/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Yeah uh, every time I wear glasses I want to cry knowing it doesn't help with my masculine features. My boobs fucking sag at 18, it's worse that they're large as it gives an illusion that my body is short and stocky whenever I'm braless (they look like they sit on my fucking ribcage). So not even my body can make up for my face like other uggos. What's the point of being a girl if you can't be eye candy? Anyways, what slightly helps for me is doing my eyebrows, if you understand that certain shapes can make or break your face then it's a game changer.

I live in a ridiculous shithole, with a hypersexualized and misogynistic culture, and here, women's appearance is subject to absurd scrutiny. When I was a child, I was chubby and wore glasses, so I was always bullied a lot, not only at school but also at home. I remember my family humiliating me a lot, and my mother would always point out fat people on the street and say that if I didn't stop eating, I'd end up like them (today I look at photos of myself as a child and realize I wasn't even that fat, but I always felt huge). I ended up becoming a closed-off and unsociable person. I missed out on many opportunities in life, but at least I'm not a normie.

>>124874
I want to bebaverage to moids so my life can be a party
Free of strife
I don't understand how any of you think you get anything from moid attention
If you are not seen by moids you're on your way to total freedom
Men are ugly as shit compared to women usually, so, I'm sorry what am I missing here ?

>>124893
Because some people want to be in a relationship and when you are ugly that makes it virtually impossible
>just date a woman
I've tried dating on both sides and trust me I've had no luck on either

I wish I had enough beauty capital to make up for my mental issues and everything else

>>124898
Such capital doesn't exist.

>>124908
NTA Are you saying nona is soo mental that no matter how beautiful she is she won't gain anything from it?

i've always been the "ugly kid" growing up (still am). i got called "it", "thing", etc. eventually i learned to accept that being ugly was/is my reality but it still hurts to know i'll never be considered "eye candy" to anyone.

>>124920
Even if that was the case I doubt it. People underestimate how much value you gain or lose from looks.

>>124920
I'm saying that physical attractiveness isn't a substitute for sound mind.

Once, when I was at university, my friends discovered my other friend's Facebook password to post shit on his account. We ended up reading some of the chats (shitty I know but we were dumb) and in one of them he ranked the girls doing our degree and I was the last one. He even told the person I was the ugliest from the bunch. I didn't even know the other person. Good times.

i just turned 24 and i keep looking at photos of me from ages 19-21 where i looked so cute and pretty and still had light in my eyes. now my eyes are sunken and my nose is somehow bigger. i carry myself so rigid. ugggggh. meanwhile my boyfriend just keeps getting more handsome with age ofc. at least he loves me and how i look i guess.

>>125047
Tranny impersonation itt

>>124897
But you obviously see how ugly as shit moids are so whAts the point? Its like willingly throwing yourself in a burning house to save the Freddy Krueger in there

Stop pretending like it's not a total waste of time

Ugly in personality, hideous in looks 99.99999% of the time. If you still believe they won't destroy your life you're a victim of brainwashing

>>125048
? i hate presuming cunts like you..

I stay home all day because I'm scared of facing interactions with moids who will humiliate me for my neanderthal features.

>>125056
Definitely a tranny moid

>>125047
>meanwhile my boyfriend
fuck off and die humble bragging bitch

>>125056
trooooon

>>125099
nice to meet you, troooon, I'm Mom

>>125098
I thought guys were easy, what's the deal? Why don't you have your own personal moid?

I'm sick of my glasses giving the impression that my face is fatter and my eyes are further apart than they actually are. I look ugly as shit but I'm still made to wear them because contact lenses are cheap as fuck. FML.

>>125106
Sounds like dysmorphia to me unless your lenses are actually fuckhuge

im so fucking ugly im about to kill myself. last month i was going to work and a little girl looked at me and said "ew". i shouldnt even be alive.

>>125111
Maybe you just had some toilet paper stuck to your foot

>>125112
I've been bullied a lot so.. I know I'm ugly and it's just a fact not my opinion.. I struggle a lot with suicidal thoughts and isolation bc of this..

>>125098
lol cry moar

>>124875
>My boobs fucking sag at 18, it's worse that they're large as it gives an illusion that my body is short and stocky whenever I'm braless (they look like they sit on my fucking ribcage)
I'm confused. where else would they sit?

