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¿What can I do if I'm in love with my proffesor? Anonymous 130854

First I need to clarify that I'm already eighteen, and that I'm not stupid enough to try anything (I don't want advice to flirt with a middle aged man who is starting to bald a little)
I don't want anything to happen. Even though I feel attracted towards him in a way that I have never felt towards any other man, I know that: A)I don't want to get raped. B)he won't notice me (if he's not a fucking pervert).
But I just NEED to hear it from someone who has been through the same situation. He's kind, walks around with his dog, is confident and well-spoken. GOD I have written a shit ton of poems for this guy.

He doesn't seem to be married or in a relationship, but in some ways, I feel like it's weird how his entire body language shifts when he's talking to a girl (am I going crazy?)

Anonymous 130855

Why are you in love with him? I don't want to presume but oftentimes people are in love only with an fantasy of someone, not the real person themselves.

Anonymous 130857

>>130855
Maybe it's just because I'm surrounded by disgusting moids, but idk, he's kind…
I sound stupid, Ik, but I really can't explain just how adorable he is when he talks to you. Although he's not really attractive,I can't stop thinking about him. I don't really have an actual mental image of him (other than him being kind) since I haven't had much interactions with him.
Fuck, I never thought I'd develop feelings for someone just because he's a decent human being.

Anonymous 130873

>>130857
He is not kind and half of the moids that you assume are disgusting are dating material. I know, it take time to discover a person, but I assure you there is more in life that speaking in a pleasant way.

If you talk to him at his place of work I am sure he wouldn't seem as pleasant and if you talked to the boys of your school outside of the mandatory activities and without a group, you would find that half of them are pleasant to be with.

Anonymous 130884

>>130873
>>130873
I get what you're trying to say. I do know boys my age who are decent and "dating material", but I simply do not care. Like I said, I don't want to try anything with him (or with any1), I need to know what to do with my feelings.

When I look up anecdotes about the subject, I find literal horror stories disguised as "romance". I want someone's real perspective without them trying to make it sound as some corny romance story.

Anonymous 130887

>>130873
>>130884
What? I am almost in my mid-20's and still find men around my age range to be insufferable. Imo, men don't start being tolerable until their late 20's, early 30's. I couldn't imagine being with an 18 or 20 year old. Now, I am not encouraging you to chase this guy. Instead, I think you should just focusing on figuring your life out, working on your career, and ensuring you can hold down the fort on your own. At this stage of your life, it is very easy to take advantage of you because you don't have much life experience. By the time you've got that all figured you, then you will have aged into being able to date the decent moids who have matured into acting like a human being.

Anonymous 130892

>>130887

Is an old moid
Clown behavior to say ancient moids are tolerable

Anonymous 130893

>>130892
>Late 20's/early 30's
>Ancient
In what world is that considered ancient? The terminally online world where a woman who is a hair above 25 is considered "a post-wall roastie"?

Anonymous 130895

>>130893
Expired moids is all you can get as a sub5

Anonymous 130897

>>130887
So you only tolerate men when they’re approaching the male pattern baldness stage of life? Interesting.

Anonymous 130898

>>130895
You still did not explain why you consider late 20's and early 30's moids "ancient."

Anonymous 130899

>>130897
That's what you get for picking moids with shitty genes. Do you go for moids with autism, too? Would probably more matched for a shotafucker because spergs have the mentality of a child.

Anonymous 130912

I'm a little tired of repeating myself, but I really want to clarify (once more) that I don't want anything to happen between me and him.
CAN SOMEONE TELL ME HOW DO I MAKE THESE FEELINGS GO AWAY INSTEAD OF FIGHTING EACHOTHER?!

Anonymous 131020

>>130912

Make a FODA listing all the reasons of why it would not work.

Emotionality is a reaction. React to the reasons it would not work.
Eventually you will start to feel the other way, disgust perhaps even.

Do not force feelings of disgust.

If possible, try to make the disgust for the idea of dating that man natural.

Men know when women like them and treat them better, if not, they use it to treat them badly to feel better.

Do not feel bad for men, if you do, you just will make yourself miserable. Adam was in charge, not eve. Men are not worth your energy.

Most men.

Anonymous 131027

>>131020
>>131020
You're right, noona. I have been thinking of this for the past three months and you have put into words a feeling I was never able to express. Thank you.

Anonymous 131162

>>131027

I am glad you can finally put your thoughts based on your sentimentalism, it is very hard to do so sometimes.

If you can, see about father-daughter relationships.

Older men, if they can see you as a "girl" or "daughter", if they are mature enough they will treat you more as a father figure and authority rather than "flirty" as most old men treat women.

Good men will treat you like a daughter if you treat them like you would treat your father if he was in their place.

That at least, has always worked for me. Old men always compare me to their own offspring, in some sort of way, if I treat them like that. Not in a flirty way.

I hope you can sort this out, have faith in your capacities nona xoxo


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