autistic and undersocialized Anonymous 134066
I am frustrated by my autism, my poor socialization and my general naivete. I have only dated women for the past 15 years and hardly ever have to interact with men, and I consider myself lucky for it, but it also means I second guess myself a lot when do have to interact with them. Many years ago I had an awkward experience where a man hired me for a job but turned out to be interested in me instead. It took me a long time to realize this - like years after the job was over. I guess he realized I wasn't biting and backed off.
Now I'm getting into another job where I'd be working under a male acquaintance that I knew from when we were both young adults, and I'm scared that he might have ill intentions under the guise of a job offer. Or rather, that I don't have the experience with men and in the world in general to be able to interpret a man's intentions, especially when most conversations are in writing. But the few times we have met in person to discuss the job I feel like he stares too much at my cleavage and my body and I don't know if this is a normal man thing or a red flag.
What do i do s. I don't even know what my question is. are there any easy tells or signs to know where a man's friendly character ends and his ill intentions begin? am i being too paranoid? I'm not in a position to be refusing a job right now, especially as he's paying me three times as much per hour as my previous employer, and I won't find a rate anywhere near that good anywhere else.