Uhg I’m actually ugly
My jaw is too far back and my face is crooked, like I have a squirrel face.
I’ve had sad-looking wrinkles since I was 10 years old, a wide nose with a hump.
A thick mustache and eyebrows, droopy eyes that stick out a little from the side.
My underdeveloped jaw made me look like I had a double chin even when I was skinny.

I was always bullied.
And I always knew I was ugly.

My teeth were crooked but I managed to get braces treatment.

I would never hesitate to get aesthetic treatments. Never.

There was an older guy who slightly paid attention to me at work. Until he saw the night audit girl (she’s as tall as a fucking man). Now I’m just chopped liver I guess. I hope she falls down and bashes her face open. It’s fine tho I work before her and I can leave her all the extra work. Enjoy you dumb bitch

>>125395
How old are we talking? Also, moids don't normally like tall women. If your only problem is being short, I doubt you can relate to the problems shared by other nonas itt.

I hate being this jealous of other women. They effortlessly have what I always wanted. I just want to be part of the club.

>>125513
It's not effortless. Put in the work and you can have it, too.

i was bullied daily by a group of moids all throughout highschool and it ruined my self esteem.

i genuinely cannot interact with moids without getting a fear response, in any context :( and i dont care about moids i feel genuinely repulsed by them but still this causes inconveniences for me

i also feel jealous when other girls are praised for the things i like just because they are pretty and then i feel evil afterwards because i like these girls too i just wish i wasnt treated like shit for stuff that i'd be praised for as well if i was more conventionally attractive.

>>124874
Y'all also see these tiktoks about your type of makeup? You're supposed to pick a letter, like if you have a narrow face you pick A, and if you have a round face you pick B
These are super-confusing to me because like which side of the face? For me one side is very narrow, the other is quite round. And the eyes, one is also more round and the other is narrow. At least I know my nose is prominent I guess. But it still constantly reminds me of how asymmetric my face is and for some reason tiktok suggest lots of these vids and it's kinda sad

I'm getting sick of always being the ugly one and being passed

>>125537
was it this guy?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T9Sf4jtDJTA

just went to the doctor and took my weight for the first time in three years. she said 'quite low' in a weird tone. i'm smoking a pouch every five days, drinking daily, and taking amphetamines every now and then, but i know most of the weight i've lost is a financial issue; there's this huge pressure to get the money for something cheap and sufficiently nutritious that isn't a nightmare to eat, while also making the time to cook and actually fucking eating. for the past three months i've been paid extremely late - every fifty days or so - and during those last couple of weeks i made it a routine to switch to green tea, cigarettes, some eggs, and two beers (or stolen wine from work, on the nicer days) for dinner. being a little drunk makes it easier to fall asleep with the 'perk' of being dragged out of bed at the first ring of my alarm, not hungover, but not well either. then eggs. then tea, cigarettes. after a few cycles of this i've killed the impulse to get groceries once i'm finally paid. i'm banging this guy and instagram's bitch ass algo has made his liked posts a priority amongst all other slop. last time he came over, i was a bit sick of him. i started to fight him, both of us fully naked on my bedroom floor; i was hitting his chest accusing him of just wanting to fuck and not seeing me as a friend anymore. i'm right by the way, but he kept saying shit like, i'm crazy for you, etc. i think of this when i see the girls on his likes, and though of it again when the doctor brought up my weight. since last week, i can see an unfamiliar, sinewy strip of meat next to each of my hipbones. i got fired two weeks ago. seven years ago i would've loved to be moderately underweight and having any sort of shitty relationship with a schizoid mass of blown out tattoos. i didn't have any mirrors in my room back then. the one in my shared apartment has some stickers that surround my new-old body that i hate: fuck the IDF, fuck the AFD, jesus saves, abolish the police.

So let me preface this by saying I’m fat. Always have been. Anyways I remember having sex with this guy and after, while I was laying in his lap. He was like looking at my face and goes “you’re actually really pretty.” I think about that probably once a day. I probably would have been a Stacey if my cousins didn’t molest me and cause me to have really bad issues with binge eating.

