/feels/ - Advice & Venting

my dad was borderline psychopathic so that didn't surprise me tbh. I had a harder time accepting people generally aren't hostile or even that manipulative really

>>125858
>How do you handle seeing men
I barely look at them anymore. The few times I've met worthwhile ones (and immediately developed a crush tbh), they ended up dating my friends over me anyway. I've given up. My 2D husbando gives me more happy feelings than an irl crush and all that without all the potential baggage and rejection. I know it sounds pathetic, but idc, I do what makes me happy and, unlike shitty entitled moids, I don't blame my crushes for not kissing my feet (I'll admit my envy but I want them to be happy anyway actually) nor am I an incel mankiller about it.

you can do this anona

>>125858
>Men only want women for sex and the moment they get it, they move on.
This is why good men will wait until marriage.

>>125877
I think having sex before marriage is fine for anyone.
Especially for women, so they know what to compare it to but also for men so they don't get the "What if I'll never experience how amazing sex will be with other kinds of women, I can surely get away with cheating one time" brainworms.
If a man has sex with any woman and doesn't want to settle down after having had sex, he probably won't want marriage anyway. If a man actually does wants to settle down and marry after having had sex before, I'd assume it makes him less likely to cheat. Unless he has a history of cheating ofc. I guess one could ask his ex for a review lol. Jk.

>>125880
The actual observed behavior is the opposite of what you described. Couples who only had sex with their spouse have a very small chance of divorce. Couples who had body count >5 were very likely to divorce.

>>125892
I'm not sure if divorce rates alone are the best indicator for happiness, some people stay in really miserable marriages. I wish my parents had divorced way sooner and one of my friends' parents should really get a divorce as well. But they also had huge age gaps and our mum's got pregnant as teens, so I think those marriages were doomed from the start anyway.
>Couples who had body count >5 were very likely to divorce.
Makes sense tbh. I personally don't think having some sex before marriage is a big deal but more than 5 different people? I know a guy who showed off all his ex gfs, as if proud to be getting around. He was apparently pretty good at sex according to a friend, but she was predictably just another name on his list.
>The actual observed behavior is the opposite of what you described
…Yeah, I think you're right, I just assumed things based on my own predictions and some of the people around me. There are exceptions to any statistics, but I looked it up and…
Yeah, statistically, people do seem to be happier in marriages where both partners have a lower body count or just no sex with anyone but their spouse. So, I take back what I said.
I guess people should wait before marriage after all.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10989935/
Given that it says that there are no gender differences, I guess that does include weeding out promiscuous men…
I'd also add that people shouldn't only get married for the purpose of sex (like someone only doing it to lose their virginity) and should divorce if things take an abusive turn, even if they'll have much worse luck with getting happily married after a divorce like that… My mum managed that last part though. But in a perfect world, she wouldn't have done it with a pedo moid twice her age at 15 in the first place an waited until she found someone worthwhile to marry and have kids with, like, I really wish she'd gotten it right the first time…
One of my friends definitely had partners before her marriage, but they didn't last and she's really happy with her current husband. They've been together for years and have a kid and stuff. I really hope her happiness will last, they're doing so well rn…