/feels/ - Advice & Venting

She sounds like she just wants you to put you down and for you to be this lesser person so she can feel bigger than you. It's important that you spoke out against her, that alone shows you're confident. You need to let go of peoples' perception of you because it genuinely doesn't matter. All that matters is how you actually feel about yourself inside. If you need lessons in confidence, that isn't something someone can teach you, but something you need to learn from within.

>>121770
thank you for answering nona <3
yeah im glad i stood up for myself, and i suppose i do have self-respect and love for myself. but im also diagnosed autistic (like many on here) and lack neurotypical body language and "rizz" lol which makes me come off as awkward and thus not confident.

i do care abt how im perceived unfortunately as i want to make long-term friends and make good impressions. but ive noticed that external confidence is something neurotypicals care a lot about, almost to an obsessive degree? and if i want to befriend non-autistics it appears like i need to put in effort to appear confident by their standards or else i lose like -2000 social points

>>121771
>if i want to befriend non-autistics it appears like i need to put in effort to appear confident
I'm not autistic and you don't need to do any of that to have long-term friendships. You just need to find like-minded people, people that like you for your personality, share your interests, and encourage you to be a healthy and proactive person. Those are the only types of people that will stay around you long-term. Also, you're not your diagnosis, telling people you're autistic is putting an unnecessary target on yourself. I have my own "diagnoses" too but I have other facets of my personality that make me interesting. You don't need to tell anyone you have a "disorder" nona. It's some kind of plague with the younger generation, they all need to be some kind of special-er, mental-er than thou and it's kinda pathetic tbdesu