So let me preface this by saying I’m fat. Always have been. Anyways I remember having sex with this guy and after, while I was laying in his lap. He was like looking at my face and goes “you’re actually really pretty.” I think about that probably once a day. I probably would have been a Stacey if my cousins didn’t molest me and cause me to have really bad issues with binge eating.

>>125663
You had literally your entire life to lose weight though if I understand this right

I hate thinking about how messed up I am in comparison to my siblings. I downright have a deformity while they look normal, attractive even. It's so unfair

It's a curse! I bet I wouldn't have been this mentally ill if I wasn't so disgusting looking since such a young age. I can't even romanticize my misery with such a repulsive face. Pretty people have no idea how much better they have it even in suffering

>>125656
this isn’t helpful but your life sounds straight out of a coming-of-age film lol. can i ask how old you are…? just really curious

Shut myself in all day. Wear pounds of makeup every time I step outside and avoid eye contact with anyone if possible.

Alternatively take 5 shots and then I stop feeling too ugly to leave the house because I stop caring.

I love my boyfriend but being with him makes me realise how fucking ugly I am. He swears down on everything that I am pretty but I can look into a mirror and clearly see I’m not.

>>124953
straight facts

My whole life i’ve been percieved through the lense of my ‘intelligence’ (I wouldn’t consider myself intelligent, obsessive maybe.) or my personality in general rather than my appearance. ie growing up my mother would often remark on how my sister was the pretty one and i was the smart one, my best friend in middle school ranked every girls looks and put me second from the bottom, and the first time i was told i was pretty unprompted was when i was 16 by a desperate guy on the internet.

I understand that being percieved for your actual traits over your appearance is objectively a good thing but it fucking hurts knowing that every time someone thought to be kind to me they just couldnt see a single thing about my appearance that they liked. And you know they just couldnt find ANYTHING because that is ALWAYS the first thing people think of when complimenting. Especially because unfortunately as a woman your value is tied almost directly to your beauty, it feels like absolute shit because i know no matter how smart or kind or helpful i am i will never be treated with the same amount of grace as someone with a few more mm of bone.

Even now that things are honestly alot better for me i just cant shake my insecurities and past experiences and i feel like im becoming a worse person because of it. Ive become more quiet, cynical and anxious out of pain from the past and its sad because its taking away from me the ONE ‘good’ thing i had going.

about to shoot myself in my fucking palate lol xd apparently men can have high standards for women they don't even commit to. but women can't get basic decent men as life partners. every single man i talk to ghosts or blocks me the minute they either see me at a really shit angle or if i'm not 24/7 bubbly quirky but still WOMEN STANDARDS TOO HIGH NOOOO stfu

a few more mm of bone and i would have deserved to live instead of being a subhuman

>>125929
how long has he been with you? if you're past the 1 yr mark then you're probably not ugly, just mentalcel

>>125990
Only a month now

I cry at least once a week thinking about my appearance. I have an apple body shape and I'm short so I'll always look fat no matter how much weight I lose. I'll also just look unattractive, if I had wide hips I could look good, I could even put on more pounds and still look good, but I don't. I have narrow hips that give me a boxy figure, not to mention my hip dips. I have really ugly downturned sagged eyes that make me look sad and not confident all the time + short blonde eyelashes that make my eyes look masculine. My hair is big but it's not curly or straight, it has a slight ugly wave. Best thing you can do is straighten it, and it still looks weird because the wave will remain, also it will always, and I mean always, look frizzy, even if I straighten it, curl it, leave it natural, or try to tame it with expensive serums. I have a wild hair in my bangs that always makes them look wrong, but I can't cut my hair into anything else because it'll show my huge forehead, and I'll just hate it, this is the only thing I'm comfortable with and I'm not even actually comfortable. My "strong point" is my chest. Skinny girls asked me to "lend them my tits" as a joke. Men like them too. They're fine until the shirt and the bra is off. They are just two sacks of gross lard and fat, and the nipple is too down. They don't look that different from the tits an obese man could have. I also have uneven labia which have made me look up surgeries ever since I was 10, but I keep postponing it over morals. The worst of it is that this is the best I will ever look, I'm at my peak. I've never looked better, I was even fatter as a kid. At my best I still feel like shit, and I'll only feel worse as I get uglier and uglier with age. If this wasn't enough, I was retarded enough to cut myself, and now my thighs have visible scars, so now whenever I wear shorts or a skirt everyone can see my mistakes. I can't wait until the day I just stop caring, but now it just seems impossible.

