/feels/ - Advice & Venting

how long have you been together? You probably need to come to terms with the fact that he's probably masturbated to the thought of what happened to you. And you should probably confront him about this and tell him how it makes you feel

>>117619
4 years… And i don't know how to come to terms with that thought, like, the only thing my brain can think when i try is "why?, it can't be".
And i know i should talk and tell him how much it hurts me but i don't know what i want to hear either. I don't think an "I'm sorry it will not happen again" will be enough.
This situation feels like hell, a lose-lose for me. I just want to cry nona, Everything about men is so traumatizing…

Get up and leave. There is no discussion to be had here. A moid who watches porn is a moid you can't save. I'm so sorry anon but you just have to get your shit, leave and never look back. The fact that he watches rape porn means he has the psychology of a rapist and is just too coward to do it.

>>117618
Douse him in gasoline and set him on fire.

>>117621
The best solution is to end it now. You can't put the cat back in the bag, and nothing he can say will undo your previous trauma with SA.

Its over nonas, i talked with him, i decided to end it there. 4 years wasted on someone like that…
Why are men always like this?, i'm too innocent and easy to take advantage of?, i'm stupid maybe?, i don't know. This feels like my rapists just took everything from me and that all men just can see me as a toy.
I'm scared of this thoughts. What should i do now?.

>>117661
>what should I do now
Go to therapy, work on yourself, stay away from shady corners of the internet, work on self-esteem, get a hobby, work out (endorphins are good), do not speak to degenerate men, no sex, no hookups, nothing. Just focus on yourself.

Dump him, only a serial killer has a porn account

>>117661
>i talked with him, i decided to end it there
Damn what happened

>>117674
I did a lot of that actually, I feel… great, I don't need a man, I thought it would be harder but it wasn't. I feel sad but also feel like nobody can hurt me anymore. I have things to do, a life, i don't need men, i just like to be alone and i didn't knew it until now.

>>117780

He said he was sorry. He actually had a fantasy with it. When we had sex he was imaginating he was my rapists… But not in a "harmful" way he said, it was just because he was frustrated another man taked "his girl" and he wanted to protect me… Sick af, sounded like he was just angry he didn't rape me first.

>>117831
sorry
just couldnt fucking
help myself lol
why. lmao.
can we all agree the most equivalent rape there is that comes from a woman is being told stories that didnt fucking happen so you can get indoctrinated into some discord groomers cult. XD

>>117661
im not one to whiteknight men but you can find a guy who is genuinely not into rape and is vanilla. or you can just be content being single. its up to you. i wish you the best truly and i hope you can heal and feel better about this all. i am sorry this happened to you

>>117661
Stay off men forever

>>117852
They will lie and hide all of their porn from you for the first 2 years. Good luck with that.

>>117855
i mean there are multiple stories of kinky women who are upset at how vanilla and boring their men are

>>117857
Whats this got to do with the OP? If you don't know you're girlfriend well enough to distinguish that after two years you're a god damn retard

God shut the fuck up scrote

>>117858
??? im not a scrote, im just telling OP that she shouldnt lose hope in case she ever wants to try dating again. shes young. she has her entire life ahead of her, she might not want to date the next few years but if she ever decides to try it again 10 years from now i just dont want her to think that all men will have this awful trait that her ex did. but if she wants to stay single for the rest of her life or just a very long time (like im also doing) then i also think thats a valid choice to make.

>>117618
Know a moid who's into rape despite the fact he's literally a rape victim. Rape is in moid's blood, the only "good men" are the ones that don't act on those impulses.

Good on you for leaving that POS. Keep setting those boundaries.

Maybe Im too fearful of a person, but it sounds like he could potentially be dangerous if he admitted to imagining being yourr apist. Change the locks, have some protection, just in general be safe.

Dont listen to the gaslighting about "but..but its not all men!1!". Men are not to be trusted, even other men dont trust men. Just my opinion but they are all like that. Or at minimum, eventually most men say or do things that show that they hate or want to dominate/destroy/humiliate women.

You should inform the feds

>>119496
i was SA’d by a friend a couple weeks after he confessed to me to being a victim of COCSA. that same night he admitted to having a kink and asked me if i had one too, since i had JUST told him about what his friend had did to me in high school. it felt staged looking back. but in the moment i thought i was the first person besides this friends mom he had told about being raped and he explained the kink to me like it was a wanting to take back control thing and he would never hurt anyone. i’d known him for almost ten years and he didn’t hurt me. until he did.