/feels/ - Advice & Venting

lock in nona

men are a waste of time. focus on your friend circle and nuture those relationships

>>125428
> men are a waste of time
Did you always feel that way nona?

>>125430
Since middle school, all men have only been interested in sex. They are basically useless after that, and will become abusive if you don’t give them what they want.

The biggest issue with men for me is that they do not seem to want or value having a true emotional connection with anyone or anything. Status and keeping basic needs in check seems to be the only thing that care about in this life and if you ask them what about having a high quality of life or finding meaning or true fulfillment in life they laugh at you like thats stupid. They seem to just want to be spiteful and oppositional to everyone and everything their entire lives, live in a dark room and eat tv dinners everyday until they die and they will die happily not even thinking for a moment if they wasted their lives. I have a really good boyfriend but I can't bring up most things on my mind like my worries or something that upset me asking for comfort bc they prefer to rub salt in the wound due to male to male socialization being a status bant. Its lowkey on some npc type shit

Be being alone is great bc when u live in a house with people you can't shower or make a hot meal or use the microwave or go outside whenever you want 24/7, and you waste alot of energy being emotionally on guard/dealing with them triggering you living with people of any gender

why does half the human race have to be shitty? wouldnt it be nice to be friends with a guy and not have to think if they are secretly attracted or something?

>>125423

I have to agree. The lack of self awareness when it comes to emotional connections is actually quite disturbing. I wonder if they even have any empathy or compassion to others who are not inherently their friends or family members.

>>125423
>Being alone sucks but being with them makes the loneliness even worse
I couldn't agree with you more.

>>125519
>I have a really good boyfriend
>but he’s not there when I need him
Ouch. That hits close to home. Are you sure he’s a good partner?

>>125591
I really try to keep my mouth shut as I don't want to gatekeep loneliness or step on anyone's toes, but that is a shitty 4chan redpill incel image made to imply all women are constantly showered with gentlemanly love and respect they're taking for granted and only pretending to be lonely due to "impossible standards" or "only wanting chad/tyrone/prince charming". I come here to get away from scrote bullshit lies about having a "tutorial mode" life. I don't know, maybe I'm overreacting, I'll probably regret being a spergy asshole about it later, but I still hate memes like that. I hate how men try to gaslight women into thinking you're entitled, shallow or stuck up for not settling with some loli porn addict who never bathes and doesn't even view you as a sentient human. They only want to nut in something and leave, and I'm supposed to be grateful and not feel lonely about that arrangement for supposedly being better than nothing. But if I did let that happen instead of being "stuck up", they'd hate me for being a "whore" and "used up" as well. It's bonkers. Whoever said men are logical was the greatest conman who ever lived.

>>125602
tldr lol. get a job pls

>>125657
she's right you know.

>>125659
I second this.

The sad thing is that many man find platonic, emotionaly mature and empathic relations with other man because lust do not take over them. But here I am gatekeeped by nature, doomed to be seen as meat by those I want love from

>>125671
I feel like platonic friendship is something they should be able to handle, but it is so rare to see it work without the man catching feelings. They need to learn emotional maturity

>>125441

Seconding this. Every time I thought a man was different it was only because I didn't know them enough.

>>125602

The same men talking about how most girls are whores will turn around and relentlessly pressure you for sex or leave you because you said you don't wanna fuck. They simultaneously want an innocent puritan who also instantly becomes as sex-addicted as they are the moment you get together.

UR SO RIGHT

>>125519
You're just describing the vast majority of humans in general. 80% of all people are fucking stupid, you just don't care when it's other women because you're straight. If you genuinely cared about how people behave and held your friends to the same standards you hold prospective partners to, you'd be friendless. Maybe you already are, I don't know. You just sound really bitter and unwilling to accept that basically nobody alive gets to have a "perfect partner" who's everything they could ever want. The chance that you're the same perfect pairing for them is even more miniscule.

Everyone is broken and "wrong". If you can look past a pole's failings and be happy with him despite those failings, then that's all that matters. You only get one life and being fucking miserable because you're a perfectionist for whom no real person is good enough is your own fault.

>>126568
Why are you so obsessed with cocksucking, BJ-chan? Is that the only thing on your mind, even when someone is talking about yearning for romance and respect? Genuinely, what is wrong with you?

>>125767
i thought nikolas parent was different and he raped me within a week of dating.

>>125768
they want a virgin because being the one who degrades her makes them excited. it’s not romantic. they want to be the one to defile you. they want someone who said no to everyone else. they don’t actually care if you say yes to THEM. they will rape you and just lie and say you said yes.

>>125602
had a man tell me he literally saw me in his dream for half a decade before he met me, rape me the second we were alone, bragged about me to this incel friends who were jealous he “stole me” from a friend i didn’t have feelings for and had told no i didn’t want to date you 500 times. there was no stealing. and then he timed the rape so he could escape out of the country, left me because he couldn’t rape me anymore and i was showing signs of trauma and crying in public at six flags with his friends there about what did to me. then spent all his time abroad having sex with prostitutes around his base until he was dishonorably discharged and ended up dating the minor he had been online grooming for months before and after me.

>>126564
Nah, at least women don't bond over abusing men.

>>126629
women will bond to men over abusing other women though. come forward about rape. it won’t be the male friends that bother you publicly. it will be some woman who is either dating him or wants to and thinks because you are both women, somehow she’s allowed to scream at you follow you around drive by your house and send you threats. the day i spoke up i got told there were people in my yard standing under my window that were going to jump me for being disrespectful. it was all one woman who wasn’t even dating my abuser at first. your abuser will also go on to forge bonds with new women with this almost “us against the worldl” level shit against his “crazy ex.” there is honestly nothing borderlines like better than being told by their favorite person (who is always a man) that they are better/different from some other woman. they’ll get the same treatment being called the crazy ex but that brief window where they are on a pedestal is like crack to them. the man will then go on to use all of this behavior against them in the discard phase mind you. but that’s the real narcissistic high cluster b’s are after. the “i’m better than her” feeling.

>>126629
the male abuser is obviously still the worst but there’s a type of almost covert abuser woman that attaches itself to men and assists them. it’s why you never see women do this stuff alone. it’s his fault. but there are some women out there who hate and seek to harm other women too.