Help (?) Anonymous 121056
Nonas, I don't know how to really tackle this topic but I feel I need people to judge me and comment on my situation. I'm really not the brightest person around. I'm in my mid 20s and I still act like a 14 year old most of the time (I'm trying to work on that despite my mental illnesses which still, I'm self aware enough that I'm using it as a crutch to justify my problems when I'm perfectly aware I can work on them).
I dated someone for four years (he was my first partner ever), everything started great but eventually after the second year he became really abusive and I stuck around despite that with the whole retarded mentality of "I can make it work maybe, I can fix him, maybe I'm the problem (corny garbage in that same vein in general)." Eventually I managed to finally snap out of it and broke up with him. I am still hurt by that break-up and it still causes me a lot of emotional distress. However recently I just find gravitating myself towards people that are similar to my ex and I just keep getting hurt over and over again. I don't even know how end up across these people, I've been trying to isolate myself more and more and yet.
Is there any way I can start tackling this issue to stop with it? I want to work on this. I'm tired of dating abusive retards and yet somehow subconsciously I do end up seeking them out. Feel free to call me retarded or whatever, I need any sort of external judgement at this point.
Anonymous 121057
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I dont know what you’re talking about but good luck with it :D
Anonymous 121078
>>121064
Its not just childish media, I do like acting out for attention sometimes. Sometimes I like to fish for attention by being overly-cutesy with people.
Either way I have no idea how to socialize properly. I relied on my ex and the other failed relationship I had to meet people. Its really awkward and painful having to share a friend group with those idiots, their friends are the only people I have. The only other human interaction I really have with my step-sister but she now works and I barely get to see her and do stuff with her. Before dating my ex I literally had 0 concept of a friend group which is certainly something.
My hobbies are kinda niche currently and dunno, do you just suggest I kind of just look through some pisscord or something?
Anonymous 121096
I don't know how to solve it but I know a girl with similar issues as you. She got married to a nice guy after a lifetime of being with crappy people. I don't know how she did it but I heard it was hard getting adjusted to. But I do think it's about recognizing your own patterns, behaviours, reactions, and making conscious decisions to do differently. Stay strong
Anonymous 121158
>>121056i mean just think like this: you already broke up with your boyfriend because he'd hurt you. so why get into a relationship with another moid who has similar personality flaws when that was the very reason your last relationship ended? its kind of like just speedrunning a breakup. but im sorry that your first bf changed/showed his true colors after a year of kindness. thats honestly really sickening and disgusting. seek therapy i think
