Abusive nepo baby ex bf Anonymous 128076
So, my ex left me a few months ago after sexually abusing me on one occasion. He's admitted to it. I have texts of him admitting to it and apologizing. I'd wanted to leave for a long time, but I'm an actress and playwright, and I really thought he was going to be able to work on and uplift my work before he left. He was friends with a couple of celebrities growing up. I'm very aware this was stupid, and life has punished me for it. We're both in college in NYC for theater. Part of me really wants to file a Title IX, but considering his familial wealth, industry connections and that his mom is a contributor to the DSM it probably would not go in my favor. I'm just scared, I guess. This shit doesn't usually go well. I don't want revenge, but I feel I'm being punished for being "too emotional" during my college acting classes after covering for him most of my Fall semester, as the incident happened over the Summer. It's just not fucking fair. It's a small BFA program, and I just don't know how to get through the next year and a half of school watching him get opportunities over his background as mine disappear because he isolated me completely.
Has anyone been through a similar situation? How did you get through it? How were you able to stop caring about them? I hate that I do. Were you able to not talk about and if so how? Sometimes it feels like this is literally all I can talk about. I'm so fucking angry, sad, and lonely. The stress gives me rashes, but it's been better since we're not in contact.
All love to anyone dealing with anything remotely similar out there.
Anonymous 128077
You have to persist and heal…. you're in the unfortunate circumstance of a catch 22. If you come out with your story he'll probably use whatever resources are at his disposal to dismiss and call you crazy, but you'll have a chance to give him a criminal record and maybe even put him on the sex offender registry. If you dont come out he'll continue to live his life but you will suffer in multitude of ways-your opportunities seem to already been shot due to this asshole. Unfortunately the entertainment industry is fillled with Moids who abuse those they deem lower then them. I know, I used to rub elbows with a prominent musician in the local music scene in nyc before he sexually coerced me into having sex with him.
I dont think my way of going about healing will help you. It might get you in more hot water actually…. but theres a saying that "haters make you famous." If you're willingly to be annoying and persistent on knocking this guy down a couple of pegs, then you should file title IX and file a police report. But thats going to require you to be able to stand your ground and refuse to become "blacklisted" cause some rich kid asshole wants to paint you as the villain. If you dont come out, you're going to live a life that you initially didnt choose for yourself because you were afraid of what might happen if you did. I believe you. I honestly do. But you gotta be prepared of people with internalized misogyny dismissing your trauma because of bulllshit.
Whatever you choose to do is entirely up to you. I didnt go to the police with my assault. But i did end up harrassing my assaulter in subtle ways cause i was a teenager and very, very stupid but persistent. However, I'm in therapy now and im continuously facing my trauma head on doing so. And! The man who coerced me is no longer in the music scene (as of right now. And it better stay like that ^_^)
I highly recommend therapy. I'll link some different types of therapy in the reply to this so youll have a more informed opinion when you choose to seek it.
Anonymous 128081
>>128076>I really thought he was going to be able to work on and uplift my work before he left.loool
