why does society think women owe each other compliments? Anonymous 126800
i hate the expectation that women are supposed to constantly compliment other women. especially on their looks. i’m a straight woman… i don’t view women through physical attraction at all. so complimenting their body or features feels unnatural to me. but if a woman doesn’t do it, people immediately assume she’s envious, insecure and sometimes even anti woman. men never face this. straight men aren’t expected to compliment other men, and when they don’t, no one questions their character or motives. women, meanwhile, are pressured to provide nonstop emotional validation. not complimenting a woman’s appearance doesn’t mean i dislike them. it just means i don’t feel obligated to perform a role society unfairly forces onto women. i don’t find women physically attractive. sorry not sorry.
Anonymous 126828
isn’t it just one of the first signs of being socially well-adjusted to at least attempt a compliment when seeing someone even if you don’t mean it? men aren’t expected to do it because they’re viewed as blunt and blind to social cues (and they generally are). women can read the room and can actually pick up on when someone needs validation or comforting. don’t fight it nano, the discomfort in being forced to compliment is just a reminder that you can emotionally understand someone.
Anonymous 127298
>>126800How is this an expectation? And it doesn't have to be from physical attraction. If I notice someone is wearing something nice that stands out to me, and I know them well enough, I'll say nice top ! where did you get it from? It's not that deep lol
But it's definitely not a good idea to compliment if that feels unnatural to you or whatever. But have people assumed you to be envious/insecure because of that?
Anonymous 127361
> i don’t find women physically attractive. sorry not sorry.
u dont have to want to fuck another woman to compliment her lol
Anonymous 127403
>>127361usually only moids think like that tbh
Anonymous 127440
i used to feel this way and i think it's understandable if you feel obligated to compliment
but ngl i think complimenting women as a straight woman is kinda an anti patriarchal thing to do. Like moids are always saying women dress/act in a certain way just for sexual attention and I felt a lot of internalized shame for my clothing preferences after I was SA'd. Like fully it was these basic girls complimenting my fashion sense that made me feel more comfortable wearing what i wanted. I think it's kinda fucked up to assume compliments need to be reserved for just ppl ur attracted to- like that sounds like a moid thought lmao.
Anonymous 127442
>>127440im a sicko like i got a few screws loose in my head. so i became a compliment sniper. every time i walk past a woman and compliment some aspect of her style i build her confidence independently of her outside relationships. she doesn’t even get a good look at me. i’m already gone. a smooth criminal if you will. she’s like no no no not my self esteem but it’s too late. she’s growing more confident in her tastes and how she comes across to others. her boyfriends remarks matter less. there’s a reason he’s bringing her down. but that woman had no reason to lie. the perfect crime.
Anonymous 127459
As a ND woman I completely get what you’re trying to say nona
Anonymous 127466
>>127457god and the devil created me in a lab as a bet to be the most based woman alive so they could see which direction i’d end up going in
Anonymous 127467
>>127466Which side are you gonna choose?
Anonymous 127468
>>127467i think goodness but my ex really tests me sometimes
Anonymous 127471
>>127470we are for real all trapped in samsara
