/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Getting exposed as not being transphobic is worse.

…??? why not just stop talking to it? if people think you're transphobic, even after explanation of boundaries being pushed, then they're retarded and u should surround urself with better people. people who think others are transphobic for this are morons and not worth your time.

they truly have the ugliest faggiest voices. i hate how hard they try.

imma say this is fake
youd not talk to him if you didnt want to

>>129465
fr tranny cadence is always detectable

Just stop talking, if they or others whine then you can tell them you're not comfortable with the things theyre saying and leave it at that. Don't let others run your life for you, spend time with people that add to your life and want to be around

>>129459
Just admit that you don't want anything to do with them and who are if they use a word against you?
They want to gain power over you, you don't have to respect them.

>>129519
last year my gay dorm RA tried to stay in my bedroom while I changed tops because he's gay and that apparently makes it ok
i got really anxious because i'm socially awkward and it was really hard to get him to leave in a way that sounded like friendly banter and not like i was extremely uncomfortable because literally all my friends and everyone around thinks he's a great guy, and i didn't want to seem homophobic or make things awkward
so, i think i can understand where OP is coming from here, if this person actually can create social consequences for her

>>130624
Is this an NA thing? In my region gay men never stay in the room when you are changing even women leave, what in the lack of privacy you all have going on?? Your nakedness is your own to share with who you choose. It is one thing if you are in an area where nudity is common, we do have such areas but seriously??? In YOUR bedroom??? Know your rights. You have the right to personal space it is in UN rights of a child and an adult. You also have the right to have relationships or the lack thereof. Don't be letting people talk you out of your rights as a human or call you evil for exercising them.

>>130649
same poster as
>>130624
it's a virtue signaling thing, i think anyway, at its root, maybe the influence of social media and tv as well, the idea that girls and gay guys are on the same team or smth and that they're automatically good people because of oppression
for example, the girls' bathroom on my dorm floor was literally declared "girls and gays" in the first week of first semester, they even put up a sign on the door lol
and kept letting the guys use it even after the two gay guys on our floor continually left the toilet seat up, left pubic hair on the seat and even left the toilet unflushed a few times, and left the sinks a mess, and that's not to mention the shower situation
obviously i wasn't comfortable at all and i started showering at like 5 am to be as sure as possible there wouldn't be guys in there. at least there were no trannies, thank god
and i think girls (like me) who are actually made really uncomfortable with gay men overstepping boundaries still cooperate because of social pressure. i'd love to say that i stood up for myself and said something, but if i had that kind of self-confidence i probably wouldn't be posting on crystal cafe

Something that would work is to say the most sad thing. Lie.

Say you have anxiety, that you take pills. Say that you feel so bad sometimes you have to take more pills to sleep.

Say that you are in therapy and that it does not work properly.

Make him feel like a monster, some men will dislike the idea of being a monster because it means they will be outcasted, humilliated and ridiculized.

Victimize yourself and use it for your advantage, calculating uselessness is worth bucks.

op you should stop talking to him asap, he is clearly into you and will try to get you to send nudes or something eventually