggest fear was that it would read exactly like he talks to me. I was so fucking ecstatic when I saw how differently he acted, that it felt like he was a different person. I shouldn't have been surprised that he wasn't gross, even back then, but it's nice to know.

>>115726
This is correct

>>115727
I disagree, a man who is a virgin and has a social life and a career is typically much better lover than manwhores.

in this hypothetical scenario, i gotta know how fat that metaphorical ass really was… gotta know what im goin up against or whateva

>>115723
I found his deviantart from 18 years ago and that was enough for me.

>>115723
He had a messy divorce so don't wanna bother him asking about his marriage but he married pretty young so I guess I'm curious about the time leading up to marriage, like how do people that young ever get married?
Still, even if I'm kinda curious I'd rather respect his privacy and ask him as long as he feels comfortable sharing

I don't know. Maybe see pics of their apartment? It sounded nicely decorated. His ex is nice, I've met her a few times.