/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I think most people can't really conceive how hard it can be beyond what they have personally felt. For them it's an excuse because they (personally) just need to put in a little effort to overcome those issues. But a damaged nervous system and stress are pretty much like an invisible disability that makes this impossible.

On the other hand, stress and hardship is simply an integral part of achieving things. Everyone has to tolerate doing hard things. Which is why they give you external pressure so you would be motivated to achieve stuff, which should work as intended if you're healthy.

Those cases above are sometimes hard to differentiate with little info, worse yet they overlap and intertwine with each other a lot. In the end nobody really knows what's going on, so they make guesses based on their life experience without much nuance. And the majority people have pretty much zero understanding of all this.

>>125863
They can just shut up if they have nothing to say. They think they're doing a favor by telling me that my agony is just another excuse. It's not.

>>125867
It really isn't and honestly if they're just some strangers they should not be lecturing you on anything. And if they're not they should have some empathy for you anyway.

>>125868
My parents 😭

>>125870
I'd say it's pretty normal to not want to get up in the morning if it means having to deal with some assholes who berate you all the time and don't even want to listen to you. Some people are just incapable of dealing with a human they have power over. And some of them are parents. Best of luck nona.

>>125860
I've been there. I promise, it can get better, even if it's a slow process…
But yeah, you're not "making excuses", you're struggling and those people could help you instead of pointlessly complaining about what you're actively suffering from.
But some people simply don't get it. It can be so frustrating, I've had breakdowns over this before with different people. It's a special kind of hell when people don't understand you and you try to express it in different ways and rather than just taking you by your word, they pretend like they can relate somehow and totally get it but by what they're saying, you can tell that they really don't…
I hope you have a therapist you can talk to at least… And that you're getting support, even from the people who don't fully understand. I'd hope they're trying to help at least, even if they're apparently quite bad at it.

>>125860
They don't understand because they never had something like that happen to them. Unfortunately depression is something very few people can actually understand or even sympathize with, people always think there are worse things in life etc etc Trying to explain to them is useless because they will always try to rationalize it when it's not something to rationalize.
Give yourself time, try read things online, self help and care can help a lot