/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>128535
Well, you see, when you have everything handed to you on a silver platter, have good looks, and are spoiled by society, and you see someone that isn't who gives you a reality check, it's like going on withdrawals from drugs. Most people, especially women, hate negativity because all they've ever known in their life is people treating them positively. That's why women put positive quotes all around their house. If they don't have constant positive affirmations, it is physically painful to them because of how spoiled they are.

> blame you for their life choices
how? did you recommend them crack cocaine?

i suspect in general people have not completed childhood and it manifests in people wanting attention, to be loved and to be carried because is what the broken child inside wants. the child wants to be made feel good and have liefe served to them on a silver plate, just a life of passive reception, ownership and interest rates. at times the child acts out to get attention, at other times seeks conflict. drama and busywork, just to avoid looking inside.

the adult knows this is impossible, looks inside without fear, cares for what is possible and self-makes the feeling good. might not work in the beginning but at some point the adults succeeds in feeling good and then becomes magnetic to all the children who want what the adult has, but of course served to them, without any of the work.

If you think about it, why would it not be draining? They’re forcing you to think about the negative
I remember reading exactly about this kind of person in 48 laws of power (kek), specifically that you should stay away from people who enjoy throwing pity parties.

> It’s the same principle as to helping a drowing man. He will eventually, in his despair, drown both of you if you try to save him. No matter how hard you try to help someone, you wont be able to actually help them. Deep and long talks, giving money, or help in general, will make the other person feel inferior which will result in feelings of resenment. So yes, better to avoid infection even tho the germ are dying

>>128545
Think about if you had a shit life full of suffering and someone you know has an amazing life, is visibly happy all the time and talks about how blessed they are and how negative people are psychopaths that need to be cut out of their life completely because it's "toxic." How the fuck is toxic positivity not draining for the person who suffers in life?

>>128546
>negative people are psychopaths that need to be cut out of their life completely because it's "toxic.

there isn't another way to be visibly happy because visible happiness makes psychpaths thirsty.

>>128546
Not sure how that is relevant to what I said

>>128548
You said how is negativity not draining. I said how is listening to toxic positivity not draining when you are experiencing suffering. Idk how you don't see the relevance there.

>>128549
Because we’re not discussing toxic positivity at all? There’s a middle ground between being a whiny bitch and someone forcing positivity?

See this is the problem with people like you. You’re bringing an irrelevant issue here when you could just create your own thread, but instead you need someone to regulate your emotions like a toddler. Like do you really think you’re the only one with a shit life? Most of us are, you aren’t special.

>>128550
You sound like a gaslighting narcissist who tries to make everything seem good so people won't notice how shit of a person you are. Optimism is cowardice. You are a coward.