I can't make friends Anonymous 120990
can't really make meaningful friendship with other girls and it's been getting to me tbh. no one in my area has the same interests as me, and friend groups NEVER work out.
there's always some stupid petty drama that has the whole thing fall apart and has everyone hate each other until the end of time.
and other friends that i've had were always passive aggressive or in one-sided competition trying to "one up" me in any way possible to fuel their egos.
another friend i had just straight up started dating a known rapist from our old school and thinks life is all sunshine and rainbows.
idk, everything just feels kinda fake. i don't like how fake it is and have honestly just started removing myself from social spaces or groups entirely. my only friends are probably just my mom, sister and boyfriend of 2 years and i'm happy and fine but i still feel as though i need to have some kind of 'girlhood' or 'connection' in my life but i cba and dont know what to do at all because everyone in my area is just so boring and lame it feels like talking to a brick wall at all times.
hopefully when i travel abroad shit is gonna get better and i get to meet new people but man where i'm at right now just straight up fucking sucks and everyone is a copypaste of the next "big thing" online it's killing me.
Anonymous 120991
See what I will tell you is not 100% right but what I do is have cordial relationships with people irl like my peers and have friends online that I discuss my interests with. I have been like this since I was 4 as I have socialization problems. I cannot tell people irl how much I love Count Orlok but online I can so I like that differenciation
Anonymous 120993
>>120991That's quite smart, i've been thinking of doing the same and trying to find online spaces with my interests and making nice friends from there but it's a work in progress haha. Otherwise that's really sound advice, thank you!
Anonymous 120994
>>120993Haha I'm glad you like it. What are your interests btw?
Anonymous 120995
>>120994I like to play videogames, overwatch mainly since 2018 lol but I've played many others too, I also like J-core music and the TANO*C label as a whole + digital art. Been obsessed with touhou lately since I first saw it in 2012 and got back into it like last year haha. Hbu what are your interests? :)
Anonymous 120999
>>120995Oh wow…I really like reading comics western or eastern. I'm also a lot into films …horror films to be exact
Anonymous 121000
>>120990>idk, everything just feels kinda fake. i don't like how fake it is and have honestly just started removing myself from social spaces or groups entirely. my only friends are probably just my mom, sister and boyfriend of 2 years and i'm happy and fine but i still feel as though i need to have some kind of 'girlhood' or 'connection' in my life but i cba and dont know what to do at all because everyone in my area is just so boring and lame it feels like talking to a brick wall at all times. Most female friendships are competition, drama, talking behind each other's backs.
Try to make friends with women who aren't bitches.
Anonymous 121003
>>120991>>120990>cordial relationships with people irl like my peers and have friends online that I discuss my interests withReal. The only adult women I have ever managed to be good friends with have been sourced from the computer. I've since met all of them IRL and know that women that I vibe with DO exist in the 3d space but I feel like girls like us in particular are cursed to never have local friends.
I also think that having close IRL friends as an adult is oversold to us as common and normal so we start to feel bad when we don't.
Anonymous 121004
>>121003> I also think that having close IRL friends as an adult is oversold to us as common and normal so we start to feel bad when we don'tThis part is so true. I feel like as an adult having friends is too risky. One and two are absolutely needed but more than that is annoying to everyone. I feel like as an adult your family is better and that should be your focus ( obv if your family is good )
Anonymous 121203
>>120990I feel you on all that. Every time I try to make friends with my roommates or coworkers it seems to fall apart and im back to square one. Ive tried the online friendships too but they dont seem to stick around either. Had a rather traumatizing experience with one of the last girls I tried to befriend with her posting about me for months on end hating me behind my back and pretending to be my friend till I found out and called her out for it. Now im always concerned its gonna happen again so I dont even know if its worth it at this point
