/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>119920
>previous relationships
no
I will only accept a virgin

>>119920
I'm 30, so I'll never have my virgin husband, but I literally never want to hear about his ex's. EVER. They don't fucking exist and he will never acknowledge them in my presence.

>>119923
>if he never talks about his exes they don't exist
Is picrel you?

>>119924
I just don't want to be reminded of them. It's cope, but it's how I cope and it works to just never HAVE to think about them.

>>119925
No offense, but I think it's kind of pathetic

>>119926
Well, I am pathetic. I'm hideous and a failure at life, but I managed to land a great guy who's good looking and I don't want to be constantly reminded of the other, better women he's been with.

>>119927
<3 u

I kinda like it, I like feeling lowk like a fem cuck, but a cuck of the future? I love hearing the shit they got up to because im curious and it's part of me self sabotaging … lalalalalalallalalalal

>>119926
Completely fine to have these feelings.

>>119920
Yeah it did.
I personally brought it up too often / showed a lot of disdain (bad pokerface..)
I learnt moids don't like it a lot whenever you mention your discomfort.

My ex told me I made him feel like a slut…
I don't think it's abnormal to get annoyed about.

But if some men are anything like women, it could be something of a 'shit test' to see how crazy you are down the line whenever they mention other women

>>119920
YES IT FUCKING BOTHERS ME, YOU ARE MY PROPERTY, NEVER SPEAK THE NAME OF ANOTHER WOMAN AGAIN

>>120032
>My ex told me I made him feel like a slut…
He sounds like one lmao

>>119923
I think you underestimating how many virgins are out their, you may to accept someone on the spectrum but theres lots of guys who were akward 20 year olds and threw themselves into their work and just woke up one day realizing they havnt dated in 5 years lol

>>119923
i got an ex who was 35 years old and virgin. He was very sweet and smart but some got some underlying mental issues that contributed to being virgin at that age.
We broke up (mostly my fault) but they are out there.

>>119920
I don't date post wall manwhore wursties. I will either get my virgin husband or die alone.

>>120231
This, all women deserve their virgin virile bf, also kek at your pic

My husband started having sex in high school and had girlfriends and one night stands. Yeah, it makes me jealous. I was a virgin when wemet. I'm pretty vanilla but sometimes I'll want to try something and he's just like "No, I've done that with an ex and I don't like it." It's disappointing.

But I don't really mind him bringing up exes. They were a part of his life. It bothers me if it's in the context of a comparison, though.

>>120243
>he's just like "No, I've done that with an ex and I don't like it."
Literally topright lmao

>>120245
frozen?
is the virgin BF 8yo?

>>120247
Are you serious rn, stop speaking like a incel chud, you know this is right and no other point of view is valable, asshat

>>119920
Yes it would bother me. I know I'm not normal and missed all the normal development milestones. But hey, not like I'm ever going to be in a relationship so lol

All of this jealousy goes away when you start being promiscuous too. It's not for everyone tho I would never recommend hookup culture to anyone younger than like 24 or women who are kinda autistic. But it's been a good experience for me because I get to learn more about what satisfies me sexually and I stop caring about male validation.
I don't care for relationships anymore but if I did get into one I'd honestly be turned off if his body count was super low. I'd feel like I was taking advantage of him or something.

>>120277
>I wouldn't date a virgin
More for me then

>>120278
Unironically this is exactly the attitude you should have. Get what you want. Whore mindset.

>>120279
Don't call me a whore

If he wouldn't stop after i asked him to then yeah it would bother me.

>>120277
>>120279
Sleeping around is basically the worst thing you can do. I'm not saying wait for marriage, but you should only ever have sex with men that you think are marriage potential and after a significant vetting period but most people get too horny to do this part

Sexual satisfaction is not complicated. Get some toys and teach him to eat you out.

>>120304
I don't want to get married unless it's for the purpose of taking half a rich man's shit. If you play your cards right, promiscuity is the 2nd most man-decentering thing you can do after total abstinence from men entirely. But I'm too much of a chauvanist.
I want my own playboy mansion with men in lingerie everywhere dammit.

>>120306
We disagree then, because I believe promiscuity benefits men way more than women.

>>120306
how does promiscuity decenter men??

>>120308
I get fucked without offering them anything else besides the sex.
I think a lot of nonas on here are on the asexuality spectrum or have sexual trauma. Nothing wrong with that, but people with healthy sex lives tend to understand that the purpose of sex is to make them feel good and it doesn't really matter what the man thinks.

>>120312
Getting used by a man who also doesn't care what you like and only pleases him doesn't sound so man-decentering

>>120313
Yeah, getting used by a man without any love, affection, cuddling or romance in "return" (I mean ideally the man should actively want to cuddle you and actively love you) is my personal hell.

I mean, anon is right, I am sexually repressed because I want love but I know objectively that very few men even pretend to love their lovers/gfs/'hookups', let alone actually love them. Then they call you clingy and act like you're a crazed maniac for having sex with the expectation they love you.

>>120312
Sex with men is inherently risky for women. Sleeping around will never be a healthy sex life, sorry. Loving relationships only.

>>120314
They will cuddle you. There's a lot of misinfo about what casual sex is like and I get it. In movies and TV there's a trope of the chauvanist man who pumps and dumps a different woman every night and then forgets about her forever more. I've never actually met one of those men.

I have 2 men right now who I intend to keep around for awhile. I see each one maybe twice a month cause my sex drive is low. The younger one buys me food so he's a free meal ticket. With the older guy we just get to fucking, cause he's busy or whatever. (He sometimes takes me shopping so who gives a fuck). Then, whoever it is, I go back to his place, fuck him, and we usually cuddle and goof of to my hearts content cause we both like that. We watch movies too usually. The sex is always good because I only date men who let me control the situation. The young guy even likes it when I tie him up and hit him lol.
This is the important part: after I go home, I DON'T NEED TO ENTERTAIN THEM ANYMORE. I can ghost them as long as I want. No babysitting men and their stupid fuckin problems.
I'm rambling about all this because I wish I knew it 2 years ago. You can get what you need sexually without having to kiss some moid's ass.

>>120321
At this point I'm nearly aromantic. A few low-committment moids tending to my needs is good. Never marrying, never getting a bf.

>>120324
Whatever rocks your boat, most casual stuff doesn't go like this and can end up in abuse.
I just find this very appalling and sad, would rather do nothing instead.