/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>she constantly exaggerates our home life on reddit and makes it sound like we're being abused by our parents.
how so? what does she say?

I'm gonna cut straight to the point and say one possible reason she is nuts and retarded probably is her family, and this is the one thing she's right about. I mean look at you OP, you're losing your shit over her just venting about stuff online lol. You are both crazy.

>>122861
the only reason i give a fuck is because she almost became a missing person dude. not gonna go into details but her desperation to get away from a middle to upper class life in which we are not abused almost led her to falling for a trafficking scheme.

i'm shit with talking feelings i don't wanna have a conversation about this with her. but she's demonstrated that she's WILLING to do something stupid

>>122864
>>122861
>>122860

send discord servers

are you asking for genuine advice or similar experiences??

honestly yeah your sister sounds awful but you’re related so on a biological basis, you’re likely to be awful as well. first off, how did you find her reddit? you don’t seem to be on good terms so it sounds like you’re going nuts stalking her on places like r/raisedbynarcissists when all of you sound like narcs. you make her out to be weird for being a tif but your text sounds off. why call her a “trans boy” (without the quotations too)? and comparing the both of your “gender presentations-“ “despite being much more feminine than me,” sounds like you’re trying to one-up her in trooning out. it kinda reminds me of competitive edtwt 14 year olds.

i’m not trying to be mean or anything but i think the both of us can tell you still somewhat care about her- otherwise you wouldn’t be worried for her health specifically (“ the only reason i give a fuck is because she almost became a missing person dude.”) she may be a full-grown adult but even old people need parenting. just be nice to her and maybe she’ll grow out of it. if she’s been through a lot to explain her behaviour, it would be more difficult though.

if you want to be mean, you could encourage her to undergo troon surgeries. it might be hard but probably worthwhile as she’ll regret it and fall into deeper attention-seeking, irrational behaviours. i doubt you’d take this route though as you don’t seem to want to abuse her. if you know you want to help her then help her.

>>122940
I was also curious about lying about the abuse bit. Sounds like the "active imagination" or "playing victim" excuse people use to dismiss complaints from their kids or whatever lmao.

But btw, one potential solution that may work is redirecting your sister's attention to some other behavior. That's how they generally deal with challenging behaviors in training humans or dogs and it's generally considered the best approach because it keeps your relationship healthy and non abusive. But for that you need to have some sort of leverage over her.

Why are you so intent on speaking down to/talking negatively about your sister? Of course she feels like she's being abused.

If she wants to run away, it's probably because her homelifes a nightmare. Just because you're comfortable with your homelife doesn't mean she is.

And for the love of god don't "parent" your younger sister. I'll be honest, I think older sisters acting like "parents" to their younger sisters, unless they literally are orphans is pure cruelty

You need to beat your sister. But also she's 19, if she wants to get spirited away that's her business

Okay, it's kind of creepy how ops like "my sisters deluded she thinks she's being abused" while half of the comments are encouraging op to abuse her, and enabling her to dismiss her sisters feelings, struggles and self worth.

If you give your sibling the "unhinged wild child" treatment you are helping break them down, and if she has the ability to rise up from your abuse, then I support her.

>>122861
seconding this. nobody from a semi normal home does the whole trans thing

>>122940
>>122945

i really don't want to go into detail about my home life but tldr we're homeschoolers and we're not allowed to leave our home as a 'house rule'. there's no physical abuse going on, most is dismissal of feelings on our kind of gilded cage confinement. i won't say that's not screwed up, i won't say she has no right to complain, the only reason i'm saying anything at all is because i'm scared she's gonna do something drastic. i do not contribute to this home life, it sure wasn't my idea, i wanna be free too

even though she's younger than me i've always been kind of the submissive one between us. i realized i was being a moron when i realized she almost got me to run away with her to a shady scenario. also the only reason i mentioned her being girlier than me is because she literally wears the frilliest shit and has cute sanrio plushies. the idea of her trooning makes me physially ill because of the body mutilation. i feel like i have no one to talk to about this so here i am on cc

>>122958

i wasn't trying to entirely invalidate her feelings and i'm sorry if it comes off that way but she straight up makes up shit that never happened for updoots. and if she thinks she is tif then she's pretty good at rejecting reality, so i don't want it to spiral into her thinking we're actually in a dangerous living situation and a fucking women's shelter would be better

you can make whatever guesses you want about the situation, i guess i asked for that when i posted on the internet. i'll probably just end up doing nothing about it anyway bc i'm not supposed to know this shit to begin with. i am stalking her on reddit yes but it's because i'm terrified she's gonna bolt at midnight and i'll never see her again

>>122946
not OP but do you have ideas of what sorts of things could help redirect her attention?

have you asked her why she wants to be a boy

>>122951
And a homelife is nightmarish enough that it would warrant taking the risk getting traficked and raped? Or gettin mutilated and living a life long delusion, needing to take meds all her life?
Little sister sounds like she's being groomed by online predators I dont thin her sister being a bit protective is the issue here.