/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>126121
try this experiment:
be as good as you can to people who you hate and which are bad to you and vice versa.

i dont think you will feel better but you will feel different (which is better)

>having to be offended and hurt just because I'm not the way someone wants me to be
for example?

>>126128
Expecting me to listen to all of their problems but I can't even talk about myself for once, and guys just expect me to read their minds and boost their egos blindly. When I'm quiet I'm weird to them, when I talk normally I'm still weird to them, humans are so complicated…

>>126121
>transactional and fake/one sided
That's actually how all relations have always been, for everyone, ever.
No matter the form of relationship.
It's just all the lies fool many.

>>126145
>That's actually how all relations
That's actually how all relationships

Don't know how that typo happened. Meant to put relationships.

you're just intensely antisocial, it's usual to find at least one person you have a genuine connection with and it doesn't feel transactional. maybe you're just autistic and can't socialise well, whatever it is, you shouldn't seethe over it as seething is pointless and only hurts yourself

If you feel better being alone, that's great, but don't get caught up in the doomer mentality that nobody could truly be your friend, or it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy

>>126173
I don't think OP's struggles have to boil down to autism or some other pathology. Lack of good socialization examples during childhood can easily lead to this. Whatever the cause, she's probably trying to connect with the wrong people. You're not supposed to be friends with people who make you feel like a weirdo.