>>123328>i don't approach people like that because i think it might be weird it will most certainly get weird but as with everything you get better with it and as you get better it will get less weird. don't be paralyzed from the weirdness rather notice and question the weirdness and i am sure you will learn from it how to be less weird the next time.
>since i don't see other people waving and saying hi randomly, and they are just passing by, usually i don't even make eye contact with people on street
>but if im in a place with men i do interact with them (work, uni, parties, etc) but i become some sort of listener sounds boring and self-sacrificial to me
>rather than an active part of the conversation which make the thing awkward, specially if im feeling some sort of attraction towards them. i think when you feel something you have the duty to express the feeling. that's just you fulfilling your obligation being born a human on planet earth. i wouldn't start with going full force because the expression of feelings can indeed get weird but if you start to look for it, you will find little ways of expressing your feelings. being too ashamed to express the feelings, that is the worst, don't let that be you. look for the subtle, non-smothering ways to casually release your feelings into the universe instead of botteling them up.
try lighthearted humor. if you think a dude is hot, have a little collapsible hand-fan and cool yourself off frantically for a few seconds as if you can't take how hot he is but do it with a gentle smile to let him know it is not all that serious or threatening. mumble "there must be some male model convention nearby" again not all the serious. as long as you don't overdo it, that's perfectly legal, acceptible human behavior. the better you get at dancing btw, the less you are ashamed. dancing is the antidote to shame.
>i avoided a lot being perceived because of how i looked, i thought guys might feel offended by my interest on them if that makes sense.. yeah makes sense and is also a valid concern. the better you get, the better you become at noticing beforehand who doesn't want to be considered interesting by you. you get better at that. might be awkward in the beginning but don't let that dishearten you.
>so it doesn't matter if i say hi or whatever, what comes after that is what terrorize mejust say that. "hot dudes make me nervous, i don't know what to say. if you are stuck and worry it might get awkward, just say that. i can feel the awkwardness, good bye handsome!" why would you even say anything else then what is going on for you.
