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Anonymous 04/30/25 (Wed) 05:03:37 PM121779

i'm just now finishing my 2nd year in university and for the two years that i've been here i genuinely haven't had a conversation with a person besides someone asking me like "is this seat taken" or something in a class. i haven't had any friends for 5+ years since all my friends from middle school just stopped talking to me when high school started. i think i'm so socially retarded and lacking in social skills that at this point i don't even know how to make friends even if i desperately wish to do it. i never learned these skills as a child either because for as long as i can remember i've felt like my presence is a burden to other people and i've thought that i'm doing a service to them by speaking or being seen as little as possible so even as a child i didn't engage or begin conversations with people. there's no point to this i just can't see how a life like this is worth living in the long run and i wish that eventually i'll have the courage and decisiveness to kill myself.

Anonymous 04/30/25 (Wed) 06:33:22 PM121780

Nona you are not a burden. Try with making online friends.

Anonymous 05/01/25 (Thu) 01:40:54 AM121801

In the same spot as you, also just finished my second year. Realized I had no real friends and everyone I thought was my friend was only talking to me for assignment answers.

Anonymous 05/01/25 (Thu) 05:33:37 PM121816

I've felt the same way, I think many people do. The issue, I think, is sifting through to find like-minded people who are also alone, but for me, that's hard.

Anonymous 06/03/25 (Tue) 09:44:35 PM122518

>>121779
When you grow up you know the only thing that matters is your career and studies. Let it go, I know being social is fun and all but your future is way more important, you'll eventually find someone after uni anyways.

Anonymous 06/03/25 (Tue) 10:05:00 PM122519

>>122518
i respectfully disagree

Anonymous 07/13/25 (Sun) 03:49:49 AM123638

hi nona, i'm in the same spot as you, right up to "middle school friends left in highschool". would like to be friends with you, and if you don't, then hope you know that killing yourself isn't the right answer.

Anonymous 07/13/25 (Sun) 05:46:05 PM123656

>>121779
>there's no point to this i just can't see how a life like this is worth living in the long run and i wish that eventually i'll have the courage and decisiveness to kill myself.

you said you didn't learn the social skill as a child but i don't see how that matters. according to your belief system, you don't have the social skill. ok then just learn the social skill now? nothing is stopping you

>you did not sign a contract
>you did not lose the social skill body part
>you did not promise anyone never to be social
>you did not sell your ability to be social to a mega-corporation and agreed to a non-compete thus preventing you to be social
>no witch cursed you

so what is stopping you, habit? are you just like a chain smoker who is unable to quit the lifelong habit of smoking but with being fun, pleasant, friendly, awesome, cool, generous, artistic and skillful? just steadily grow into something people want to be friends with.

it starts with the belief that it is possible for you. this is the first roadblock you have to move out of the way. you need to understand that you can change this. you have the ability to make this happen. if you wanted to, you could.

Anonymous 07/13/25 (Sun) 05:58:25 PM123657

>>123656
>>you did not lose the social skill body part
it happens.