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Dealing with getting doxxed Anonymous 124922

hello nonas,
i hope you don’t mind me reaching out and i hope you guys are doing amazing, but i’m feeling really lost and overwhelmed right now a few months ago my pictures and personal information were doxxed and since then i can’t stop thinking about it every time i check the website they’re still talking about me commenting on my body and it makes me feel absolutely worthless i don’t have anyone i can talk to about this and the anxiety is constantly on my mind i’m terrified they’ll find a way to reach my family something i would never want to happen it’s been consuming me and i feel like i’m trapped in this cycle of sadness the fact that they post about me regularly makes it almost impossible to resist checking the site even though i don’t want to i keep blaming myself for trusting people online and sharing my pictures with them when i rejected them they started circulating my images and using them to hurt me i have their pictures too but i’m afraid posting them would only make things worse giving them more fuel i’ve been inactive for a while but i still check the site now and then each time i hold onto a little bit of hope that things might have changed but i’m always left disappointed because they still keep posting about me even after all this time what should i do i feel so confused and lost. i’m so scared this will follow me into the future especially as i try to build a career in a public role i can't stop thinking about how my past will always be there lurking waiting to catch up with me when i was 17 i made racist remarks and hurt people with my words even if i thought they were just jokes or satire i was wrong i was cruel and i was selfish hiding behind anonymity thinking it didn’t matter but it did and it does i can’t change what i did and i know that no amount of regret will take away the harm i caused i feel lost in this realization but i accept it i accept that this part of me this mistake is something i have to carry with me forever i wish i could take it all back i wish i could undo the pain i caused but i can’t all i can do now is be sorry and try to be better even though i know it might never be enough

Anonymous 124927

It's it based on some ongoing handle or posting brand you still maintain? It's a sacrifice, but you could sever all connection to that and go for a new one, they should grow bored of gossip without new material after a while?

Anonymous 124928

>>124927
i use my telegram for everything now from managing channels to daily tasks and staying connected but i've let go of my Instagram since they had an instagram group and i barely check anymore still people keep posting about me in their telegram group which just keeps dragging me back into stuff i’d rather forget

Anonymous 124930

>>124928
Oof, lots of fretting to account for if you wanna try the "clean break" route, then.
If you wanna keep the work you built, I'd say actually could stand to log out for a few month. Add the friction of a user/pw screen to your impulse to "check in" on what the people are saying

Anonymous 124931

>>124930
ive been trying to avoid looking into it but the constant posting of more of my personal information keeps drawing me back while im somewhat at peace with my pictures being out there now which admittedly i shouldnt feel completely okay with theres still a lingering fear that it could affect my future in ways i cant anticipate im young and the uncertainty about how this might impact me long term is unsettling i plan to shift my primary account to a new one for personal connections and other tasks but im unsure about how to truly make peace with the fact that they already know so much about me my name country school and images from my past what if they uncover more

Anonymous 124932

>>124931
I mean, if you're young, then chances are you probably haven't done something THAT heinous or worth gawking at forever. Their attentions should turn elsewhere when starved of context/content for a while

Anonymous 124933

>>124932
i regret my past behavior in the telegram group where i made mean and racist comments at the time i thought it was funny and the anonymity gave me a false sense of power but i do realize it was a poor choice and not really satire my biggest concern is that this might end up with my old school being contacted and that could lead to my parents being involved they are good people and i really don't want them to be affected by this, i genuinely have grown up from all of that bullfuckery and childish mindset of asserting power, i donot even remember being racist to somebody all i know it i used the n word casually and some other offensive terms to describe my position and life but i never intended to use it in a racist way

Anonymous 124934

im sorry for making this thread all about me i really am please forgive for any trouble caused.

Anonymous 124935

>>124934
Hey, it's ok nona, this board is made for threads like this.

Anonymous 124947

Honestly you just create a new handle and move on. I had a similar issue happening to me a couple of years ago and that's what i did. I didn't have any issues since. I put my account private a couple of months then I came back to post to it afterwards, I only use it to post stuff unrelated to the doxing people. This way I don't give them any fuel.
But yeah I know it sucks, good luck to you, I know it hurts, but trust me you'll grow out of it affecting you. Even the moid will move on to another prey sooner or later. I had to deal with a similar kind of stalker and after a while their obsession for you starts diluting if you don't give them any attention. They'll just move on to another obsession. They're looking from a reaction from you, direct or indirect (ie: showing distress), if you don't give them anything they'll have no choice but to move on.

Best of luck to you anon, I know what you're going through, everybody can and will make mistakes, especially as a teenager. Please stop checking the site too.

Anonymous 124958

>>124932
This. They will get bored and lose interest, move on, and forget. It will take time but you will forget too. Maybe you will remember from time to time and cringe, but it will go away.

Anonymous 125084

I was doxxed by this guy Prozzub a while back. He posted one of my former home addresses online and said he wanted to kill me. His motive was literally losing against me in an online game.

I am considering a lawsuit against him. Maybe this could help you, if you can sue the person targeting you.

