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edating Anonymous 07/31/25 (Thu) 01:35:56 AM124333

what do you think about edating?

i am asking because i met a man online a few months ago and i have conflicting feelings about being in this kind of relationship. i've never dated before, i would if i could but people in my life seem repulsed by me. i like the companionship but also hate myself for engaging in this kind of thing. sometimes i see a couple outside and become nauseated with self-disgust.

he is a couple thousand miles away on the opposite side of the country. i asked if he wanted to meet but he said we haven't known eachother long enough.. maybe i should just be happy to be less alone and not take things so seriously.

have you ever edated before? do you have any advice? thanks nonas

Anonymous 07/31/25 (Thu) 02:35:23 AM124334

>>124333
just enjoy calling but if you both have ties irl nearby it'll never be real

Anonymous 07/31/25 (Thu) 08:27:02 PM124348

>>124333
Are you both in positions where you can visit each other multiple times a year? If it works out is one of you willing to uproot your life to move to be with them?
You're both in the same country so that skips out any visa issues at least.

Anonymous 07/31/25 (Thu) 08:49:36 PM124349

I'm dead serious: try a match making service before you resort to edating. If you decide to go through with edating, you need to meet up ASAP, be able and willing to meet up frequently after that and bridge the gap within 2 years MAX.

Anonymous 08/02/25 (Sat) 02:01:30 PM124372

>>124333
If you dislike dating then don't do that. E-dating is far harder than IRL dating and works best if you and the other person have an open relationship or have avoidant attachment styles. Avoidants tend to do extremely well with long distance. Also, you should work out why you have a problem with dating, never get in a relationship if you have these conflicting feelings. Be ethical and consider the other person, that is the main part of having a relationship. If you are too in your head, you will not be a present partner and the relationship will die. Also, a lot of people will say well if you lay everything out and the other person agrees to a relationship anyway that it is fine but in many cases persons don't grasp the implications.

Anonymous 08/10/25 (Sun) 10:08:17 PM124562

>>124372
Do not do open relationship OP. It's only for degens

Anonymous 08/11/25 (Mon) 12:47:45 AM124567

>>124333

thanks for all of the replies nonas. we are planning to meet in a few months.

we are both pretty antisocial so i think there is a chance this could be a good arrangement.. also i trust him fully and we have both been alone for a long time so i don't think cheating is a concern

i guess now i just worry how about meeting in person will go