/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>130028
You have to let your ego die. That's the only real solution. Yes people will call you ugly, look at you weird, and treat you worse than better looking people but you don't have to engage with people who treat you that way. Seek out people who can appreciate you for who you are and not what you look like. We all die even the pretty ones so just enjoy your life while you have it

>>320851
No we don't.

>>130031
And your advice would be? To obsessively looksmaxx just to look like an 8/10 people call mid anyway?

>>130033
I already gave my advice, get a husband. That solves pretty much all your little female issues when you submit and let a man take care of you and give you female attention.

The one experience I had with a female was online and she woyld induce vomit and cut herself when we met, she stopped once she receieved my attention, because she's not wprried about being good enough, her goal is accomplished she has someome.
Would never suggest online "e-dating" garbage though no.

>>130034
Right like the guy won't cheat on her the second he gets a prettier girl get real

>>320854
The amount of men who go through all sorts of body surgery nonsense is nothing comaparable to women. And women feel it all the time, consious about their body, it's why they never stink. Men don't worry "ooh am i invisible to girls, is my makeup right are my breasts okay."

I have to go home, I look forward to mocking the replies to the thread in more detail tomorrow.

This is important though.
>>130036
No. A real man who feels ownership over his wife will keep her forever, a real man. Not a man who likes dating, but one who wants to keep you in his home freely. Don't get with dudebros, very simple.

And again. Men do not feel body diysmorphia. they don't get so worried about being fat they puke. they don't paint their face. They don't make threads like this or tell their friemd they feel consious aboht their body. It's not even close.

>>130028
There is no such thing as "body dysmorphia". It is completely natural to not enjoy being ugly.

>>320862
"so much for being the rational gender, harumph!"
Men don't feel body dysmorphia. IT's really simple. "b-b-but what about–" Oh my goodness, you found a man out of the billions of men that shows signs of it, wow. I guess it's true then. Some boys wants to be girls, I guess that proves boys want to be girls then.
Every single female is body conscious, extremely, and it's cute and funny.

>>130039
Well, I dunno. I don’t care about that, for example.
Maybe you should try applying that logic to whatever you’re saying, if you have that self awareness. I don’t know anyone personally who pushes arms up their throat to vomit.

>>130040
That's right, you dunno much at all. It's good I'm here to explain things to you. If you have any more questions feel free to ask me, little girl.

Garbagemoid’s stupidity is so cute. I guess if he were smarter he wouldn’t wind up picking up others’ trash.

>>130042
I'm not sure what this refers to. But you should probably help your sister OP out, she's going through a tough time and I feel like you haven't really given her much feminine support with your meaningless platitudes about being herself.

>>130043
I’ve already given her the perfect advice of not paying attention to demoralizing content and staying in reality. Seeing how she’s not responding anymore I’m gonna assume that solved her problem in its entirety.

i have been both fat and "fit", and it never leaves, and it's honestly worse being fit

>im still fat
>not enough muscle
>my ass is flat
>too much muscle here
>can't get rid of fat in this area
>all these other girls look much better

>>130028
stop letting vanity be all your life, think about this, it's something that will eventually die, we age out of "beauty", each one of us. I don't mean don't appreciate yourself, but see yourself in the grand scheme of things and not in a negative rivalry with someone else.

Probably not the answer you're looking for OP, but getting with my (now) husband.
All the things I hated about my body (cellulite on thighs, armpit fat, saggy breasts, my downstairs morphology, etc) were things he literally didn't care about when I got naked for the first time in front of him. When I finally confided in him about these things, he was kinda like '….what?'.

That tripped my brain into knowing that my body is actually ok as long as it's healthy and working. I was seriously considering surgery for the above.

>>130188
>All the things I hated about my body (cellulite on thighs, armpit fat, saggy breasts, my downstairs morphology, etc) were things he literally didn't care about when I got naked for the first time in front of him. When I finally confided in him about these things, he was kinda like '….what?'.

Validation from men? Approval from men? That's the solution?

>>130213
>Validation from men?

Kinda, yeah. And I don't like how it resolved the issue /for me/ either. It's not what I recommend to everyone else - it's how it naturally happened for me.

Actually seeing how no-one gave a shit about the things I mentioned, especially the man I chose to be intimate with, just changed my view on how my body looks. It's like at that moment I understood that as long as I workout, eat healthily (most of the time) and try to look after myself then the rest is ok.

Plus I've explored my spirituality a lot more which has shifted my mindset, not to sound negative at all, but to me this body is a temporary vehicle to explore the world before I return home, a vehicle that was gifted to me so I should treat it with care - I don't identify so heavily with it's 'flaws' anymore.

Psilocybin (magic mushrooms)
LSD (lysergic acid diethylamide)
DMT (N,N-Dimethyltryptamine) and Ayahuasca
Ketamine (dissociative anesthetic)
Salvinorin A (found in Salvia divinorum)
Ibogaine and Mescaline

>>130213
Have you never had a man validate you?

Why should your value be tied to your looks or approval from others?

>>130249
It doesn't have to be but some people will treat you like shit for refusing to play the game. You can make the personal decision to just not care what others think but it can be an alienating stance for people who aren't strong enough to deal with what comes after.