/feels/ - Advice & Venting

sounds normal

>>124469
ah, so you hit jackpot and don't appreciate it. the guys who do watch porn aren't even attracted to their gfs to begin with, they just see them as objects to enact the things they saw in porn to, not as human, not to mention their EDs. like my ex was only 24 and had me telling and doing all sorts of things but he was fucking limp, it was so pathetic to witness, luckily i never fucked him and quickly found out about his addiction.

>He made me feel seen
<usually people ignore me

>>124469
>Men are either sexualy active or not sexualy active
Okay…?
If you are not an asexual, just acept that you won't find one who don't watch porn. At worse, you can encourage him to quit.

>I want to feel desired, pretty and hot. Is that wrong of me?
I would say that not wanting to be felt desired would require therapy.

>>124469
You want your low libido bf to act like he is high libido but only towards you? I don't know you may convince him to larp like this from time to time but 24/7 seem unlikely.

>>124523
I know a man who doesn't watch porn but I'd say he is worse. My great great grandfather literally threatens to sacrifice people to Jesus by fire for watching porn, and he even incinerated his great grandson-in-law's Game of Thrones collection. He's probaly 100 by now, he is otherwise a really cool guy but he despises porn. Wonder what happened to him?

>>124523
>I would say that not wanting to be felt desired would require therapy

literally not being able to go anywhere…

>sorry i'd love to come but this is in public and you know what always happens

…because people want to have sex with you so bad that the whole world around you degenerates into a perverted theater of stupid questions and theater is something you'd hate so quickly. it is not as nice as you imagine. and then jealousy of the people (like you) who never felt this and don't have the imagination to understand what a nightmare this is.

imagine not being able to use the bus, the train and having to avoid all public places because the most repulsive people get red in the face, start to breathe all creepy and activated, play with their hair and feel emboldend to perform their triggered approach for the same 5 stupid made up reasons would drive you mad. yall say you want attention, you enjoy feeling seen but there are levels of feeling seen clearly none of you are ready to acknowledge.

>>124487
you’re the only valid person in this entire thread lol.

>>124527
yeah if I lived among muslim tier rapists I would probably prefer an asexual moid too

>>124487
I don't think he truly was attracted to me, at least not physically. He would only call me hot when I did something or said something that wasn't sexual or arousing at all. He just really liked me for what I thought, did and said; Never for how I looked. Your ex sounds awful too. Was he into weird things? My ex grew up isolated and never had a gf before, so there might be a correlation.
>>124523
>>124525
He was perfect in every way, and he wasn't asexual or low libido. He would get turned on from me doing or saying the most mundane things. I never even had to dress up for him. His arousal for me felt completely out of love and not lust, it felt weird because I never dated a demisexual before. He would plan out romantic trips, seduced me and made sure I never felt insecure, but he didn't lust for me. When I broke up with him he understood it too, he told me it happens all the time.

>>124551
Sounds like hell. You deserved better.

No, it is not wrong of you but it is a tad unrealistic of a goal to find both spontaneous attraction of high strength and attraction to you as a person together in a long term or life partner. Typically that is a recipe for inability to back off.
Send the demisexual men over to me.

>>124559
>Send the demisexual men over to me.
What's your contact? I'll tell him to reach out.