Wishing to be a normie Anonymous 132208
My cousin is so “normal” and I envy her sometimes, not really her life but how easily she seems to make decisions and stay kind of oblivious and content.
She has the career in corporate hell (based on her personality she’s the type to believe if you work hard you’ll get promoted even though this is rarely true), the husband (who is literally just a TikTok rage bait video at this point), the kid (who will likely grow up repeating the same cycle or check out of society), the house (poorly made in America, basically cardboard and always needs repairs), the car (expensive, pretty sure it’s like 80k), the vacations (they just go to hotels and say they visited that country).
All these things are good if it’s with the right people don’t get me wrong.
It seems like in the West, people either naturally fit into this kind of life and enjoy it, or they’re pressured into it and eventually learn to be fine. Then there’s everyone else, who they call losers, who are either too unstable health-wise or financially to deal with life, can’t give a shit because it’s all going to crap anyway, or stuck in the “should I or shouldn’t I” limbo.
I think I’m stuck in that limbo. This might sound crazy, but I think about just trying to fit the normal life to pass time because life is too long. Like my cousin will likely wake up one day divorced, doing gig work, fired from her job for daring to be older than 50, etc., but at least she’ll be 50-something and have spent those 20-something years doing something, unlike me who is essentially doing nothing.
I’ve chatted to some people online anonymously who’ve said they regretted doing the normie life. The grass is greener on the other side. I don’t think these people actually picture what they would be doing if they weren’t doing what they’re doing now.
Maybe I’ll marry an “incel”, adopt a kid, and hope my shitty mindset won’t be passed on.
But who am I kidding. I think you really need to be a bit oblivious and used to making “dumb” decisions to live life like this. I don’t think you can fake it, even though people say they are every day. I don’t really believe it, or maybe I’m just so lazy that I can’t even imagine faking it.
Anonymous 132211
>>132208Keep redditspacing and you'll be a normie in no time.
Anonymous 132212
>I don’t think you can fake it, even though people say they are every day
They don't want to accept that their life is who, and what, they actually are: that they put themselves there. People can't fake their way into this position: it has to be who they are. People aren't anything other than their own lives, they're not separate from it, and pretending they were sleepwalking all along is nothing but a coping mechanism.
If you think a normie lifestyle requires an obliviousness and contentment that you simply don't have on instinct, then wouldn't you go crazy trying to force this life? Don't bother thinking about it, it's not for you. You don't need to show anything for the amount of time you've lived, unless you're scared of being judged or pitied. That alone is a normie reason to bother having a family and mortgage. You would've done it by now, surely.
Anonymous 132214
I'd like to know what you consider to be abnormie (and what aspects of yourself you count as such) because it seems to me like you've set a pretty narrow definition. You could very reasonably expand your understanding of normie quite a bit, and perhaps that would include you.
I think you are not noticing, for example, the fact that you're a fluent typer who is reasonably articulate and doesn't type in an autism accent. Intelligent neurotypicals can recognise autism by typing style and discriminate thusly, and you either don't have it or are able to disguise that fact well, so congratulations either way.
