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Anonymous 122454

how did you meet your boyfriend?

Anonymous 122455

>>122454
I met my first one from my friend's friend group in undergrad. I met my second one in a reading group in my PhD. I met my third one from a mutual friend in high school. Now I'm 30 and think it's just genuinely impossible to organically meet anyone outside of school. Every person I know who's actually engaged or married (which is almost every woman friend) met their guy off an app.

Anonymous 122459

pub

Anonymous 122460

>>122455
Do you know which apps they used?

Anonymous 122463

I met my first one in high-school. my second on off tinder (that relationship sucked ass), my third and fourth on 4chan and they were weirdly better than the tinder guy but still… I have very specific preferences and standards that most guys irl just don't fit

Anonymous 122470

>>122463
What board?

Anonymous 122471

>>122470
/soc/ lol. I know I know but I genuinely think I was able to form a connection better with them than a random moid from my country

Anonymous 122481

>>122460
Mix of Hinge and Bumble.

Anonymous 122482

>>122463
how did you meet them off 4chan? were you on /soc/ deliberately looking for a bf or what exactly was like, the progression? how old were you when you dated them? did you date in person or was it largely online?

Anonymous 122495

>>122454
Work. I asked one of the old guys he was friends with there if he was single and to tell him he should ask me out. I was expecting it to take a week or two if he did it at all but we had plans for the weekend less than an hour later.

Anonymous 122500

On bumble. He’s the cute kind of autistic and was really shy. He brought me a flower on our first date and I decided he was a keeper.

Anonymous 122504

>>122454
/soc/ with intentional seeking for a boyfriend. be prepared for dick assault on the catalog, just zoom straight to the partner and friend finder threads

my bf is good looking rich and smart which is bonkers to find someone like that off an imageboard, im glad I found him before I drove myself mad talking and trying to connect with loser moids who have zero chemistry because they don’t know how to talk to a girl

Anonymous 122507

>>122504
Funny how 4chan has been mentioned multiple times here. My friend (a girl) found a guy here once, not as a bf but a friend for playing videogames. I've talked to him a few times but those were deep convos and he was super open, chill and empathetic. Of course he probably has his own moid issues I couldn't see in a civilized conversation but I was surprised there are decent human beings on /soc/.

Anonymous 122512

>>122507
yes there are some decent human beings on there who are genuinely lonely and want to make friends online, those ones are the ones worth sticking to constantly trying to find them. the most you’ll get are horny moids in sheep’s clothing who pretend to be your friend then suddenly start acting lewd to you out of nowhere (typically by the seventh day since they can’t hold their degeneracy in long enough)

Anonymous 122523

I was swimming with my sister at the local pool and we went to go pick up her boyfriend from his sword fighting club. He was getting destroyed by a huge guy with a claymore who looked and sounded frightening. When the bout was over we started talking, and the guy was hunched over, brow furrowed, staring off into the middle distance with an intense look, which was really intimidating. I honestly wanted to leave, but my sister just snapped her fingers in front of his face and he just turned around with this sweet smile and confused, bashful look. We talked and he was just so funny, kind and smart that I didn't want to stop, so I intentionally avoided getting a ride home with my sister and asked him instead. We talked all the way and I tried to stretch it out by going for dinner first, then going home, introducing him to my parents, asking him to try a cake I made, looking at my art etc. before I finally had to release him. I lasted a whole 4 hours before I asked if he wanted to go get coffee, but it took about 10 dates before my sister confronted him about not progressing the relationship, only for him to be stunned as he had no idea I was into him. I think what sealed the deal for me was the fact he never stared at my chest even once, and when I started talking about my weird hyper-fixation, he immediately recognised what I was talking, knew something about it, and was actually interested to hear me explain it in detail. Having a kind and loving partner who'll take an interest in whatever dumb bullshit I fixate on next is incredibly fulfilling.

Anonymous 122532

>>122454
i found my bf through shitposting on 4chan /vg/ and he’s the most perfect nigel i could have ever asked for

Anonymous 122533

>>122532
how long have you two been together?

Anonymous 122568

>>122454
Met my boyfriend online, did the usual digital romance speedrun. We finally met 5 months in, and now I’m spiraling because I feel like I might’ve soft-manipulated him into liking me by mirroring his interests like a discount emotional AI. I do admire him—he’s great—but every time he talks about his stuff, my brain throws a silent tantrum. Maybe because I don’t know who the hell I am without acting like a vibe chameleon for whoever’s in front of me. Trying to claw my way back to an identity that doesn’t revolve around validation or emotional cosplay

Anonymous 122569

World of Warcraft lol

Anonymous 122570

my answer: my country's mostly female blog site. Think of meeting your bf on Pinterest/Tumblr or something.

Anonymous 122581

>>122533
we've been together since late 2021 and have met irl three times and are planning to move in together within the next year or so!

Anonymous 123637

met my bf on /r9k/. no we will not be telling anyone or each other's parents where we met.

Anonymous 123639

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>>122454
Through a local my little pony meetup group years ago. He took up leadership roles in MLP conventions. I began admiring him when I noticed how considerate, kindhearted, and thoughtful he is. He makes everyone he meets that he's in the room with feel welcomed and included.

