Are friends even a good investment in my 20's? Anonymous 121251
I grew up in a very feminine household with little to no male presence, with most of my friends being women up until the end of highschool. I fell out with some of my life long friends due to finding out they were only friends so they could steal from me, leaving only 1 that stayed because she didn't live in the same city as me. At the time I felt betrayed and closed myself off from the area I lived in, resorting to making friends online. I made a lot of friends, even getting introduced into their friend groups, but that lasted about 4 years until it imploded due to petty drama. I'm now 22 in college and I no longer hold hope for making friends despite being in a college that has more female than male students. I've had some bad experiences the few times I did try and reach out like not caring for me but being overly invested in my boyfriend, judging me constantly, or attempting to create a codependent relationship that is all about them. I've never had a friendship where I didn't experience at least one of those things. My biggest question is, does anyone have advice for how to overcome this cycle and make genuine friendships before I'm out of college? I want to make the most out of being in college, I'm not the most socially inclined person, but I do bring a lot of energy to conversations because I love connecting with others.
Anonymous 121252
>>121251You will have to go through a lot of shit to find the gem you're looking for. That's how it goes. Maybe try finding friends in your hobby groups rather than university?
>judging me constantlyWhat? Why?
Anonymous 121257
>>121252That's true, I'll check out some clubs the school offers.
They judge me over everything, it differs each day but it's usually about how I look
Anonymous 121260
>>121257And what do you look like? I'm assuming you wear a particular style?