my bfs porn addiction makes me want to cheat Anonymous 129689
my boyfriend’s porn addiction is making me lose my mind. I first found out about it in early August but I keep finding out things he’s lying about. At first he framed it as just watching a random video then closing. Then, I found out he used to pay for OF while we were together. after this, I found out that he was doing this shit the entire time before I found out and he had a twitter account for OF egirls + bought an anime porn game. He first blamed his problem on our relationship issues before I found out he was doing it the whole time.
He said that what I sent him wasn’t “enough to look at” compared to porn despite him literally being overweight with a receding hairline (quickly apologized but still).
After I found out about the OF stuff, I started cheating on him online. I was a very popular cosplayer and used to make lots of money off of my looks, so it feels weird and makes me feel resentful because I feel like he doesn’t admire my looks like this. Flirting with girls/guys online feels like an escape from feeling like I’m ugly + feels like a gotcha. It makes me want to show off my body and for a while I even thought of doing gravure work when I move back to Japan. I feel horrible for doing this. I used to hate male attention, but I feel relief when a cute moid hits on me. it’s like a “atleast someone appreciates my looks”.
He’s been a great partner and has been treating me amazingly since but I still feel this way sometimes and I feel like a horrible person. What should I do? Am I a bad person?
Anonymous 129691
>>129690I’m aware I’m a degen, that’s why I wanna stop. I wasn’t really like this until recently and it makes me feel terrible
Anonymous 129696
"He’s been a great partner and has been treating me amazingly" does not fit a porn addict profile, and you're not any better. Leave him and become a nun, you might be able to redeem yourself.
Anonymous 129708
holy fuck you're a mess lmao
Anonymous 129711
>>129708yeah this is what shitty boyfriends and having BDD/former anachan does to u lol
Anonymous 129742
>>129689advice to you or anybody that has problems with their bf that they feel they couldn't resolve.
Break up.
Simple.
Never ever ever cheat, you immediately lose your argument if you do. Why cheat and stay in a relationship anyway if you don't like him anymore? Break up and finish it.
Anonymous 129749
>>129689they’re all booing but im clapping. you don’t ever gotta feel bad about cheating on cheaters.
Anonymous 129770
Do both of yourselves a favor and leave him. If hes lying about porn usage what else is he lying about? cheating is not good either and if youre vernting your frustration that way, why not just cut off the source of it rather than "dealing" with it?
Anonymous 129814
If you're as skinny and pretty as you say you are, then what are you doing dating a balding fat porn addicted, erectile dysfunction having moid? I don't even feel sorry for you at this point because from what you say you apparently have the access to get a much more decent moid who's actually handsome and doesn't jerk off to porn all day. Skinny women should never settle for fat men, they're disgusting, smell bad and have ED. Plus you're in the cosplay community, there are tons of model looking men who are in the cosplay scene. The world is your oyster when you're a skinny woman and you can have access to 90% better looking moids. You're only shooting yourself in the foot.
Anonymous 129914
strawman^strawman type thread
Anonymous 129971
>>129689men will never give up porn. no matter which moid u get they will always want porn so if youre not ok with it you will never have a moid.
Anonymous 130011
Go to therapy?
Porn addiction is an addiction, you can't stop it by wishful thinking and just saying "no stop that".
Think of it like training a dog, if a dog shits on your carpet or steal food from the kitchen you can yell all you want or even be abusive to the dog… but that's not how you make the dog stop, it needs conditioning and training.
Just talk with him, make him admit he has a problem and look for practical ways to end this addiction, maybe through therapy, taking part in some programs, joining some groups and whatever, he'll be extremely embarrassed but accountability can help dealing with this shit by using this embarrassment as a way to stop doing it.
The real question is if you actually love him or not, because dealing with an addict of any kind is an ordeal.
Anonymous 130140
>>130011porn addiction is not considered a real addiction medically speaking. it's not in any real diagnostic manual because what porn consumption is considered "healthy" is extremely subjective. A behavioral approach is sometimes taken if its really, really severe and the person in question sees it as a problem/is bringing them distress. OP can have whatever boundary they wish to set but a therapist isn't going to treat them for paying for a few OF accounts and having a porn twitter like its a serious problem unless they're a wacko fake christian therapist. sorry. if their boyfriend doesn't see it as a problem, which he almost certainly doesn't, it just won't be treated as one. i know people on here are extremely antiporn, but moral opinions aside, at the end of the day it's just not the same as being a crackhead lbr and won't be treated as such.
regardless i think OP should leave because they're bf is fucking bald and ugly. hello???
