/feels/ - Advice & Venting

i feel really sad because i have had a lot of gay male friends, and each one has let me down so badly. i have dealt with so much cattiness and rude behavior from them. right now i am fighting with a friend because i have not been putting much effort into my appearance lately. my mom just passed away, and life feels so bleak. i honestly just have no energy. i have lost a lot of weight and cannot be bothered to wear makeup or anything other than jeans and a t shirt. instead of showing any empathy or concern, my friend, who is gay, constantly makes the cattiest and rudest comments about me and keeps telling me i look like skin and bone, like a dead corpse. he even said this in front of a mutual friend, a guy he knows i like. it has been making me really sad, and about a week ago i finally told him to stop. i also made a comment about how gay men often think they can be catty and get away with misogyny. that really offended him, and he basically said i was being homophobic. we have not talked since. i have dealt with so much of this behavior from gay men that i am starting to feel like they can be just as bad as straight men, if not worse sometimes.does anyone else here have any experiences like this?