>>126091
Wavy hair can look good, but my philosophy is always less effort is better. How many years have you been struggling with it with straighteners and all that?

>>126094
9 years probably

>>126094
9 years probably. The thing is I don't have a good wave. I thought a layered haircut might help so I may get that this weekend.

>>126113
>>126114
sorry my reply sent twice (x_x)

i was at the dentist when i was young and getting braces then would have fixed my jaw, but my dad never followed up on the appointment even with me asking. now i have a recessed chin and a small mouth and fixing that as an adult costs thousands of dollars.
I'm so angry at him but hes not even alive anymore so whats the point

i don't like going outside anymore because i always see so many pretty girls and it makes me wanna cry so bad… it just makes me feel so bad about myself because i wish i could be pretty like that too. i don't understand how all these girls my age can be so pretty without trying. sometimes it feels like they're all looking down on me in their heads because i'm so awkward and ugly. it hurts a lot to be around them when they're so much prettier than me, and i'm always so anxious when a boy is around me because i'm scared he's thinking something bad about how i look!! i try to dress nice but it's so embarrassing trying to look nice when you're so hard to look at. i'm just so tired of feeling like this all the time, i feel so hopeless…

i hate being ugly. ive always been ugly and overweight, i know i'm disgusting and undesirable because the only time i've ever gotten attention from anyone is online where i know i'm wearing a ton of makeup, editing my face, and posing to look not as fucking fat as i actually am. i hate having friends prettier than me because it makes me resentful towards them, i block every pretty woman i see, and i don't even bother trying to keep up with my appearance anymore because i know how i look. im fucking disgusting. i make myself fucking sick. even when im at work or out in public whenever i see a woman who is thinner or prettier than me she is all i can focus on because i want to be her so bad. ive lost 50 lbs but im still a fucking whale and even when im thin it wont change my facial features (and i wont even look better because loose skin) . i resent my parents for giving birth to me and making me look like this. i hate being bigger and uglier than all my friends i look like a fucking ogre. i dont even fucking want male attention but if i got any it would mean im at least a little bit desirable it fucking sucks knowing i dont even look decent enough for a fucking moid to give me the time of day

Adult onset acne makes me want to scrape my whole face off

..horrors of the body i guess

I'm honestly just desperately alone. Like a genuine NEET. I have no friends, no social life, no chance with guys at all. I've tried to be attractive or appealing but I'm just off-putting to everyone around me. It's not even like I'm looking for some specific type of friend or for a chad. In fact if given the chance to date a moid, I'd date an incel I can relate to. I'm young yeah but it's just embarrassing how everyone around me is way better off than I am. I just don't know what's wrong with me.

>>126244
Can sadly relate to a bit of what you said.

>>126227
Ok this one was too specific to my own experience. I hope you can find a community of women surrounded by family and friends or whoever you want and learn to love yourself. I hope the same for myself or better (for the both of us).

>>126244
MMOs used to have solved this, now everyone is crowded onto those stupid arena shooting games

Guy I'm talking to called me "unconventionally attractive" and "homely" as compliments (according to him). I don't know if I should feel upset or not, but it made me cry and remember all the times people called me ugly to my face. I'm thinking about just ghosting him and never talking to him again

>>126252
he sounds retarded

>>126253
I was really starting to fall in love with him too, men suck

>>126254
There a nice chipmunk guy on /meta/ : )

>>124874
I've had a crush on a guy from my gym for 3 months. I've gotten very fit and lost around 30 lbs, yet my face can't make up for it. I know that if I go talk to him again, it'll be an instant rejection. The only time I talked to him was to ask where he bought his gym water bottle from, and I tried to make conversation, but he wasn't interested. I wish I could change my face.

>>126252
You seem sweet, don't give up!

>>124874
>>126248
i hope u can too bc its so painful sometimes but at least we arent completely alone in feeling like this </3