I fucked up again Anonymous 132606
Spent all night talking to a guy and made a commitment that I will struggle to keep.
Do I like him? Yes. Is he everything that I could want? Yes.
But it's ldr. I can't handle another ldr. I don't want to commit. Sure right now I feel like I could spend every evening and night on call with him but I won't always have that energy.
He was going to visit this october before I asked so I have to figure out how to say this before we end up doing anything and making it more difficult. Even if I explain this to him later he'll probably stop hanging out with me and some of our other friends probably will too. I don't understand why I'm so stupid and why I didn't think before I let this happen.
Anonymous 132607
>I feel like I could spend every evening and night on call with him but I won't always have that energy.
I'd like to think that nobody human can handle something like that. Let's say you spend 3 to 4 hours on phone, that's 21 to 28 hours per week which is basically a part-time job. Unless you're a NEET, nobody can handle something like that. There's also this constant pressure to perform. If he's everything that you could want, then he should also understand that you can't do a part-time job babysitting him every night.
Anonymous 132609
>>132607I don't think he's asking for that. If I told him I was really tired he'd just call me and talk me to sleep or just not call at all. He's understanding.
It's more like at some point I probably won't even have the energy to communicate at all for weeks.
Anonymous 132610
Report him and get his account banned
Anonymous 132624
Do you not have any common interests you could spend time doing together or side by side? I think the term's co-playing but its just two people doing their own thing together. So, example, you could be drawing and he could be playing a video game. You just hang out in a call and get to say "look at this cool thing" then show your art and talk about it a bit. Then later maybe he'll get to a cool part in his game and want to show you. Basically it is just "Lets do our own thing together and show each other the cool parts."
Anonymous 132634
Do you not have any common interests you could spend time doing together or side by side? I think the term's co-playing but its just two people doing their own thing together. So, example, you could be drawing and he could be playing a video game. You just hang out in a call and get to say "look at this cool thing" then show your art and talk about it a bit. Then later maybe he'll get to a cool part in his game and want to show you. Basically it is just "Lets do our own thing together and show each other the cool parts."