Anonymous 123644

>>123639
I was talking to a guy like this and he was actually extremely evil on the inside…

Anonymous 123649

>>123637
What’s your cover story gonna be

Anonymous 123650

>>123644
This, no way I would ever trust a brony.

Anonymous 123670

In college through mutual friends/activities.

Anonymous 123674

i met him on 4chan on /soc/ like many others here i guess

Anonymous 123676

4chan guild in a MMO

Anonymous 123678

Hinge

Anonymous 124038

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>>122454
I met my husband many, many years ago when we were both 8 or 9 years old. We had recently moved in and his family was visiting the old lady next door who turns out was his grandmother and things started when he accidentally kicked his ball over our garden fence. I was just in the garden playing on my swing set. His little head popped over and smiled at me and said hi, he asked for his ball back and then invited me over to play with him. Turns out we were the same age but he lived around an hour away which was why he only appeared on weekends and spent the entire day at his grandmothers.

Every time he visited from then onwards I'd get excited when I saw their car or he came to knock on our door inviting me to play. In the summer we'd ride my bike around the neighbourhood and through the park, we shared ice creams, climbed trees, fed ducks at the parks pond and in the winter we built snowmen and igloos.

I quickly became infatuated with him. Looks wise he was nothing special back then, he even had a goofy haircut that looked like he lost a fight with a pair of scissors but his radiant personality and boyish charms more than compensated for his looks. I found him to be friendly, outgoing, caring, kind, excitable, sporty and above all else considerate. He encouraged me in our games and never got impatient or mad. He used to hold my hand a lot. Originally it was only when crossing the street because I wasn't allowed to cross by myself, but then whenever we were walking to the park or to the shop to get drinks or snacks he'd extend his hand and I'd take it.

Then, one day he stopped coming over. Turns out his mother had a really bad argument with his grandmother and they stopped visiting her. It really hit me hard because unbeknownst to him, he was my only friend. I didn't have any friends in my school and was being bullied pretty badly. Our playtime on the weekends got me through a lot of rough weeks at school and even after he stopped coming over the memories and things he'd said to me allowed me to just about brush off the childish and mean insults the kids threw at me. I figured if he liked me and he liked playing with me and he thought I was cool then anything they said were just stupid lies. I clung to those memories and even on really, really rough days I'd remember zooming down hills with him on my bike or him cleaning up a graze on my knee when I'd fallen over and rubbing my back when I cried. The time I'd spent with him was so short in comparison to my school career but they provided a lot of strength.

Many, many years later I transferred schools when highschool rolled around. I figured new school new start and I might stand a chance of actually enjoying my last 2 years of school before going off to university. There was an assembly for freshman class, we were all stood in the sports hall and just for a moment a boy far taller than I remembered, with a way cooler haircut, pierced ears, clear skin and those gorgeous green eyes turned to speak to his friend next to him 2 rows in front of me.

There. He. Was.

I knew exactly who I was looking at the moment my eyes locked onto his. Those beautiful emerald eyes were a dead giveaway. I got so excited I balled up my hands and in spite of trying not to I could feel myself trembling with joy and excitement. "IT'S HIM! IT'S ROY! I'VE FOUND HIM! I CAN'T BELIEVE MY LUCK! THIS IS GOING TO BE AMAZING!"

I didn't have the nerve to approach him right away, I agonized over what I'd say and was a little frightened that he wouldn't remember me. It would have devastated me if he said "Sorry. Who are you?" so for a week I sort of stalked him. Found out who his buddies were, what classes he had etc. It seemed the longer I watched and waited, the harder it was to approach him. I noticed a lot of things about his mannerisms that made me sing on the inside, the way he folded his arm up and played with his earrings when reading, how just like back when we were much smaller he always went for vanilla instead of chocolate, how he always avoided carb-heavy foods and basically just ate meat and salad for lunch. The way his butt looked when he walked. That incredible smile he shone when he was helping someone. It was all amazing, I was overjoyed that he was every bit the boy I remembered and more. To stay hidden I only observed him whilst moving or when sitting down to lunch or in the library and I'd always sit behind him and off to the side with my bag as cover. It seemed that he was as oblivious as he always was.

I was sitting down eating lunch before my music class. It was one of the few classes that we shared and in the week prior he ate before going too, but he was nowhere to be found. I was concentrating on my book and eating my sandwich when all of a sudden he sat down right next to me and stared at me with that big silly smile. I was mid-chew so I covered my mouth and looked away whilst I gulped down the rest of that bite and turned back to face him.

"Do you remember me?" He asked, looking a little unsure of himself.

My mind raced. Did I want to be cool? aloof? excitable? nonchalant? This was completely against my plans, but the longer I took the more uncomfortable he looked so I just spoke from the heart and what came out was "Of course I remember you. I've missed you for years."

Anonymous 124078

>>124038
So Beautiful.
Thank you for sharing that story.

Anonymous 124163

>>123649
"haha we met on online gaming" which is somewhat true since it was on a thread looking for gaming buddies



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