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Sapphic girlies and lesbians Anonymous 10/14/25 (Tue) 12:18:44 PM125973

It's hard out here for feminine woman who likes feminine women. Can I just be totally honest here though, despite the fact that I'm tolerant and have many trans friends, I gotta say I am genuinely starting to have trans fatigue. It's permeated into all walks of life to the point where we can't even have dating apps to ourselves.
It's enough that I have to sort through the usual Justin Beiber clones (as butch women are not my type), all the couples wanting to spring their boyfriend or husband onto you right out the gate, and now we gotta deal with the overwhelming amount of trans "lesbians" who most of which are still just clearly men, big ass men with stubble and balls and it's damn near impossible for lipstick lesbians to even get a fighting chance because these troops will fight tooth and nail to get into every single female only space they can. I'm not interested in dick, you can say it's fucked up that I'm concerned with what's in their pants, but that's a manipulative and almost predatory remark to make when they're fighting for their place to try and get into yours. It also makes it harder to find women when most of them are so far brainwashed you can't discuss this with them either, without them tweaking out and saying but trans women are women, like fuck off. They can exist but can they just accept being the 3d thing and leave women the fuck alone? I'm absolutely allowed care that they have a dick and not want them in my dating pool, they aren't lesbians.

Anonymous 10/14/25 (Tue) 02:59:30 PM125976

It's ur right to not like those parts (I don't know from experience what it's like in the dating scene when ur lesbian cause I'm bi) but I don't think it's trans women's fault you can't get laid

Anonymous 10/14/25 (Tue) 03:24:10 PM125979

>>125976
I can get laid and have just fine, just first time back in the dating scene in some time and it is wildly bad that for every female on an app if they're not just a porn bot, there's like 5 more accounts that are just dude's
Always the quickest to like your profile and most active because they are desperate

Also had a friend recently who had a very bad falling out with her friend who is MtF trans, kept getting aggressively touchy and cuddly at the bar even though she was actively saying no, so they turn around and tried making out with her boyfriend as if that would somehow bypass the no
They have become absolutely predatory at this point and it's worth being upset over

Anonymous 10/19/25 (Sun) 04:29:01 AM126048

>>125973
sexual orientation is based on sex, and you can't change your sex no matter what surgery or drugs one does to oneself. there's nothing wrong with you and it's bullshit to feel like you have to explain yourself. i might suggest looking into activities over the apps, like crafting or volunteering. of course you'll run into the ftm girlies, but as sexist as they can be at least they're not rapey like >>125979

Anonymous 10/19/25 (Sun) 07:28:29 AM126051

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>>125973
It’s not just you. As a fellow fem4fem it’s just made it harder to wade through the muck, and it feels weird to have to relinquish what would be a completely feminine space to the invading sausage party for the social brownie points. A lot of the lesbian scene has been choked up polys trying to pawn their ugly boyfriend on me, or trans with hairy chests. I honestly have more luck in bars than on dating apps now, cause the bullshit you have to sift through just to find regular fem women is getting to be annoying asf.

Anonymous 10/30/25 (Thu) 06:38:10 AM126249

>sapphic

Anonymous 11/18/25 (Tue) 08:30:46 AM126813

>>125973
>spring their boyfriend or husband onto you right out the gate how normal is this with millennials and gen z

Anonymous 11/19/25 (Wed) 03:46:26 AM126820

agree with everything you’re saying here and nona you can date me if you want.i think you could call me futch i like wearing feminine clothes and makeup im just lazy asf but if I was dating a girl I would put more effort into my appearance again

Anonymous 11/20/25 (Thu) 11:29:50 PM126925

>sapphic
you fucking cocksucker

Anonymous 11/29/25 (Sat) 11:35:10 AM127263

>>125973
I have a huge preference for girls and am generally attracted to more feminine women. my issue is that i just don't know when a girl is gay too. I avoid looking at women in this way because i'd feel creepy if she turns out to be straight.
There's currently one girl I like at my work, I can assume that she's gay because she's kinda masculine (short hair, alternative), but she still acts feminine and she has soft features and she's just super cutee
Idk but my issue with girls is that I start liking them when I know I can (if theyre gay too) because it's just so difficult to find.

Anonymous 11/29/25 (Sat) 02:58:14 PM127268

>>127263
tranny

Anonymous 11/29/25 (Sat) 06:11:39 PM127270

>>127263
I wish I had this level of control over my feelings.
I ended up falling for one of my best friends and it's just hopeless. But I don't think it's creepy to fall for someone you know you won't have a chance with, you can't always control that. It only gets creepy if you act obsessed or make advances when you already know she won't be interested. It kinda sucks, but I'll just have to get over it, I'm responsible for my feelings after all.
I don't think you need to avoid looking at most women at all just because you think they might be straight though. How do you make friends if you're so distant with other women? It's not like you'll fall for every woman, right?
But yeah, you can't always tell if someone is lesbian or bi just by appearance…
Someone at my workplace invited me to a pride event and that's how I found out that she's lesbian, I wouldn't have noticed from her appearance at all.
I just try to get to know people at pride or at adjacent events and locations, like LGBTQ+ cafés, stores or conventions; much higher probability of meeting women I might have a chance with.
Anyway, good luck with your crush!
>>127268
Claiming that all butch women are secretly trans somehow is how certain misogynists wield anti-trans rhetoric to harm women. They don't care about women, they just care about the policing of anyone who's gender non-conforming, even if they're not trans at all. Don't fall for it.
I'm kinda butch, doesn't mean I'm a man trying to be a woman nor vice versa. So tired of this shit.

Anonymous 11/29/25 (Sat) 08:28:50 PM127272

>>127270
thank u for your advice and insight! I didn't mean I avoid women completely haha, I just avoid viewing/thinking about them romantically unless I'm certain that they're gay too (which i never know).