Anonymous 125172

>>124947
i tried my best to stay away from it and for a while i managed to be okay but last night i dreamt about it so i ended up looking into it and it’s only gotten worse they keep posting about me over and over again and it’s making me so scared i feel so helpless like i don’t know who to tell or what to do the people in this group are just internet obsessed and i feel like they’ll never stop they’re always looking for new ways to find more information about me and it’s just making me feel really sad and anxious like i can’t escape

Anonymous 125173

>>124958
nona the only thing is they aren't losing interest. they keep on talking about me and posting my pictures and saying the worst things possible about my face and my body.

Anonymous 125174

>>125084
it is the whole group nona, what do i do? i think they always will be on the internet since they are lifeless retards and so they will keep on posting.

Anonymous 125175

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>>125173
How often are you interacting with them/"getting dragged back into the old stuff you want to move on from"? Every time you involve yourself again you make it worse because you're basically telling them you're still watching what they say and what they're saying really bothers you.

A long time ago someone reported to my school that I posted the nword online. The school even contacted my parents and stuff but nothing ever happened, I didn't even get detention. Schools aren't sitting around waiting to investigate whatever weird screenshots they get from anonymous internet strangers unless you're saying you're going to shoot up the school or something (mostly a US problem)

I know it's hard but your best bet right now is to stop checking that community. When you think about it, tell yourself they've probably moved on by now. If they're going to be weird forever, you at least deserve to move on with your own life like a normal person

Anonymous 125176

>>125173
>>125172
How long has IT been going all? All teenagers involved?
Supposedly it takes around 8 weeks of inactivity to really break a habit for good, so that might easily feel like forever if you're 17 or something

Anonymous 125180

>>125175
nona i have not been interacting at all i have only been lurking i know that engaging with them will only make things worse i thought it would end but it has already been 4 to 5 months since i stopped
yet it still affects me i try not to check but my anxiety pushes me to see if anything new about me has been posted even though i know it only worsens my anxiety i keep wondering nona what fuels them since it has been 4 to 5 months and i am not even active
My greatest fear is that this may never end because they seem lifeless and spend all their time on the internet

>>125176
nona i am not 17 anymore i will be turning 19 earlier next year and i have not interacted with them for 4 to 5 months

iam sorry nona for the trouble, i hope this message finds you well.

Anonymous 125181

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>>125180
That is strange they'd go on so long without you interacting at all… they sound like real freaks. It's not what you want to hear but without new material they're going to have to move on eventually. I understand the temptation to keep looking but the best thing you can do is put it out of your mind. Just because they refuse to get a life doesn't mean you should waste yours too.

Anonymous 125182

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>>125181
yes nona i feel uncertain about what steps to take i have been trying to distance myself from all of this yet i cannot help but think that filing a report may not bring any real change since they could simply dissolve this group create another exclude me from it and still misuse my pictures nona what troubles me further is the thought that they might somehow discover my current address my college or even my parents workplace though i think this is unlikely and perhaps i am being overly paranoid.how are you doing nona? i apologize if i am troubling you.
here's a deer for you ^-^
nona how do i keep my mind off of it, it has been really very hard im sorry to make this all about myself but it's extremely mentally draining (i do have "somewhat" of an ongoing social life but i am the very point where i keep thinking about it even if i am out with other people)

Anonymous 125183

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>>125182
When you're saying they could make another group and exclude you from it, makes me think maybe it's clear to them you still have access to this group? You should leave if they can see that. That might be prolonging the issue if they can see you still have access.

The best way to keep your mind off something is to get busy with other things, like calling friends or hanging out, watching a movie, listening to music, reading books, or doing something physical like crocheting painting running etc. Idk if many batting cages are around anymore but it's fun to go out and hit something as hard as you can. I understand if it still comes to mind when you're with people but don't stop making plans and doing activities. Just avoid being idle because that's when your mind starts filling up the blank space with things it can get nervous about.

It's ok to make it all about you nona it's your thread. I've stressed about stuff like this on the internet before and life has always moved on for me. I hope you feel better soon.

Anonymous 125186

>>125183
yes nona. they can see that i am in the group but i remain inactive. they cannot know for certain whether i have read the messages so they might only assume that i do. i feel a strong desire to leave the group chat but my anxiety convinces me to stay. it tells me that if i leave they might focus on me more or uncover something else about me?
i went out with friends to keep my mind off of it and ended up checking it again after i came back home. :\
i really need to compel myself physically not to check it again i genuinely should but i am unable to.
nona, could you share what happened with you and how did you get out of it?

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>>125186
You definitely should leave the group then. Make it a formal thing for yourself, it's time to start a new chapter and move on. Knowing you're able to see the messages can be playing a big role in why they keep going like this especially if people know you're anxious and the type of person who wouldn't be able to stop reading the updates.

For me someone unhinged got pics of me and posted them in many places insulting me. They also got my full name and where I work. They tried to threaten me at first but I blocked their accounts and left wherever it was happening. It's been years and nothing has happened irl. At the end of the day people move on, that stuff gets buried eventually and I don't care about what crazy people think. Let them waste their life with that, I have better things to do, and so do you nona


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